Who doesn't like weddings and showers?

[grinningghost]

Perhaps I'm the only one, but I really don't like going to showers (baby or bridal) or weddings. I just think they're so phony. I have a shower coming up and two weddings. I feel like I'm sentenced to the gas chamber. Please tell me I'm not the only one.

 

[Megan's Mom]

I don't mind the weddings as much as the showers. The older I get the less I like showers. The last one I went to we just kind of sat around and looked at each other. i would just rather send a gift and skip the party.

 

[JasonLyons]

hate going to weddings but love taking showers

 

[snoopy]

Love weddings, don't love showers. One shower is o.k., anything beyond that is so tacky. My cousin is getting married in June, so far I have been invited to 3 showers for her - one that the family is giving, one "lingerie" shower (excuse me, but what the ..... ????), and one bachelorette weekend that is going to cost the participants hundreds of dollars. I'll attend the family get together but won't be contributing to the sexy nightie fund, or the weekend of watching male strippers.

 

[2bemarried]

I just HAD to read this thread when I saw the topic. I think more than 2 showers is tacky. Why do you see weddings as phony? just curious.

 

[DonnaS]

I like weddings, but not showers as well.

I've been to some baby showers that I've enjoyed, but they included couples and most of us knew each other and it was almost like a little reunion. I hate the huge showers that are almost like mini-weddings in their scope.

 

[gumdrop]

I never felt comfortable at showers, BUT since my wedding shower is coming up, I don't think I'll mind too much I'm sure there will be some tortured guests there!

 

[JustHolly]

I strongly dislike weddings and showers and avoid them at all costs!

My friends and family have been strictly warned... no shower for me! I have to like weddings for a little while because I'm planning one.

I just don't like people to feel obligated to buy things, especially TWO gifts... one for a shower and then the wedding. We don't really need anything, and don't have room for anything, and I don't want people wasting their money on us. People think I'm nuts.... but does anybody but the guest of honor really have fun at showers?

Holly

 

[jamsmom]

I always mail a gift instead of attending a shower.

Weddings....well, they are kind of like funerals in many ways. I think it is because I think back to when I got married and all the hopes and dreams that died with the divorce. Plus, I cry to easily.

But, I will attend a wedding.

 

[jel0511]

Snoppy - I'm on the floor laughing SO hard at your post, I almost p****d in my pants!!!! I feel the same way at you do, when it was my SIL. She did the same thing, and I REFUSED to go to the other gatherings!! I'm not contributing for a shower ( I was in the wedding), buy an expensive gift, then be expected to buy MORE and then spend hundereds $$$$ more for a CRAZY weekend. I agree, as I get older and out of shower mode, I've been married for 8 years, and already had my baby shower, I despise them!!!!

 

[CamColt]

I enjoy weddings because for us, its a night out. We usually get a babysitter for the night and go out for a good meal, drinks and dancing with friends. However the next wedding we have is on a Sunday and my kids are invited. So much for a night out.

I try to avoid showers when I dont really know the person or if I dont feel obligated to go. But sometimes, like next weekend, I have to suck it up and go.

 

[browneyes]

If it's a close friend, I'm ok with weddings or showers. If it's someone that I don't know very well or aren't close friends with, I'm uncomfortable at both.

The only showers I've had for me were my 2 baby showers (for my ds and my dd). I was uncomfortable being the center of attention. I tried to NOT have a 2nd shower, but my SO's SIL insisted (she gave the first shower too).

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I like showers, but I am young and have realy not been to too many.

I am throwing a shower for SIL next year for the family. Her Maid of Honor is throwing one for her friends and I said I would gladly have one for the family.

My IL's are all really close and we get along very well so it should be fun! (I hope!)

 

[dizneenut]

I like weddings, and don't mind showers. I am the hostess of my future SIL's bridal shower next month!

 

[disykat]

I like both, but only if they are pretty casual. I don't like catered dinners, stuff like that. I enjoy going to a shower at someone's home or a church wedding with a small reception. "Ritzy" stuff I'd rather skip. If it seems like "a night out" rather than a way to support a friend - count me out.

 

[jan/cape]

I like going to weddings, but I HATE Showers! UGH!
I don't mind getting a gift, but what a waste of a day!

 

[katerkat]

I love both! But all my friends are doing it right now, so... I guess I would start to get annoyed if it were people I didn't really know.

And for the record, I had three showers. My sisters threw one in New Jersey, another bridesmaid threw a lingerie shower for our college friends (I was married a year after graduation) and my co-workers threw a surprise shower. The lingerie and NJ shower did have some guest overlap, but I made sure everyone knew that they were NOT expected to bring a gift to either shower, and definitely not to both!

 

[AMClvsMKY]

The last wedding shower I attended was very much like a wedding except the groom-to-be was the only man in attendance.
Way too formal for me. A nice house party for close friends and relatives would be my preference if I was in that position again.

 

[2bemarried]

katerkat......that's what seperates you from most though. As I'm sure you know....there are a LOT of brides that EXPECT two or three gifts from the same person. I just think it's ridiculous. Hell, I grew up here in the south where you only get ONE gift per couple...whether they attend the shower or not.
Just the way it goes...but marrying into a northern family has taught me alot of things. Like they expect open bars whether you're a drinker or not. I didn't accept that....they want open bar....they pay for it...not us!

 

[poohbear1029]

I think you'll find that even in the North -- open bar is not as common anymore...we didnt have one...too expensive...people who wouldnt ordinarly have 2 or 3 drinks do just because its free and then waste half the drink just leaving it on the table...big waste of $$$$


As for weddings and showers....love weddings...hate showers.....I dont mind giving gifts, etc, but it is so long and painful!!! Before my wedding I gave my Mom strick instructions.....NO DUMB GAMES!!! Have given 2 baby showers in last 6 months and my friends/SIL have loved it cause NO DUMB GAMES!!! We even orchestrated my friends so well that people complimented on how quickly we got all her gifts opened!!!

I'm a big ham and a goofball most of the time, but I felt really awkward at my shower sitting in front of everyone opening their gifts.....especially when I had to open RACEY see - thru lingerie from my future MIL in front of my 80 yo grandma!!! YIKES!!!