World's Worst Mom!!! (Long!)

[GoofyPrincess]

I must be the world's worst mom. I tried to take my kids swimming this evening in our above-ground pool. My DH had asked me to take out the skimmer basket and empty it, so I went over to the far side of the pool first to do as he had asked. My 3 year old son followed me and wanted to "help". Having had a long day, I kind of snapped at him that he could help later and to wait a minute.

I pulled out the basket and it was full of fuzzy leaf-things, so I beat it against the railing to knock out the junk. Suddenly, I hear my son screaming bloody murder. I turn around to see him covered with wasps. When I hit the railing, I disturbed a wasp's nest and they flew out and attacked him!

Without even thinking, grabbed him with one arm and dipped him in the pool to get rid of any wasps that were still on him, then took him to the patio and stripped him naked. Of course, he's still screaming, now he's dripping wet and cold and I can see the welts starting to swell up on his head and hands. My daughter followed us into the house and started to cry too. What a disaster!

I gave him a shot of Benedryl and put some stuff on the welts. He's now sleeping and breathing fine, so I guess the worst is over, but I feel so horrible that I could just cry! Not only did I snap at him when he was trying to help me, I was the one that caused the attack! I just know that we're going to wind up on Jerry Springer as a deranged family!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Did you get the stingers out?

I hope your baby is ok.

 

[Shellie722]

{{{Hugs}}} hope your DS is felling better and you can't be the worst Mom b/c if you were you wouldn't care about what happened at all. Things happen and you didn't intend for your son to get stung so try not to be so hard on yourself.

 

[binny]

You are a great mom! a bad mom wouldnt care.

Hang in there.

 

[Microcell]

Originally posted by binny



You are a great mom! a bad mom wouldnt care.

Hang in there.

That is so true! At least you didn't throw your DS into the ceiling...

I was changing DS's diaper when he was 4wks old in a different place than usual, but I did my usual thing, changed his diaper and lifted him Waaaay over my head, and into a popcorn drop ceiling. He had popcorn pieces imbedded into his little baby head. I was sure I had killed him as I held him close, refusing to look at him running to my DH wailing the whole way the equivalent of 40 yards and he made no sound. Then the PRIMATIVE SCREAM came from the depths of his soul. He turned bright red and cried for about 10 minutes! We look bacvk fondly now at the "time I broke the boy".

 

[cati]

No, you are NOT the worst mom in the world. My MIL is.

Hope he is feeling better tonight.

 

[Cinderellafifi]

Poor little guy!! You are NOT a bad mom - you did not cause this and, heck, we all get snippy, even with our precious little ones. Try to have a good evening.

 

[Beth E. (NJ)]

Oh your poor son! You are not the worst mom in world, but you will make yourself feel that way for some time I'm afraid. I hope you son feels all better by tomorrow.

 

[bjgrazi]

You're not a bad Mom. The wasps were an accident We have all been there and most have probably done worse. I know I bangged my daughters head on a doorway when she was 8 weeks old. It was late, she wouldn't sleep and I was dead tired and misjudged the door way. Right there on the spot I thought I didn't deserve her and had no right raising a kid. She's now 15 and I contemplate giving her away(see teenage daughter thread).

If you didn't care then you'd be a bad parent. Look at it this way eventually they grow up and move away.

 

[krissy3483]

 

[decker96]

You are not a bad mom. Listen to what I did to DD6 when she was a baby. I always put her in her infant seat and brought her in the bathroom with me when I took a shower. This one time, she must have been about 3 months old, I brought her in, put the seat on the toilet and got into the shower. About 3 minutes later, I hear this huge bang, clunk and bloody murder scream from DD. I HAD FORGOTTEN TO BUCKLE HER INTO THE SEAT!!!! She had squirmed around, gotten to the bottom of the seat, it flipped forward and she and the seat fell in between the tub and the toilet!!! I grabbed her and ran into the bedroom and laid her on the bed positive I broke every bone in her little body. I called DH, hysterical crying on the phone, he thought someone died!!
Anyway, she was fine, just a little bump on the forehead. I felt so guilty for so long, I still do sometimes. I mean what the heck was I thinking putting the seat on the toilet, even if she had been buckled in? What's wrong with the floor?
All of us snap at our kids sometimes and it's not your fault there was a wasp's nest there. I think dipping him in the pool was very quick thinking. Hope he (and you!!) are feeling better tomorrow!

 

[Disneycrazymom]

You are NOT a bad Mom, just a mom thats had a bad day. Be sure to watch him closely tonight and by the morning he will only feel bad enough to give you the big, sad, eye look and talk you out of a new toy! Just for information my Dr says it is not a good idea to give benedril both orally and topicly as it can overdose them. (DD has a peanut allergy so I carry benedril everywhere.) I hope tomorrow is a better day for you both.

 

[sk!mom]

You're not a bad mom. You obviously care very much. I hope that your little one feels better soon.

Here's a mom to give you a run for your money in the worst mom catagory:

This past weekend my friend was supervising her little boy as he made a gift for his dad. He was using dad's tools and when it came time for the drill she said "It's too dangerous for an 8 year old, I'll drill the holes." As he held the board steady, she drilled a hole through the board and HIS THUMB. The Dr. reassured her that she missed the bone and there won't be any permenant damage but she too feels like the worst mom ever. And drills are dangerous if your mom's using it.

We've all been there- feeling like a terrible parent.

 

[isyne4u]

Tonight I was giving my 7 week old a bath in the big tub with just a little bit of water. I had him laying on his back to rinse him and then for some reason I turned him over on his stomach and laid him in the water...face first! I snatched him up quickly and boy did he scream. He was not happy at all. I came downstairs telling him how some people just shouldn't have children! (looking back i think I was probably thinking that since his ears didn't get into the water on his back then he would be fine on the front! )

You are not the worst mom and we all do things that build character in our kids!!

tara

 

[hipporina]

I may just be way overtired, but this thread is hilarious. I know everything must have felt horrible at the moment, but in retrospect, when the child is okay, it seems pretty funny. I guess its because I know I have done stuff like this with my kids before. I know, I sound terrible, but it really tickled my funny bone tonight.

 

[loozianalooza00]

aww... i hope your son feels better. i hate wasp stings. and like someone said... you are a great mom, a bad one wouldn't care.

 

[Kimberle]

awah, don't beat yourself up! You had no idea. I hop your both OK today.

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I agree, don't beat yourself up about it, Mommy guilt is very powerful, but that is what MAKES you a good mom, because you care! I hve done some crazy things as well. One was the day before Christmas eve, I was wrapping gifts and gave my DD (4 mo. old) some wrapping paper to play with, what in the WORLD was I thinking??? As I was writing an inscription in a book, she was putting it in her mouth, a little while later she is CHOKING! It was one of the scariest moments in my life, and boy did I have the guilt! But she is just fine and in fact LOVES anything wrapped in wrapping paper!

 

[NMAmy]

Originally posted by isyne4u
Tonight I was giving my 7 week old a bath in the big tub with just a little bit of water. I had him laying on his back to rinse him and then for some reason I turned him over on his stomach and laid him in the water...face first! I snatched him up quickly and boy did he scream. He was not happy at all. I came downstairs telling him how some people just shouldn't have children! (looking back i think I was probably thinking that since his ears didn't get into the water on his back then he would be fine on the front! )

You are not the worst mom and we all do things that build character in our kids!!

tara

Oh, my gosh! I'm so sorry but I found this so amusing I'm sitting here snorting at my desk! Well, at least his ears were dry!

And I think all moms qualify for the worst mom award at some point in time. Nobody's perfect and we've all accidentally hurt our kids at some point in time.

 

[mickeyboat]

When DD was very small, I had a really hard time getting her to sleep anywhere other than in or bed. She would fall asleep with me but awaken as soon as I laid her down in her cradle. I thought she might be cold, so I would put a heating pad in the cradle to warm up the sheets, and then take it out when I laid her down. One night I forgot to take the pad out, I woke up 30 minutes later to check on her and noticed the pad was still on. She was roasting and I knew I had hurt her. She was fine.

I also dropped both my kids on the floor while I was rocking them in the rocking chair. I fell asleep and they just fell off the edge.

I felt like a terrible mother. Thanks for sharing your stories. We all go through the same things.

Denae