Who's crying from the Bachlorette?

[kamgen]

AMEN!
I have lost my respect and like for Meredith! If she knew all along, she should have never lead Matthew on....or kissed him with so much passion. From where I was sitting, from the beginning, I always saw her light up when she was with Matthew....with Ian, she always looked confused.....
She will look back someday and wonder...............

 

[danacara]

I informed JP that if and when the day ever comes, "will you?" is simply not a sufficient proposal.

 

[suzannen]

Originally posted by Jeafl
Well, I for one, an angry at the way Meredith led Matthew on.

Me, too! If she "knew all along" as she says, I think it was downright cruel to say to Matthew she would be "honored to have a ring from" him.

At first I was really mad, but this morning thought, Matthew is a such classy guy I actually believe now he's lucky he did NOT end up with Meredith. He will find someone who will love him the way he really deserves. He's my nomination for the next Bachelor!

 

[MickeysMommy]

I, too, totally agree that she led poor Matthew on. A vote for him to be the next bachelor! And, Ian gives me the creeps There is something about him that I just can't figure out - ick! Matthew was nothing but a gentleman and he will find his "one".

 

[Mainebound]

I have to chime in here -- I love Ian, I love that Meredith picked him. It doesn't matter how much someone loves you, if you don't love them back. Given Meredith's lifestyle and desires (modelling, food stylist, etc.) does anyone think she could be happy with that musclehead in Friendswood going to the movies and church every week? Give her New York City, travel, an educated intelligent worldly man -- the man she loves! Besides, even though Ian wasn't as verbal about his feelings, in my experience, sometimes the most outspoken, flowery, gushing guys are the ones you DON'T trust. I was so happy for them both. I can't wait to see the live show tonight!

 

[Pembo]

I didn't watch all the episodes but I did see last night. They definitely edited it to seem that she would pick Matthew! I just hope she answers the question why she told Matthew that she wanted a ring from him in the end. That was just MEAN if she knew she really wanted Ian.

Wonder how long until her ring is up on E-bay?

And I too was crying for Matthew. I want to marry him and I'm already married.

 

[CBRorBust]

informed JP that if and when the day ever comes, "will you?" is simply not a sufficient proposal.

I know that's right! I told my boyfriend the same thing. I'm just like...Will you WHAT?

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Face it, Ian left out the words "marry me" because he couldn't bring himself to say it. After that ridiculous "responsibility" speech, I was like, this guy is not going to settle down any time soon. He got caught up in the moment and probably felt pressure to "propose."

 

[disykat]

Okay, it is so weird how people read it differently. I definately thought it was clear she liked Ian from the start. I left the room for a while last night, so maybe I missed where she wanted a ring from Matthew. I heard her say she would be honored to be offered a ring.

I think she thought Matthew was great. I think she would have been "honored". When Matthew was going on about wishing he knew how she was feeling and she looked at him and said "you're a smart guy" I was thinking "come on Matthew, figure it out!" I felt like she did try to give him clues. Being under contract for a TV SHOW I'm sure she was obligated to give them both the impression that they were the one. She obviously felt bad about having to go through with the whole choosing scenario. I thought it was obvious she knew what she wanted when she was giving them some of the pat "I don't know what I'll do" footage.

I think every one of them is a little creepy just because they agreed to be on the tv show, but I was happy for Ian and Meredith last night.

 

[BHFan25]

I so agree with you, Miss Jasmine. That speech had red flags all over it. I think he felt pressure also. She would have been devasted if he hadn't given her a ring--she wanted a ring and made no bones about it. He is no more ready to settle down and be responsible than the man in the moon!

And what was with the little speech of "If I had known, I would have made more of an effort for you to meet my parents"??! I thought that little comment was horrible. I was shocked she took it the way she did. I am not sure what was up with that whole situation but it didn't seem to bother her so more power to her.

If she knew she was going to pick Ian, what WAS all that about with the "I can't choose" etc. etc.? Give me a break, Meredith. I hope Matthew asks the right questions tonight and WE get some answers. LOL

 

[hipporina]

This one just about ruined the whole Bachelor/Bachelorette series for me. I'm getting sick and tired of the way the editors are playing it. They cut it so that it looks like the "chooser" has this perfect connection and love with one person, but then it is always the other one that they choose. It isnt shocking anymore. I knew going into it she would pick Ian simply because it looked like she would pick Matthew. And of course, they had me rooting for Matthew. This show is more about heartbreak than it is about love.

As for her choice, it looked to me like she was more in love with the lifestyle she could have with Ian than she was with Ian. As a wife and mother of 2, I can see that a life without resposibility has its temptations, but I wouldn't sacrifice what I have for it. I think she made the right choice if she wants a temporary whirlwind of fun, passion, and adventure. But if she was looking for lifelong commitment and love, I think she sent it home.

 

[ckr]

Look out Dr. Phil!! Hipporina's got it RIGHT ON!!!

Good post!!!

 

[ead79]

originally posted by susy
"Can the soul really be satisfied with such 'polite' affections? To love is to burn, to be on fire"- from Sense and Sensibility.

As I recall from the movie, this character ended up settling down with the "sensible" man and finding true happiness with him. I think that Meredith will look back in a few years and wish she had picked someone with whom she can build a future. I just don't know how possible it is to live a whirlwind life for many years--I think that many people want to settle down eventually, and I'm not sure Ian is ready for that at all.


For my two cents about the show, I think that Meredith herself is not truly ready to settle down. I know she kept saying she was, but then she picked the "daring" guy. I think that deep down she wants adventure, not a marriage with kids and responsibility. Ian's zero responsibility comments shocked me, but obviously Meredith is in the same place as he is. I also think that Ian has major insecurity issues, but perhaps he will flourish in his relationship with her and outgrow them. I was also put off about how he wished he had made more effort for her to meet his family--that comment would have offended me had I been in her place. Not to mention I think that it's odd that he didn't want her to meet them (things that make you go hmmm). The proposal wasn't my idea of a proposal either, LOL! Oh well, I think that Matthew is looking for a different kind of woman that Meredith, and I think he will find one that makes him truly happy.

 

[dzneelvr]

I think Ian and Meredith are perfect for one another. Neither one can commit and each one is looking for the perfect scapegoat in order to continue in their nomadic way of life.

Mathew may not realize it yet, but he is the true winner. Meredith was NOT looking for stability in a relationship--she said she like adventure and chaos....ok, now let's see how much she really likes it after Ian leaves her high and dry in a few months. Ian's brother plays a huge role in his life and brother-dearest didn't like Meredith. End of story.

 

[Robinrs]

Eonline says at the end of this article that Matthew is being thrown around to be Bachelor #6 after the Football Player. I couldn't think of a better guy to play the part.

Oh, and yes, that "zero responsibility" line RUNG in my head, too!! If she wants that, and at one point some of us do, good for her. Frankly, I'd smack my kid for thinking he can get away with that!

 

[TigerBear]

I didn't watch the show last night, but I think Ian likely has some serious attachment issues. He may have been so overwhelmed by the fact that he was The One that he impulsively "proposed" in order to maintain his feelings of acceptance/belonging.

Did she make the wrong decision? For her, of course not. She obviously values what Ian brought to the table more than what Matt brought to the table. We can all think she is crazy, but it sounds like she made the right decision for herself.

Judging by what is happening on radio stations in Houston, Matthew is going to be snapped up mightily quick.

 

[accomp]

Originally posted by ead79
I was also put off about how he wished he had made more effort for her to meet his family--that comment would have offended me had I been in her place.

You were put off by the comment, while I was touched by it. What did you think was offensive about it?

 

[Mickey's sunshine]

Originally posted by hipporina
This one just about ruined the whole Bachelor/Bachelorette series for me. I'm getting sick and tired of the way the editors are playing it. They cut it so that it looks like the "chooser" has this perfect connection and love with one person, but then it is always the other one that they choose. It isnt shocking anymore. I knew going into it she would pick Ian simply because it looked like she would pick Matthew. And of course, they had me rooting for Matthew. This show is more about heartbreak than it is about love.

I could not agree with you more!! this is my first time watching one of these Bachelor/Bachelorette shows because I used to work nights for many years. This was the first one I was able to see in its entirety and boy I dont want to have to watch another one. I dont like how they make you get attached to the sweet perfect guy and then make you watch him get crushed. I felt sick for him last night - not a nice feeling.

I really hope Matthew gives Meredith some hard questions tonight, make her sweat a little!!

 

[ead79]

accomp, I guess I just felt that he was sort of saying that he wasn't sure that she/the relationship was worth the effort of bringing his parents to meet her before, but then he had a change of heart. It just struck me as strange, and I certainly don't know how he meant it. He could have meant it in a completely sweet way, I just don't understand him. I think it put me off that he didn't want his parents to meet her in the first place.

 

[Mickey's sunshine]

That is the way I took it too Elisabeth. Like he did not care enough what maybe a couple weeks previous. Oh and then when he said he knew from the day he walked in. Well if that was the case then why not have his parents meet her.....fool!