Would this bother you- Facebook related Update post 69

[sunnyday123]

speeding doesn't give you a criminal record.. again.... facebook could be the ones to prosecute, not the husband

and facebook has nothing better to do than prosecute anyone who looks up their boyfriend/girlfriend or spouses account....

 

[MICKEY88]

and facebook has nothing better to do than prosecute anyone who looks up their boyfriend/girlfriend or spouses account....

again, regardless of that how is breaking the law morally better than what the husband is alleged to have done.. there is a big difference between looking up an account, and trying to illegally access it..

I guess I'm old school I was taught and in return taught my children, that a good person does the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not..

 

[The Mystery Machine]

speeding doesn't give you a criminal record.. again.... facebook could be the ones to prosecute, not the husband

I doubt FB is going to prosecute a wife trying to hack her husbands password.

That would be a PR nightmare for them. They would have everyone complaining to them.

Logically while I understand what you are saying, realistically it is not going to happen.

 

[ginna74]

This thread is being punked right?

 

[MICKEY88]

I doubt FB is going to prosecute a wife trying to hack her husbands password.

That would be a PR nightmare for them. They would have everyone complaining to them.

Logically while I understand what you are saying, realistically it is not going to happen.

and knowingly ignoring an attempted hack would be good PR,

who would complain, who would come forward and admit breaking the law...LOL

 

[OceanAnnie]

OP, any updates? Hope you are doing okay.

 

[MICKEY88]

Ok, here's a crazy thought, rather than breaking the law,,

why not send a friend request to the other woman, if the hubby did indeed create another account to talk to an ex girlfriend,, the ex girlfriend will tell him about the friend request, then the hubby will most likely blowhis cover..

 

[AllyandJack]

When I "broke into" my H's MySpace account, I did it right in front of him.

I did the "Forgot My Password" thing and had it e-mailed...shockingly, it was e-mailed to my H's phone e-mail (oh, but it wasn't HIM). I have access to that since I pay the bills online. When I log onto Sprint, I have access to check the e-mail. I got the password and entered it into MySpace and there he was - single, no less. It was also ironic that the MySpace screenname was nearly identical to the LavaLife profile that also wasn't him.

He stood right there and watched while I did it, turning paler and paler with each step.

I will say this, OP.....be prepared. If you think something you see would devastate you, you might be better off not doing it or just waiting a bit. By the time I discovered my H's internet activities, I was already over it. My 3rd DD was born in May and he wasn't allowed at the hospital when I delivered because I was done with him. I discovered his internet fun in July. So, I had a period of being over him before I found what I found. When I saw him messaging women that he looked at their pictures and they were hot and asking women if they were single and telling one woman who listed herself as divorced that her ex must have been out of his mind because she's beautiful, it didn't even bother me because I was already done with him (I was actually more annoyed that his chatline was charged to our phone bill - like I should have to pay for him to chat up other women).

If you're not prepared to see something along those lines, don't do it. You really have to mentally prepare yourself to find something shocking and upsetting.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Ok, here's a crazy thought, rather than breaking the law,,

why not send a friend request to the other woman, if the hubby did indeed create another account to talk to an ex girlfriend,, the ex girlfriend will tell him about the friend request, then the hubby will most likely blowhis cover..

There are many more ways to "bust him" and my dh agreed that hacking at this point is useless.

If she was going to "hack" she should have done it beforehand.

At this point all you do is watch and wait and monitor your finances. It always shows up in the money somewhere.

 

[teacups]

There are many more ways to "bust him" and my dh agreed that hacking at this point is useless.

If she was going to "hack" she should have done it beforehand.

At this point all you do is watch and wait and monitor your finances. It always shows up in the money somewhere.

OK ladies. Be honest. How many of you went to facebook and did seaches for your husbands? I DID!

(I'd confront the GF. Seriously, I'd contact her and ask HER whats up. If she's out to get him, she might tell you so.)

 

[The Mystery Machine]

OK ladies. Be honest. How many of you went to facebook and did seaches for your husbands? I DID!

(I'd confront the GF. Seriously, I'd contact her and ask HER whats up. If she's out to get him, she might tell you so.)

Well teacups, I am not on Facebook and it looks like I have to get on FB to look up people, right?

 

[ICF]

i think some of you have been watching too many movies on Lifetime....

 

[OceanAnnie]

When I "broke into" my H's MySpace account, I did it right in front of him.

I did the "Forgot My Password" thing and had it e-mailed...shockingly, it was e-mailed to my H's phone e-mail (oh, but it wasn't HIM). I have access to that since I pay the bills online. When I log onto Sprint, I have access to check the e-mail. I got the password and entered it into MySpace and there he was - single, no less. It was also ironic that the MySpace screenname was nearly identical to the LavaLife profile that also wasn't him.

He stood right there and watched while I did it, turning paler and paler with each step.

I will say this, OP.....be prepared. If you think something you see would devastate you, you might be better off not doing it or just waiting a bit. By the time I discovered my H's internet activities, I was already over it. My 3rd DD was born in May and he wasn't allowed at the hospital when I delivered because I was done with him. I discovered his internet fun in July. So, I had a period of being over him before I found what I found. When I saw him messaging women that he looked at their pictures and they were hot and asking women if they were single and telling one woman who listed herself as divorced that her ex must have been out of his mind because she's beautiful, it didn't even bother me because I was already done with him (I was actually more annoyed that his chatline was charged to our phone bill - like I should have to pay for him to chat up other women).

If you're not prepared to see something along those lines, don't do it. You really have to mentally prepare yourself to find something shocking and upsetting.

He was right there denying it as you went through that garbage. Ugh. That is so low.

I agree, don't pursue information if you aren't ready for anything. Give it time if you feel it's needed. Hope for the best. Prepare for the worst.

 

[teacups]

i think some of you have been watching too many movies on Lifetime....

I actually think the writers for Lifetime movies read the Dis!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I actually think the writers for Lifetime movies read the Dis!

Actually I think truth is stranger than fiction.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Actually I think truth is stranger than fiction.

Yes it is. Strange and sad.

 

[watersbland]

 

[luvestodizz]

He came home Friday and logged into his Mike account where his friend request was still there. I showed him the Michael page with the gf as the only friend. He again had no idea whose account that was. He sent a friend request to this Michael person and that was that.This morning I checked emails and Michael confirmed him and sent a message- in Spanish. It turns out Michael is in South America and is pleased to meet someone with the same surname. My DH does not have a common name and it is not Spanish sounding.So thats why I assumed it had to be him. He was working outside and I aplogized for "putting him through hell" all weekend. So the mystery is solveed but the old GF sure wants to reconnect. He does not- he made that clear to me.

 

[ohiomom28]

He came home Friday and logged into his Mike account where his friend request was still there. I showed him the Michael page with the gf as the only friend. He again had no idea whose account that was. He sent a friend request to this Michael person and that was that.This morning I checked emails and Michael confirmed him and sent a message- in Spanish. It turns out Michael is in South America and is pleased to meet someone with the same surname. My DH does not have a common name and it is not Spanish sounding.So thats why I assumed it had to be him. He was working outside and I aplogized for "putting him through hell" all weekend. So the mystery is solveed but the old GF sure wants to reconnect. He does not- he made that clear to me.

I'm so glad that everything turned out the way you wanted it! I'm sure you feel like a million bricks have been lifted off your shoulders!

 

[lillygator]

that is great news.

how long had this other person been a member? does your dh have pictures of himself on the account? kind of odd that the ex girlfriend didn't find both accounts on her search, bu maybe there was only the one when she joined.