Would this cause you to end a friendship?

[vivilasvegas]

We have a mutual friend. I just found this out. He was moving and has a cat. The cat has a heart condition, but it can be controlled with medication and live a normal life. The cat is 5. This guy didn't want to deal with that, and since he was moving, put the cat to sleep!!!! He didn't even try to find a home for the kitty, in fact, one of us would have taken the cat. And why would a vet agree to that?

I'm so disgusted with him I can't speak to him right now. One of my friends said she can't be friends with him anymore, but I don't know if I'd go that far.

Would you be mad?

 

[rnd4life]

OMG! I can't think of anything else to say about it.

 

[disneylizzy]

Yeah, this would cause me to look at him with new eyes. I don't think I could forget about it. Poor kitty.

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

I would be beyond mad. Especially when there was someone willing to take the cat.

Honestly, I don't know if I could be friends with someone that sees the life of a companion animal to be disposable like that. He threw it away like common household garbage.

 

[Lisa L from MI]

That is awful!! Reminds me of my BIL a couple years ago...they got an Australian cattle dog (puppy) and after not even a year they put it down because it was biting everyones ankles all the time and wouldn't stop!!....I was so mad...still am that they didn't even attempt to find a home for it....and isn't that an instinct of sort for those kind of dogs??? Some people are just not mean't to be "owned by animals".....

 

[Laura]

Yeah, that would SERIOUSLY bug me too. Argh! Especially since the cat could be living with someone else right now. And why would a vet euthanize the cat, anway?

Some people...

 

[vivilasvegas]

That's what I'm thinking. It caused me to lose respect for him, and I don't want a close friendship with someone I can't respect.

I guess he was afraid to tell me, he was going to make up some lie about what happened.

Guess he confided in the wrong girl, 'cause she spread the news!

 

[Kahana-ri]

Wow, some people are just not animal people. I don't know if I would end a friendship over this, however my respect level would be much different.

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

You are better off without him.

 

[noseybuddy]

We have a mutual friend. I just found this out. He was moving and has a cat. The cat has a heart condition, but it can be controlled with medication and live a normal life. The cat is 5. This guy didn't want to deal with that, and since he was moving, put the cat to sleep!!!! He didn't even try to find a home for the kitty, in fact, one of us would have taken the cat. And why would a vet agree to that?

I'm so disgusted with him I can't speak to him right now. One of my friends said she can't be friends with him anymore, but I don't know if I'd go that far.

Would you be mad?

OMG can't believe I am reading this. I just had a friendship end back in February when my ex-friend and her husband put their dog to sleep. I saw it as them be lazy and not properly taking care of the dog, they saw a different reason for putting her to sleep. It make me sick. I haven't spoken to them since and they live right across the street from me. Eventually I might wave hi, but we could never be friends again. They are not the people I thought they were. A BIG disappointment.

 

[Alice's Mom]

I have my new cat because the person who owned her didn't have the time to look for a new owner and was going to put her to sleep. I had to step in and say give me the cat!

She was only about 10 months when I got her, I have lost all respect for this person as they treated this animal as if she were disposable.

I think you can tell a persons character by the way they treat animals.

 

[KimR]

See, I don't understand why a vet would agree to put a perfectly healthy animal to sleep either. Isn't that unethical (among other things!)?

 

[DVC Jen]

Freindship has to be based on respect. Do you still respect this person enough to be friends?

I am going through some major loss of respect/friendship issues with my best friend. It isn't easy.. very sad and painful.

 

[4greatboys]

That doesnt sound like the kind of person I would really want to call my friend.

 

[bballmom56]

I know my vet wouldn't do that. I've heard her say it.

 

[Chuck S]

I actually knew a woman who was moving and had 3 reasonably healthy dogs put to sleep. However, in the case of your friend with the cat, the cat was not in the best of health. Even though the conditon could be controlled with daily meds, the cat may also have added complications because of being relocated without the human companion. I'm sure it was not an easy decision for your friend to make (at least it wouldn't be for me). Unless you know all of his reasons, and if there were perhaps other, private circumstances that led to the decision, I'm not sure I'd judge him so harshly...if the poor cat would have been in better health I'd probably see it differently.

 

[mbw12]

My initail response from reading the original post was....nope....wouldn';t ruin a friendship for me at all. But after reading some of the replies...I admit, that it would change my opinion and respect level for that person. Still not sure it would ruin the whole friendship, tho......
good luck with dealing with your feelings. Have you spoken to him about it?

 

[LoveWDW]

First of all, make sure you have the right story- the friend who told you may have heard wrong- not likely, but you should make sure.

The vet may have decided that the cat's heart disorder made it logical to kill the cat.

I don't believe either of the ideas I tried to come up with to excuse the behavior, but I had to try. It makes me sad that he didn't try to find a home for the cat.
I would have doubts about continuing the friendship.

 

[Stacerita]

My sweetpea had a cat a few years back and just to say we aren't cat people. It was a hard couple of years with out buttercup. In the end we just couldn't keep her. For months we tried to find her a new home. But no luck. We finally sent her to the shelter. But for a fee (not a very small one, but it was resonable IMO) they would never put her to sleep. They would try to adopt her out. And if she never was adopted, she could live out her natural life at the shelter....because we paid the extra fee. It was worth it for us.

 

[vivilasvegas]

I actually knew a woman who was moving and had 3 reasonably healthy dogs put to sleep. However, in the case of your friend with the cat, the cat was not in the best of health. Even though the conditon could be controlled with daily meds, the cat may also have added complications because of being relocated without the human companion. I'm sure it was not an easy decision for your friend to make (at least it wouldn't be for me). Unless you know all of his reasons, and if there were perhaps other, private circumstances that led to the decision, I'm not sure I'd judge him so harshly...if the poor cat would have been in better health I'd probably see it differently.

I just don't see it that way. If the he couldn't deal with the cat, then he could have given it to one of us. He just wanted the easy way out.

And his new apartment allows pets.