Why is there always one (or more) rude speakers at a wedding? (vent)

[Lyn5]

It seems that at every wedding reception I attend, someone that gets up to speak and, whether it is a friend or family member, feels the need to critic the bride and/or groom. Why must they insult and embarress the couple on their happy day I just don't understand. In the last three weddings I attended there was:

1. A drunk sister of the bride that told one too many private details about the couple at their very religious wedding

2. Friends of the groom that kept insulting him and his height (he is a short person) and talked about some of the illegal things they did as teenagers (the groom in now in his early 30s and spent his early 20s "cleaning up"....he is doing great now and has a wonderful wife....WTH would someone bring up a dark moment from the past ) and made religious jokes that were in poor taste for the guest at the reception (older catholics who didn't appreciate a joke about the Pope )

3. The wedding I was at tonight, the host kept making fun of the bride's size and body type

Most of these weddings are for couples in their 30s and have a more mature guest list of parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents. I just don't understand why people think it is funny to insult someone on their wedding day.

 

[VSL]

Maybe to make themselves feel better?

The only weddings I've been to (I'm only 21!), the speeches have been of the 'gently tease' variety, but nothing outright mean/horrible.

 

[cinmell]

Wow, I haven't been to weddings with speakers like that. That stinks. I think maybe people have been drinking for a while and their good judgment goes out the window?

I have noticed at the past few weddings that I have gone to that the speeches take up quite a bit of time. It used to be that the groom would give a toast and that was it. For the past 2/3 years, the weddings I have been to have had speeches, not just toasts, from best man, maid of honor, parents, close friends. One wedding actually used up over 30 minutes for speeches and they were mainly "inside jokes or stories" so most people just sat there blank faced and didn't "get" what the speaker was talking about. I understand friends and family want to share special moments with the bride and groom at their wedding but they should limit what they say and be careful of what they say as well as consider that there are many other guests there as well. My brother went to a wedding a couple of weeks ago and the best man got up and talked about himself the whole time!

 

[grlpwrd]

Maybe because of being under the influence of alcohol...or just plain stupidity. lol

 

[annegal]

I've never experienced that, either.

 

[CharityLynn]

And this is why i didn't have alcohol at my wedding..sure that meant a couple of people didn't show up but that's ok, more cake for me! lol

 

[Miranda Danda]

And this is why i didn't have alcohol at my wedding..sure that meant a couple of people didn't show up but that's ok, more cake for me! lol

PREACH IT GIRL!!!! I'm not having any either
I don't want my crazy neighbor talking about me running around nekkid in the strawberry patch

 

[Shugardrawers]

I didn't have booze either. Instant idiot: just add alcohol!
That was my FIL later at dinner. Thankfully I didn't fork over the money for him to get drunk and act like an ***.

 

[juligrl]

Alcohol?

 

[LoraJ]

Maybe the groom did the same thing to these speakers at their weddings and it was payback time?

 

[Disney Doll]

I've been to weddings where there was more than one speaker, or more than one toast was given, and, while those folks got a bit long-winded, they didn't say anything terribly embarrassing or inappropriate.

The thing I never understand at weddings is why the bridal couple smashes their wedding cake into each other's faces? That part of the reception is supposed to signify the couple "nourishing" each other, and instead, let's smash the cake all over each other...how loving.

 

[clh2]

At a recent wedding, the best man admitted that he had never heard of such a speech, that they just aren't done in his part of the country. In his speech, he mentioned he had done research on line, and was pretty much disgusted that most he came across were pretty disgusting, and he was too much a gentle man to repeat most of what he read.

His speech was one of the funniest I have ever heard. He poked a little fun at the bride, because of the circumstances in how the bride and groom met. He also gave the bride some advice, as he knew the groom for about 20 years. The advice - lefty-loosey, righty-tighty, because as everyone loves the groom, he just isn't good with tools. He actually presented the bride with a screwdriver (the tool, not the drink.)

The other thing he mentioned in the speech - buy a really nice vaccuum. I don't remember how he tied this in, but he mentioned, the groom lets the chips fall where they may, and the groom isn't diligent about vacuuming them up. (The groom is a wood carver.)

The bride had been pretty quiet about how she met the groom, and they had been cross-country dating for about 8 or 9 years. So, no one really had any idea it was serious. So the insight of the best man was great.

 

[MAKmom]

I have NEVER seen this before at a wedding. Is it a regional thing?

 

[sajetto]

I have NEVER seen this before at a wedding. Is it a regional thing?

Same here. I've never been to a wedding yet where the speaker did anything other than being longwinded.

 

[Taylor]

I don't want my crazy neighbor talking about me running around nekkid in the strawberry patch

Tag fairy where are you?????

 

[Miranda Danda]

Tag fairy where are you?????

LoL!
OT, but I love your doggy- he looks like RoobyRoo (Scooby Doo in people talk)

 

[jekajekalynn]

Ok, am I the ONLY one who's first thought after reading this thread was The Wedding Singer where at the begining of the movie the best man (drunk off his *** ) makes a totally inapropriate (but hillarious ) speach?

 

[Stacerita]

Ok, am I the ONLY one who's first thought after reading this thread was The Wedding Singer where at the begining of the movie the best man (drunk off his *** ) makes a totally inapropriate (but hillarious ) speach?

One of the funniest "toast" I have ever seen.

I have seen quite a few where the speaker has been rude and crude to the couple. Its so inappropirate. There is a time and a place for that. Leave those stories for the bachelor/bachelorette party. And you should never over drink before you plan on speaking.

My best friend got married over the weekend and I had given the couple a toast. I spent a long time working on it. I wanted to make sure it was heartfelt and appropriate. That is was funny but sentimental. And I didn't want it to be one sided or long. Plus, I didn't want to have to many inside jokes that no one would get. I was able to make all that happen. Plus I limited myself to just a few drinks prior to me speaking. I know what can happen when you aren't incontrol of everything.

 

[princess pooh]

At my cousin's wedding one of his friends made a really long, stupid speech that included a lot of private/sexual stuff. It was then that I decided not to have any speeches at my own wedding. There are some things that I don't want my grandmother to know about me.

 

[RUDisney]

Last weekend, the groom's 2 brothers were best men. The first got up and had prepared notes. He had the entire reception in stitches. He didn't denegrade the bride or groom, and was very funny. The youngest brother gets up and says that he was trying to decide what to say when he came across a poem he wrote in 3rd grade about his brother. He read it as his toast.

Neither brother was long-winded, neither told stories that were off-color, but both will go down, in our minds, as having the best wedding speeches that we've heard to date.