Where have courtesy and honor gone?

[DizBelle]

Maybe I'm being uber-pessimistic but I think I've had enough....

Why is it that no one shows common courtesy to anyone else anymore? Why is it that no one behaves honorably anymore?

Why is it so hard to let someone in front of you if they've had their signal on for over a mile and the next exit is coming up?

Why is it so hard to change the paper towel roll in the break room when you use the last paper towel?

Why is it so hard to let the person who was actually in line before you were go to the just opened cash register?

Why did the loan makers hoodwink people into taking loans they knew they wouldn't be able to pay back so they ended up losing their homes?

Why is it that no one seems to care about anybody but themselves these days? Don't they realize that this will make the world go down the toilet which will certainly affect them too?

 

[transparant]

Well...I don't think its gone completely. But it certainly ain't like it used to be.

 

[kellyg403]

I wonder these same questions sometimes. People will sometimes say its the way this generation is raised/being raised. My mom taught me to be courteous and kind to people, to go that little extra mile to make someone else day a little nicer at no cost to myself. I hope I have passed that on to my children.

I don't get any of it either. Maybe I just never noticed it before. Maybe its more prevelant than it used to be. I don't know the answer.

Kelly

 

[corndog]

One word: Anonymity

People don't feel the need to be courteous if they're never going to see you again. There's no accountability.

 

[Hercules10]

It's all Bush's fault.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

I don't think it is 100% gone thank goodness.

I will say one of the many reasons I fell in love with my DH is how courteous and honorable he truly is.....

I love that he makes it a point to say Good Morning, Afternoon, Evening.
I love that he holds doors opened offers to help neighbors, treats his mother in such a loving, respectful manner.
He honors the flag & understands what it stands for, he never takes the easy way out.

I do wonder how much is from attending a Military Academy & being in the Navy.

 

[BelleBoo&AmisMum]

It went away when people became judgmental of everyone and everything, when they question everyone else’s behavior and reasons for being without looking in the mirror. When we stopped being responsible for our own thoughts, words, and actions. When people decided that they didn't need to think for themselves, just do as you're told - by EVERYONE.

 

[mickeysgal]

Maybe I'm being uber-pessimistic but I think I've had enough....

Why is it that no one shows common courtesy to anyone else anymore? Why is it that no one behaves honorably anymore?

Why is it so hard to let someone in front of you if they've had their signal on for over a mile and the next exit is coming up?

Why is it so hard to change the paper towel roll in the break room when you use the last paper towel?

Why is it so hard to let the person who was actually in line before you were go to the just opened cash register?

Why did the loan makers hoodwink people into taking loans they knew they wouldn't be able to pay back so they ended up losing their homes?

Why is it that no one seems to care about anybody but themselves these days? Don't they realize that this will make the world go down the toilet which will certainly affect them too?

Because we've evolved into a me-me-me society with a it's-too-bad attitude.

We've lost accountability, personal responsibility, common sense, and basic rules of politeness.

We don't hear the word NO anymore. NO, you can't afford it. NO, you can't have it. NO, you can't do that. Everyone from full grown adults with a me-first attitude to parents being afraid to parent their children because their child might get upset. Everyone has to be a winner in life. Nowadays team members of children's sport teams have to have a personal trophy to show how special they are even though the team placed dead last in standings. There is no winning and losing anymore - everyone's a winner and is special. No work required to feel entitled.

We've gotten ourselves into a mess - financially and socially and we need to start acting more like adults and less like overgrown toddlers.

 

[MM27]

Why is it so hard to let the person who was actually in line before you were go to the just opened cash register?

I blame the cashier for this as much as the idiot that thinks they don't have to wait because they happen to run when the see a new cashier opening up. I worked in retail through high school and college and always said, "I'll take the next customer in line" and made sure that the next person made their way over. If someone else ran into the line I would say "this person was next".

 

[Abbie]

I guess I think 99% is perception and how you are feeling on any given day. I have days when I think the rest of the world stinks and on those days I notice more slights like you're describing. But most days I notice people being kind! I think it's a choice to take note and be grateful for little courtesies. For example, driving my DS to football practice there is a three way stop with heavy traffic coming in with the right of way. Not once, but twice the other day another driver gave up his turn to wave me through. I think it's important to tuck these little kindnesses away in your memory bank for those "other" days when everyone else is being kind of jerky!

 

[RNMOM]

I feel the same way the OP does.

I think it is due to the "entitlement" way of raising kids these past couple decades. Of course, kids learn from their parents and on and on. I have tried to teach my children differently but it has been a battle.

I am very polite and always aware of what is going on around me. I just think it is part of being a good person.

 

[fhtpdw20]

I think it is because technology has reduced everyone to a nameless, faceless number so you don't have to be accoutable for your actions. The first thing you are asked is "what is your account number, employee id, or social security number. In retail setting, it is take a number. A family name or personal reputation mean little anymore.

 

[SetzKitten]

We've lost accountability, personal responsibility, common sense, and basic rules of politeness.

I'm not sure we've lost it as much as it has been taken from us. If you're in an accident you know is your fault, you're not "allowed" to admit it, apologize, or anything for fear of being sued. It's so sad. Zero tolerance took any form of common sense and stomped it into the ground. Who thinks up this junk? We're so concerned about political correctness, yet we're as rude and obnoxious as ever. Go figure.