Would you e-mail him?

[FergieTCat]

I was browsing on my high school alumni site this morning and saw the e-mail address of an ex-boyfriend. He broke up with me 15 years ago, and as far as I know is married (last I heard 5 years ago). I haven't had contact with him since October 1987.

Part of me wants to e-mail him, and part of me thinks I should let it go.

What do you think? Shoot straight.

 

[Katie]

I guess that all depends on your situation?

Are you married? If so...how would you feel if your husband emailed his ex girlfiend? If I can't decide if what I want to do..it correct....I always think..if my dh did that would i be upset.

I would be upset if MY DH emailed an old girlfriend..but every relationship is different.

If you are single.....then I guess..it would be okay...but if he is married still....do you want to put a strain on that relationship?

What do you want to gain from the email??

 

[JAP]

Sounds like you want to E-mail him. What are your motives? If you just want to say hi and see how he is doing there should be no harm.

Good luck.

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

About a year ago, I E-mailed the guy who broke my heart in 1987. I was curious to know what had happened to him over the years, and I'm so glad I took that step. I did tell my husband that we had exchanged E-mails, and he's fine with that.

What's the worst thing that could happen? If he doesn't want to talk to you he won't respond.

 

[SeaShelley]

What would be your reason for contacting him? Maybe a "hey, how are ya?" message would be ok, but if you don't hear back from him I would just drop it. 1987 is a long time ago. People move on. It's kind of nice to hear from old friends, find out what they've been up to and give you an opportunity to do the same, but I wouldn't expect to start an e-mail exchange, especially with an ex.

Just my .02

 

[FergieTCat]

I was just curious to here how he's doing, but I am hesitant because I wouldn't want his wife get upset. And I wouldn't want to cause any problems.

Ironically, for a period of time, we did live within a mile of each other, and I went out of my way to avoid him. A mutual friend thought I was being an idiot, but as it were, the ex moved across the country and that solved that problem.

I was just wondering if I was making too much out of it, but I guess I'm not. E-mail is remaining unwritten and unsent.

Thanks!!

 

[wovenwonder]

I had a BF contact me after many, many years of not being in touch. It was nice to catch up and tell about our happy families. My hubby wasn't upset -- it was one 'hi how are you' phone call and that was all that became of our contact.