Why do people see butch women as being mean?

[SanFranciscan]

I think that we can judge a book by its cover. There is a softness about people who care about other people. Some people can be pegged for their attitude that the whole world can go to hell from a block away. I have crossed the street to avoid people with such body language.

That being said I believe that the assumption that "butches" are mean is pretty silly. Butch doesn't even have to mean lesbian. Describe a butch, and you may have just described four women on the corner who have husbands and are not sexually attracted to women. No matter what a woman's orientation, "soft butch" or "power femme" speaks volumes about that person's personality.

I did get frustrated with a couple of security guards at WDW in September during the search at the entrance, but it had nothing to do with anybody's haircut. I am a Type 1 diabetic. I want to be discreet about the fact that I am carrying syringes and needles. When security is not discreet with these things which they cannot legally deny to me, my feelings for them are far from soft. I had a new supervisor who did not understand walk in on me while I was injecting myself and gasp in horror months before I had to get my meter, insulin, etc. past the check point at WDW. Add in the fact that people are quick to assume that diabetics are over-weight people who bring the condition upon ourselves, even though I was treated for anorexia ten years before I got diagnosed with diabetes, in our fat-people hating society and you've got my point of sensitivity with "tough, through, security," which has nothing to do with hair.

 

[wdwpins]

Sexuality isn't a choice but hairstyle is.

 

[Dead Robot]

Sexuality isn't a choice but hairstyle is.

Not so. I went bald at 21. No pills, diet change, stress relief meditation, pleading to whatever deity, could stop it.

 

[wdwpins]

Not so. I went bald at 21. No pills, diet change, stress relief meditation, pleading to whatever deity, could stop it.

There are hair transplants and wigs.

My point was that for those who have hair, whether natural or artificial, hairstyle is a choice.

Many "hairy bears," who wouldn't even think for a second about shaving any part of their body, can contradict themselves and choose to shave their scalps, whether they're going bald or not. Many so-called "butch" lesbians can choose to wear their hair very, very short. In either case, it's a choice, unlike their sexuality.

 

[f86sabjf]

Never gave it much of a thought except that . That woman is very serious about something in her life, sports,career etc... If my wife could wear short hair and look good she would. We own a miata and her long hair is a pain on rides sometimes. In case your wondering the miata is mine ,not hers.

 

[Santi]

many people see feminine girls, as little princesses, and all that.
when a person sees a masculine girl, they probably think they're tough, and all GRRRR.
... though I'm kinda mean. so it's accurate.

it all goes with judging a book by it's cover.
people still haven't learned not to yet.