Would it be weird

[Serena]

to go to a bar just to listen to live music? Alone?

I have never done it, but I am thinking about it. The thing is I don't drink much, and I don't smoke. I could invite my sister, but we really don't have much in common anymore.
I used to have several friends but that changed when I got divorced. Either they were his friends too, or they disapproved of the way I handled it. Yeah, I was supposed to fight harder and beat the crap out of the OW.
The girls that were in most my classes are old enough, but they all have young kids and I am old enough to be their mom.

I am tired of not doing anything. I have spent the last 2 years working and going to school and nothing else. I want to do something.

 

[happygirl]

Go have a great time.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

I don't think it would be weird. Good for you if you've got the courage to venture out on your own in that sort of environment.

 

[KandD]

I don't think it is weird at all! I think if you go with a positive attitude then you will probably have a great time!

 

[Mickeyistheman]

If I lived closer to you, heck I'd join you. I don't drink nor smoke but I love live music. There is a local band around here and I used to go all the time and drag many of my friends but times have changed and I have moved on from them...They drank to much and other things we did not agree on morally let's just say.

I am older now but still love the band and would love to go and see them so I Hear where you are coming from. I say go for it. Sit at the bar have a club soda with lime and chat some people up. Can't hurt

 

[Stacerita]

I say go for it. Go and have fun. I would say to sit at the bar and "make friends" with the Bartenders if possible. You don't have to drink if you don't want to. But make sure you are ordering something, and change it out for a water when needed or a soda. Not sure what area you will be in, but since you are going solo, be smart about where you park and if needed, get an escort to your car. Better safe you know. Also with making friends with the bartender, is that if someone bothers you when you are trying to enjoy the band, they can help you out if needed.

 

[SandrA9810]

well you won't get your own friends till you try.

And who says you have to buy a drink?? usually soda refills are free. who has to know you don't have alcohol in it. At least you'll be able to remember the night.

 

[MushyMushy]

Go and have fun! You might get more unwelcome advances from men if you're sitting alone, but as long as you can handle yourself, then who cares?

And go ahead and ask your younger friends! I have friends anywhere from in their mid-20s to mid-50s. I think once you reach a certain age, it doesn't matter what the age difference is.

 

[Serena]

I have done a lot of things that I had never done before since all this. I'm thinking this could be one of them. But yeah, I'm chicken.

 

[mtemm]

a friend of mine loves a site called meetup.com. she was able to connect to other women, as friends, for things like book clubs and running clubs, but also women who loved to go out and listen to live music at bars but were uncomfortable going alone. might be something to think about if you back out of going on your own.

have fun!

 

[Serena]

You are all helping. I may just have to do this.


Meetup.com? I will have to look into that too.

 

[Handbag Lady]

GO!

You know what else you can do? You can tell the barkeep that you don't drink and does she (or he) have any fun non-alcoholic cocktails to make for you.

This way, you can have a fun umbrella drink without booze and you'll have something more than just a coke to drink (and a reason to tip the barkeep for company!)

I use to be the designated driver for a lot of people. Try a virgin strawberry dacquri with extra whipped cream if you like sweets. Or a Rob Roy or a Shirley Temple.

 

[mrsmom]

I say go!! My dh plays in a band and i go almost every weekend and sit by myself and drink ice tea , i meet very nice and interesting people and have a great time.
Kim

 

[Tink888]

to go to a bar just to listen to live music? Alone?

I have never done it, but I am thinking about it. The thing is I don't drink much, and I don't smoke. I could invite my sister, but we really don't have much in common anymore.
I used to have several friends but that changed when I got divorced. Either they were his friends too, or they disapproved of the way I handled it. Yeah, I was supposed to fight harder and beat the crap out of the OW.
The girls that were in most my classes are old enough, but they all have young kids and I am old enough to be their mom.

I am tired of not doing anything. I have spent the last 2 years working and going to school and nothing else. I want to do something.

Not weird at all! Go and have fun and do the things you enjoy!

 

[krcit]

Go and enjoy. Just be careful-don't leave your drink unattended and try to park close by in the light.

 

[N&B'smom]

I hope you went and that you'll come back and give us the full report!

 

[browneyes106]

I don't think it's weird at all. I go out just to listen to live music every couple of months. I'm not a big drinker and sometimes I will have a beer or drink. My friend and her husband just recently moved back. My friend's DH and brother play in a band.

 

[Liann]

I think it's GREAT you want to go out and enjoy yourself again! You DESERVE it!!! Here are my tips.

First time go in JUST before the band starts playing. Sit at the bar and tip your bartender $20 after you order your non alky drink. Talk to the bartender and get to know him/her. That bartender SHOULD pay extra attention to you for the rest of the night hoping for another tip. The bartenders and wait staff KNOW the regulars and even are able to size up a newbie. You take care of them, they'll take care of you. All ya gotta do is ask.

If I were somewhere I didn't have any single friends my age I would find a singles support group in my area, find another chick similar in mind AND body then go to a club to have fun.

But in all honesty, if you have the balls to do this on your own I can't see a man worthy of your time not finding that attractive as H-E-double hockey sticks.

Go for it babe, be on the lookout for other ppl just like you

Network it BABY!!!

 

[RachelEllen]

Not wierd at all! I used to do this once or twice a month when I was living on my own after college.

 

[Cantw8]

I don't think it's weird at all, just not something I would be able to do. Believe it or not, I am horribly shy and I would feel so self conscious sitting there by myself I'm getting an anxiety attack just thinking about it It's on the list of fears I have that I need to overcome Please go...do it for me and all the other social wallflowers