Which best describes your relationship with your spouse or SO?

[mommaU4]

Would it be "birds of a feather flock together"? Or, to quote Miss Paula Abdul, "opposites attract"?

For me and my DH it is definately opposites attract. We are so different in so many areas that it's amazing we are even able to be together!! One things for sure there's never a dull moment or conversation! Anyways we must be doing something right because we are still going strong.

But I was just curious about others? Are you and your spouse always on the same page? Does having different habits ever get in the way of your relationship? Do tell.

 

[Servants of Evan]

Birds of a feather. Considering we were raised in neighboring communities, it's frightening how similar our lives were -- parents bowled in the same leagues, learned to swim at the same 'Y', went many of the same places, etc. We finally met when we were 19...

 

[Michelle2]

That is a hard one to answer for me, because in many ways we are very similiar, and in many ways we are complete opposites!
And no, I do not think that different preferences come in between us, unless it insults the other person.
For a quick example, DH likes to watch "Lost" and "24", and I think he is nuts. I like to watch "CSI" and crime type shows and read true crime books and he thinks I am NUTS. But the good thing is that it is all superficial preferences, like any couple would have.
For the important things like goals for our family, and way of life, we are exactly on the same page...and to me, that is the most important thing.

 

[Aurora63]

It would be, "Opposites attract and then procede to drive each other crazy!!"

 

[Kahana-ri]

DH & I are soooo opposite! He reserved, quiet, too smart for his own good, into video games, computers, programs and music, he has a business that uses formulas, configurations, and concepts that are foreign to me. He knows every band and song and I can barely recognize people on the radio unless its in the Top Ten. I am smart too, just in a different way. I love people, just being around people and helping people anyway I can. I love doing social events and gatherings. I have a social work mentality. DH hates these things. I can't event figure out how to upload my pictures to my lap-top and DH had to create my myspace page. I love sushi and wine and DH would prefer pizza and soda. I'm into details, going all out during the holidays, and doing scrapbooks and pictures. I love girlie things and he's into tattoos and cars. We are so different, but that is probably why we have lasted together for ten years. I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else.

 

[dmslush]

We are polar opposites. I am a hick from TN, he is a Native Alaskan that has traveled the world in the Army. I am a social worker, he is a construction worker. The only real thing that we have in common is that we were both raised by single parents (him by his dad, me by my mom) and for some sick, depraved reason, we fill that parent void in one another. We just celebrated our 10th anniversary by him adopting my dd from a former marriage.

 

[KarenAylwood]

I'd have to say a little bit of both. We are different (hey, I couldn't live with myself so I ain't pickin someone like me!!) but we are very alike as well.

He's patient, I'm not. He could make friends with a chair, I'm more of a "once you get to know me" kind of gal. I like having "best friends" and have a close knit group of friends, he's good at being friends with anyone but not keeping up close relationships. I came from money, he came from the opposite. I have a very close relationship with my parents, he hasn't had a conversation with his dad in... probably 18-20 years (and he's only 24 ). I'm bad with money- he's a saver. I remember everything, he forgets everything.

But we find the same things funny- our sense of humor is my favorite thing about us. Neither of us are into sports (THANK HEAVEN) and we like doing the same kinds of things. We also live together very well because we find the same things important- like keeping the kitchen clean and organized but our bedroom is a mess

I don't know, we just fit together. It's fun having someone like you but not. I think I found the perfect balance

 

[Cass]

We are so opposite it is scary.

(shsssh don't tell anyone but he detests all things Disney)

he is English, I am Canadian
he is 15 years older
he hates to travel, where I LOVE to travel
he drinks, I rarely have a drink.. (maybe once a month, maybe)
he smokes, I detest smoking
he eats ''British Cuisine" like liver & tripe, (yuck)
he is into golf & race cars - I am into shopping/movies/disney
he hates shopping
he doen't like chocolate or any kind of sweet
I love to read and he has not picked up a book since grade school in the UK
I read instructions and keep manuals.. he 'wings it'
He used to be a race car driver and drives agressively while I cower near the airbag
I love science fiction/alien movies.. he detests anything 'not real'
He hates musicals.... I LOVE musicals and go all the time.
He drinks coffee.. I drink tea
He is tall and athletic, slim and has the butt of an 18year old
I am short (5 2") and my butt looks like it's been 18 - 3 times

 

[Kitty 34]

total opposites!!

 

[WDWLVR]

I'd say we are definately a mix. We have the same old fashioned values and we share a love of Disney. When it comes to TV we are vastly different. I love reality shows and he can't stand them and makes fun of them. He also reads a lot more than I do. He can got through 2-3 books in a week while I usually only read novels on vacation. Our differences are on minor things that don't get in the way of our relationship at all.

 

[rt2dz]

Other. We are very much alike in our core values and goals. But otherwise are different. We have VERY different backgrounds. We go about things differently. I'd say we are complimentary.

 

[Stitchfans]

opposites attracts for us.

granted we have a few things the same but not much

 

[DisneyJen0504]

In terms of our past and personality traits we are opposites attract. But we love to do the same things, go the same places, we have same interests and desires for the future making us also bird of a feather.....

 

[mannasn]

We have a love-hate relationship! No, really! We're nothing alike - opposites attract? LOL

 

[luv2nascar]

opposite in so many things but have similar views on so much. Its weird he's Mr. Spend it all and I'm Mrs. Frugal. It works for 11 years of marriage for us.

 

[Michie]

Other. We are very much alike in our core values and goals. But otherwise are different. We have VERY different backgrounds. We go about things differently. I'd say we are complimentary.

Same here. We come from very different backgrounds.

 

[ktpool]

OPPOSITE!

He can't stand being inside, I can't stand being outside. I love TV, he wishes we did'nt have one. I am technical, he is not. He is frugal, I am not. I am a native Florida girl, he is from the Midwest (notice where we live, haha). I travel a lot, he only likes to travel for hunting.

But, we both agree on how to raise our kids and what kind of life we want (at least for the next 20 years, until retirement!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

It would be, "Opposites attract and then procede to drive each other crazy!!"

You hit the nail on the head!!!


I'm the active, noisy, hyper one who is out to have a good time. My DH is the straight man (in more than one way ) who is more serious, quiet, not as social, etc. He sees a job that needs to be done and does it. I see a job that needs to be done and then go play with a cat.

 

[MinnyGranny62]

Havn't figured DH out yet even after 43 yrs. We are
so totally different but get along and growing old together.

 

[jimmalru80]

Core values - birds of a feather. Values in action - opposites. It has managed to work for 25 married years, and we were dating for 6 years earlier. That makes a total of 62 years; 31 for her and 31 for me!!