would you do it?

[PaddingtonBear]

You know, I always say "Never miss an opportunity to create resentment and sibling rivalry amongst the people that will have to work together to take care of you when you're old". So go ahead.

 

[jessica52877]

I wanted to clarify that I would not do it for potty training! But for a mommy and child weekend together. I always went different places then my brother growing up and we have no resentment towards each other. We both did fun things that were special without the other one along. I am surprised that more haven't had the same experience.

 

[LBelle]

I wanted to clarify that I would not do it for potty training! But for a mommy and child weekend together. I always went different places then my brother growing up and we have no resentment towards each other. We both did fun things that were special without the other one along. I am surprised that more haven't had the same experience.

'Experiences' are one thing.....4 or 5 night Disney vacations with only 1 of the children is a totally different story! Sure...my parent's may have taken me to see the ballet and my older brother to a football game but, come on....a vacation????? NOT anything close to being the same thing.

 

[Colleen27]

I wanted to clarify that I would not do it for potty training! But for a mommy and child weekend together. I always went different places then my brother growing up and we have no resentment towards each other. We both did fun things that were special without the other one along. I am surprised that more haven't had the same experience.

It surprises me a bit too. We've traveled with each of our older kids without the other, and I'm sure we'll travel with the baby without the big kids as she gets older too. There's no resentment involved. Still, I wouldn't take one child on a trip that the other would hate to miss.

For us, it has always been about differences in interest and age. DD doesn't mind missing the rafting trip up north or the weekend in the city for a football game, and DS has no interest in the trip to the botanical gardens, or the weekend in the city for a ballet, or an American Girl weekend in Chicago. With 10.5 years between my oldest & youngest, a very outdoorsy/sporty boy, a girly-girl, and one that's still too young to have interests, divide and conquer is sometimes the best approach.

 

[Mrs D]

Is Disney on Ice going to near you anytime this year? That's how I get my Disney fix in. Maybe that would be "princess" enough for you 2 y.o. and a special reward for her potty training success.

 

[PaddingtonBear]

Well, if the OP is planning to take the elder daughter to spend a weekend shopping in NYC, the eldest son to a mom -and-me time at whatever it is boys that age like to do and the middle child to the beach for a few days, then I might change my opinion. As its stated, though, where the baby gets to go to Disney for no good reason, and the older kids aren't getting multi-day mom-and-me trips, I think it will create hostility and resentment.

 

[kevschickee]

Sorry but I can't imagine how your other kids would feel. I would never just take one, wait until you can all go together.

I agree 100%

 

[LBelle]

It surprises me a bit too. We've traveled with each of our older kids without the other, and I'm sure we'll travel with the baby without the big kids as she gets older too. There's no resentment involved. Still, I wouldn't take one child on a trip that the other would hate to miss.

For us, it has always been about differences in interest and age. DD doesn't mind missing the rafting trip up north or the weekend in the city for a football game, and DS has no interest in the trip to the botanical gardens, or the weekend in the city for a ballet, or an American Girl weekend in Chicago. With 10.5 years between my oldest & youngest, a very outdoorsy/sporty boy, a girly-girl, and one that's still too young to have interests, divide and conquer is sometimes the best approach.

Totally agree with you!

I've been in the same boat, sort of, as you when it comes to our kids. I imagine it's even a bit harder for you since you have boys and girls. My 3 boys are 24, 21 and just turned 13. The older ones have 'endured' a few Disney trips for the benefit of the younger one and he has been "bored" confused3) at all-inclusive beach vacations. BUT...they ALL went. Just the 3 of us are going next month but that is only because the older guys are living away from home for school.

As for the OP, to each his own, obviously. I was just giving MY opinion.

 

[LBelle]

Well, if the OP is planning to take the elder daughter to spend a weekend shopping in NYC, the eldest son to a mom -and-me time at whatever it is boys that age like to do and the middle child to the beach for a few days, then I might change my opinion. As its stated, though, where the baby gets to go to Disney for no good reason, and the older kids aren't getting multi-day mom-and-me trips, I think it will create hostility and resentment.

BINGO!

 

[Metsfan520]

Um, yes, you should take her.

WITH THE REST OF THE FAMILY IN AUGUST 2010.

It's that simple. She's a two year old and really has no concept of time. I think what it boils down to is that YOU want to go this year, right?

I mean, you could spend the time between now and then building up the excitement for that trip with all of your children, not just the little one. Plus, think of all the money you could save between now and then to make the family trip an extra special one.

I'm sorry, but this seems to be a no-brainer. She potty-trained for pee only for three days? Great job, but not special-trip-to-Disney-worthy that is guaranteed to alienate the rest of the family.

NO!

I'm not one to really ever comment on threads like these but this one I can't hold back:

Personally, I don't know how you could ever do that to your other children. To even consider it after they have expressed how badly it would make them feel. It's not even like you have a 2 year old and then 3 kids, say, 14 years old and over! That's a different situation entirely.

Also.........For potty training???? Are you serious? Did all your kids get a Disney vacation for going potty???????????

She's 2 years old. She just went to Disney. She's going again next year. Believe me, she'll be just fine with that.

You have 4 children, not 1.

Sorry but I'm just keepin' it real.

What they said!

 

[kalc12345]

No way would I go to Disney with one child while leaving the others behind. That just isn't right!!

 

[frtchr]

I'm about to the point where I *would* promise DD a trip to Disney if she would potty train. I'm that desperate.

 

[ruadisneyfan2]

I'm about to the point where I *would* promise DD a trip to Disney if she would potty train. I'm that desperate.

good luck with that but she's still young. I would stress until around 3.5.

 

[LBelle]

I'm about to the point where I *would* promise DD a trip to Disney if she would potty train. I'm that desperate.

Go ahead! Tell her anything!!! The good thing for you is that, at potty learning ages, she won't really remember anything you've said to her!!!!

Just kidding...I know, some have the memories of elephants...they forget NOTHING!!!!

As for the potty training....don't worry. It'll happen eventually.

 

[ruadisneyfan2]

I'm about to the point where I *would* promise DD a trip to Disney if she would potty train. I'm that desperate.

My ped. recommended Hershey Kisses as a reward. Small, bite size, easy, worked great for my 2.

Of course our dentist nearly had a stroke to hear it...

 

[frtchr]

My ped. recommended Hershey Kisses as a reward. Small, bite size, easy, worked great for my 2.

Of course our dentist nearly had a stroke to hear it...

DD isn't interested in any kind of reward. I have become pretty Zen about it. I tend to worry about it only when other people act superior because their kids, who are younger than DD, are already trained.

 

[luvmyfam444]

I definitely wouldn't take just her - the other kids would hold it against you as she's the baby & the favorite - not worth it IMHO. Besides @ that rate you're not adding THAT much more 'cause of the great ticket prices. Go without the free dining & stay off property & take in a couple meals & maybe you an all go affordably - OR just wait til next year. She won't know that you promised the castle this year - you'll still go - just not now.

 

[PinkRhombus]

Just because of this???? No. No way.

But, at this age, rewards need to be immediate. Kids like something little...and if they need to do it a bunch, they like to see a chart of some sort where they can actually SEE how far they've come so far.

I would definitely do something more reasonable, like taking her to Dairy Queen.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Um, yes, you should take her.

WITH THE REST OF THE FAMILY IN AUGUST 2010.

It's that simple. She's a two year old and really has no concept of time. I think what it boils down to is that YOU want to go this year, right?

I mean, you could spend the time between now and then building up the excitement for that trip with all of your children, not just the little one. Plus, think of all the money you could save between now and then to make the family trip an extra special one.

I'm sorry, but this seems to be a no-brainer. She potty-trained for pee only for three days? Great job, but not special-trip-to-Disney-worthy that is guaranteed to alienate the rest of the family.

I agree with this. I wouldn't leave my kids home like that. They will never forget it. Trust me. When they are older what will you tell them when they ask why they didn't get a trip to WDW just for using the potty? I am assuming none of the others still wear diapers. I think it is a bad idea. If you really want to go then try to make extra money and squeeze in a short trip with everyone.

 

[KAMKIM]

Wow, well....how would you feel if your mother did that to you? I couldn't face my older daughter if I took any vacation with just her younger sister..