Why does she hate to read? I don't get it......

[Nancyg56]

My kids are all adults now, but all three hated to read until they hit HS. ( The youngest still hates to read, he can't stay still long enough) Now my two oldest are avid readers, they just needed to have their interest cultivated. My DS was in a reading class and really disliked the teacher, (she was mine in HS so he thought she was older than dirt). Well, she needed to read the books her class chose, and he was choosing Steven King to annoy her. She played along, dreading his books each week, and now he is never without a book by his side.

My DGD is 5 YO, our school system introduces the reading principles in kindergarden, so my DD bought her poetry to listen to in the car when they drive. SHe loves this and they listen together. Then they read the book together. DGD likes to try to find the words as the poem is recited. Maybe making it fun is the answer.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

My 8 year old doesn't love to read either

Because of this, I sit with her during her reading time and sometimes I read a page and she reads a page - she really likes this Plus, I think it has helped her hearing me read because I put a lot of emphasis in my reading, and it's teaching her how to do this and not be a boring reader.

I think you have a good point and this is what I've done with my son. His reading time means sitting with me, with no distractions. No older brothers, no DISboards , no running off to run carpools, etc. So he's reading, but sitting next to me, sharing a blanket, normally with a cat next to us and a dog at our feet. It's afterschool when he's not too tired and he's not isolated from the family (which is easier for us because he's the youngest child and there aren't younger siblings distracting us like he used to do to his older brothers and sister). Then in the evening one of us (my DH or myself) reads to him--normally a couple chapters from a chapter book. So reading , whether it be listening or reading, is an enjoyable activity.

He does have a reading requirement at his school, but in first grade it's only 10 minutes a day, but he reads to us about 15 usually, depending on the day, plus whatever we read to him, so we are way over the requirement. And we don't have to track the exact minutes. He just writes down the book that he reads.

 

[RadioNate]

My DD8 does not struggle to read, she has great reading comprehension, she just does not want to read.

I used to love reading when I was her age. I couldn't wait to disappear into a story.

I have mandatory 30 minute reading time each night. She will go to her room, and when I go and check on her, she is asleep. I know she purposely falls asleep, to get out of reading.

Well, at least I know she is well rested.

ETA: I should mention she is not a TV zombie and rarely plays video games. She would rather do crafts all day or play with her dolls.

Sounds to me like a parental requirement not a school requirement. Maybe the OP will clarify.

 

[phisigprincess]

My sister was like that for a long time. We're a family of big time readers and she never really liked to read. Now that she's an adult she forever has a book in her hand, but most of the time she just didn't get into it like the rest of us did. Give her some time, she might come around.

 

[clutter]

I haven't read all the replies, but I've been through the same thing with my dd, now 9 1/2.

What I THINK it is/was was her fluidity in reading. She's a capable reader, reading above her level, and her comprehension was good. However, the books she enjoyed were a bit more challenging, and she can't read them fluently enough to really enjoy them.

Like others, I'd drop the mandatory reading. For the next bit, YOU read to HER. Really. My dd did her required reading for school, but she read books that were a bit easier. Then she got bored with them. Then we started reading books like The Penderwicks, a wildly fun tale. I read it out loud to her. She'd read a page, and she was capable, but it wasn't as much fun because she couldn't read ahead enough to capture the story as she read. Anyway, when she read, she read magazines and books that had already been read aloud at school. (She loved Kate DiCamillo.) But I don't think she read a book independently all summer. Well, 4th grade, she has to read two books a month on her reading level. The good news is that she's found books she likes and likes reading again.

Sorry to be so long, but I think she's probably reached a plateau, and it's time to reduce her stress level. If you want books in her life, read to her right now, until she's ready to take it up on her own again.

Good luck!

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

My DS12 struggles with fluency. I have found books on CD to be the answer for him. I also get the book, along with the CD, from the library. He has more AR points this year than ever before. Listening to the flow of the CD reader has also helped him when he reads to me. He is an auditory learner and this has made him a lover of books.

Lori

 

[JuliaEeyore]

I wonder if reading seems like a chore to your daughter? By making it mandatory you've taken all the fun out of it in her mind. Reading should be something she wants to do not something she has to do.

Agree. I HATED HATED HATED to read because my mother forced it on me. She was happiest devouring books, and tried to pass that love onto me. When I didn't get it, I was forced. Both by her, and by my teachers. We had those graphs with stickers up on the blackboards, and it was a competition to read... As I got older, we were forced to read chapters every night for quizzes the next day, on things like "What color was the character's shirt in Chapter 3?" I hated to read for DETAILS like that, just to prove I did my homework. I was a straight A student.

I'm 30 now, and I didn't actually start to love to read for FUN until I was 23 and out of school. Now I love it!

 

[JR6ooo4]

Well.... you have to read as a child. But overall it ruins your eyes. 98 out of 100 people who like to read must wear glasses. My personal study....


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