I am sorry, you are correct that you did not imply that. It was the person you quoted who said "If you recline your seat though, don't think I am going to go nuts trying to keep her from disturbing you....." and I should have gone back and quoted her directly.
I still do not think any blame should be palced on the person who reclined back either. Personally, after one flight with the carseat I stopped using them on planes. My kids did fine sitting in the seat and as toddlers their feet did not reach the seat in front of them (even when reclined) if they could sit all the way back. I realize others feel teh seat is so much safer (I figure odds are HUGE that either you survive a crash or you don't, there is very little mid gorund in planes) or that their child behaves beter in the seat (I did not want to give mine the feeling they are in the car, where the rules are different and they can have music without headphones, sing loudly, etc. I wanted to do my best to make it clear that this was a different enviornemnt with different rules) and that is FINE too. But, still not the fault of the poor person in front of a toddler who is stuck choosing what is least comfortable to him (sitting up stragiht after a long day of flights or being kicked in the back after said long day)