Who has a non-disney spouse?

[bartleby1]

well, I think my DH gets the grumpy award, he has never been, and will never go. I have tried to entice him every way I can, showed all the videos, pics etc, to no avail. So I take the kids 6, almost 2, by myself and we have the most fun and I have precious memories with my children that he doesn't.
I won't let him keep me from going

Your post makes me so sad . Your DH is missing out on such beautiful memories and priceless experiences with his kids. I'm glad to see that you don't let it hold you back, but it is a true shame that he won't go, at least once, to share the experience. My dad worked a lot when I was a kid but we always took nice long vacations every year so at least I have some good memories of vacation. Now that we are grown, he regrets working so much because he missed out on a lot. Memories and time spent with your children mean everything!

Anyway, DH is kind of a take it or leave it type of guy when it comes to disney. I think it enjoys it more than he will admit to. Every year, I hear the "we're not going again this year" from him, but we have managed to get there 5 out of the past 6 summers, lol! One year his company sent him down (so of course we had to meet him there), and this past summer I really didn't think I could convince him but then I won a trip through a sweepstakes! Now, I'm already wondering how I can get him back next year, lol! I'm hoping for free dining... maybe that will help... I've already planted the seed of the possiblity for free dining, now I just need it to grow!

 

[dana1003]

About 8 months ago, DH and I were talking about places to vacation (DD's are 4 and 15 mos). He says "We should go to Disney every other year". I was floored! So, I start planning for next summer, start to ask him questions about where to stay, etc. He comes out with, "You're talking about it too much. By the time it gets here, it won't be exciting." Since then, I've learned that if I casually mention something or ask a question, he's there to give input. I limit "silly" questions, and come here to get the info I need. I see his point, but he knew when he married me that I really get into planning and am an excitable person

Thank goodness for this place. I've had so many questions answered here...questions I didn't even know I had!!!!!!

you know how they say somewhere you have a twin?? i think you and your spouse are me and mine!!! he says i talk about it too much also and he also knows i am the type of person that likes to plan and gets excited about vacations months from now. well, i think once we get there he'll have fun. plus my parents and brother are going so they'll be different people to talk to and this is also the first time we've ever done the dp .the food alone should change his mind

 

[mrsdeedee]

I went in 95 and now I'm going back in 7 days!!!! We now have children ages 10 and 5 always take road trips but I'm ready to start traveling with the kids so where else to go but Disney. It was supposed to be a surprise trip for the kids but since I didnt have anyone to share my excitment with I ended up telling them. Hes such a scrooge about it if I could i would leave him behind!!

 

[angelbaby29871]

i used to have one but i traded him in for a better model who loves WDW now that i hsown him how much fun it can be.

 

[highsmith]

My husband is not a Disney fan. We have a 13 month old daughter and he said he will go next year..."when she remembers that she went". I am taking her on Friday, with my mom and nanny and my mom's 7 year old grand-nephew (or something close to that). We are all thrilled and we go at least once a year!

My husband gauges Disney from when he was there in 1985 and was "too old" for everything!!!

I keep trying to convert him but it is s-l-o-w!

 

[sherriczyz]

I'm sorry to say this;but, that is what is wrong with todays kids. We have some friend who's kids are the same way and overweight. I hate to say that but it is true. And do not worry about your child, we two children DS(2) and DD(5) both have grown up going to disney and love it. Each ones first trip was at 6 months. DS has been 3 times and DD has been 5.

My friends kids are also very overweight. My DH and I felt terrible for the 4 days they were here because they didn't want to do anything (no beach, swimming, water park...it was hot in August!) or anything else for that matter. Not even mini-golf or the movies! The TV was on as soon as they opened their eyes. It was so sad! I'm 35 and remember "living" my summers outside. We were "stuck" staying in on those yucky rainy days.

As for my DD...thank you for sharing about your kids...sounds like they know how to have fun! The way childhood should be!!!

 

[Harvest02]

When I saw this thread, I just had to post!!! My DH HATES Disney! He went with us on our trip this past June, but he only went because my kids wanted him to. I did all the planning and he told me "Just tell me when I have to be there". He is not a big traveler anyway, and Disney is not his thing ! My kids and I had a great time when we were there, and we are planning another trip in October 2007 for the MNSSHP. My DS are 9 and 5 and are so into going back, but not sure if my DH will join us this next time or not. My dad or sister might join us instead, but if they don't, I will take them by myself. Sometimes I feel like it is better to just go alone with them instead of having another "child" along who just whines and complains the entire time we are there! I am trying to convert my DH, but I don't think it is going to be anytime soon. I went and bought the Unofficial Guide to Disney 2007 at Barnes and Noble the other day, and I was sitting in bed reading it. He asked me what I was reading and I told him "you don't want to know". I showed him anyway, and he said, "Oh my goodness! Don't you know everything there is about Disney? You have read everything there is!!!". Disney is definitely an addiction for some of us DIS'ers!!

 

[glavine47]

"Oh my goodness! Don't you know everything there is about Disney? :

Can we ever know everything about Disney?

 

[Mish]

My DH pretends not to like to go. But he has a great time. When we leave the airport as soon as we get in the car and start driving he is the first one saying "Are we there yet". We go every other year this way he can go someplace he likes too. But I know he is excited about our upcoming trip. When I get home and show everyone the pictures they always say your Dh looks like he is having a ball. I am also lucky because he would never tell DS(7) he can't go to Disney so when I want to really go I make DS go and ask.

 

[Cee]

My DH and I have been separated for years now, never divorced. We still go to Disney
together. We either meet there or fly down together. It's like we can't go there with
anybody else and we know it. What's up with THAT?

 

[twoeeyy]

We have gone a total of 6times since our 13 was born . We are gong again this oct for her 14th birthday. DH could care less about it, He goes because he wants to be with us but if he had his choice he would spen it at the track instead ( he races cars ).

My belief in his dislike of Disney is that he wanted to o real bad when he was 13 instead his ' horrible ' parents took him to AFRICA for 3 weeks , Well we we finally went on our honeymoon I think that he has all these 13yr old boy expectations and in his mind it did not live up to them. I am not sure why because I tell him he still acts like a 13yr old and he is 43 .

Now on the other hand he will go to Universal because of the front of line access. He says if we are spending all the $$$ than we better not stand in ANY lines .

 

[aldisneygrl]

My DH is not a Disney Fan. He just doesn't "get" it. He would rather be going to London for Fall Break, but he said he didn't mind going to WDW, since that is where the kids wanted to go.

He does get irritated if I talk too much Disney, but that is what y'all are for. Right?

Although, I think he is excited about seeing our DD on her first trip to WDW.

 

[julsmom]

My DH and I have been separated for years now, never divorced. We still go to Disney
together. We either meet there or fly down together. It's like we can't go there with
anybody else and we know it. What's up with THAT?

Count your blessings. You know what the other side of that coin could look like.

 

[julsmom]

DH isn't NOT a fan. He just doesn't feel it like I do. We go. We have a really good time. But I can tell he just doesn't get it. He just does it for me. Not a bad situation of course but I still wish he felt the same.

 

[DaisyD]

My DH isn't a fan. He will go if I insist and actually does enjoy WDW every few years. He just doesn't get it or why I would want to go for 4 weeks a year! Thankfully we worked it out and I get to go when I want and he stays home!

 

[julsmom]

My DH isn't a fan. He will go if I insist and actually does enjoy WDW every few years. He just doesn't get it or why I would want to go for 4 weeks a year! Thankfully we worked it out and I get to go when I want and he stays home!

I would love to work out a deal like that.

 

[dsnymomof4]

Thankfully, DH is just as big a Disney fan as I am - we love to talk about it and plan our next trip as soon as we return. However, DS13 has informed me that he doesn't like going to Disney so often (we've gone 5 times in past 5 years) and would rather spend a week at the beach! I was so upset, I grounded him from using the computer! Of course, once we get there, he always has a good time. Maybe its just a teenage thing. I hope he grows out of it!

 

[Tinkim]

My DH says every other year is enough for him. I did take the kids without DH two years ago and will be again this Feb. . . BUT I think he really likes WDW when he goes. We have had the kids friends over and he asks them if they like this ride or that show and he always tells them that Buzz Lightyear is the best ride period. He also likes Sea World so we always go there for two days (which is fine with me cuz I love Sea World too). So I guess he is a closet Disney fan.

 

[Tiffer]

My DH and I have been separated for years now, never divorced. We still go to Disney
together. We either meet there or fly down together. It's like we can't go there with
anybody else and we know it. What's up with THAT?

I can't speak for your relationship, but as for mine. Soon to be ex-H and I are still close. I would say we are great friends. I initiated the D, although we have been sep for 3 yrs.

It is more like a comfort, can't totally let go thing. And from my experience, it is very unhealthy. IT is hard, but I found that I must move on with my life.

 

[Wilsonfamily4]

Thank you, I needed to hear that. I thought my husband was excited about the trip but when I talk to him about it he is so tuned out. maybe I talk too much about it. I was starting to think he doesn't want to go. This will be our first time.