Well, keep in mind you cant do everything, you must plan time to stop and smell the roses!! Overplanning does indeed cause too much stress for the planner!!
Pick a pearl, dd 11 is hooked!! she picked a pearl in Japan, but found out that the DTD locations had more choices for settings - she became overwhelmed, and just kept the pearl, this year she went back, picked a pearl and setting...
We went with my parents, I had a huge vision for
MNSSHP - and it was too overblown with expectations - my parents left before Hallowishes - yet, it is still my mom's best WDW memories - as is my dad (I signed him up for Richard Petty's Driving experience, talk about 7th heavens!!)
Food and Wine its the food booths - its different, it draws people in, but with the kids, dd just loves the kid stations, getting her passport stamped - she also enjoys the "Conga" juice in Mexico - but lots of the outside booths, have the same offerings inside - for instance for Italy, Champagne, Rosa Regale, its a simple, sweet, berry tasting champagne, very talked about on the Dis for good reason, but you can go inside Italy and get a glass, with a free chocolate!!
Just take in the sites, but dont forget to take time to appreciate each other too!!!
Have fun planning, and I still recommend reading trip reports!!