When you see yourself being talked about in a thread...

[MushyMushy]

do you stop to think about your behavior and try to change it, or do you just think to yourself, "What a jerk!" about the poster and continue with your evil ways?

(thinking about the Christmas card vents, Happy Holidays/Merry Christmas rants, shopping cart corral nightmares, and things of that nature -- please feel free to add your own)

 

[mirthmaiden]

I am 99% unaffected by things that annonymous people on a message board say.

 

[JESW]

Over the years there have been many posts on these boards that have made me stop and think. Some of them have even helped me see another side of things and try to change my behavior or my way of thinking. There are just more of them that make me shake my head and wonder how some people ever get through their days without getting offended or upset by everything around them. The one that gets me every time that is Disney related is how people get upset if mousekeeping doesn't leave them any towel animals...

Jill

 

[coles1mom]

Someone talking about me in a thread.

Thanks for noticing me

Judi

I usually just kill the thread and move on.

 

[Acklander]

I can't think of one time where I have changed how I've thought, or how I've acted because of a post on a message board.
To be honest, I've always been a laid back, go with the flow type of person; and until reading message boards such as this one, I never realized how much other people analyzed and picked apart the actions of others.
While I was well aware that other people did things differently/raised kids differently/spent money differently/looked at politics differently/etc... than I did, I always just chalked that up to - we're all different people with different experiences, that have brought us to different places in our lives. Never in a million years did I suspect that some people considered me wrong/rude/tacky/offensive or whatever just because I didn't do things exactly the way they did. It has truly been an education.
People are all different, but the one thing we all have in common is we all just want to be accepted for who we are. And that's a fair enough request. I've always tried to accept people for exactly who they are - I'm amazed at their gifts, and share their sorrow as they deal with their challenges and just love them for who they are, warts and all. Sure, some people can be extra challenging - I just consider that the entertainment factor; but one thing I've learned by accepting people for exactly who they are, is that over time, as they get to know me, they do the same for me. And that is probably the best feeling in the world. Tolerance is a beautiful thing, isn't it?

 

[I'mNoPrince]

It has no effect on me either.

But it doesn't bother me IRL either so maybe thats it.

I try to do the right thing on a daily basis but hey I'm human and normally am just giving my opinion so take it at that and nothing more.

 

[DawnCt1]

When I see a post "elsewhere", either about myself or about someone from the Dis that is very disparaging, I am stunned by the level of middle school behavior exhibited in the tone, language and vitriol by posters that I would have assumed would have been "above that". I think that type of gossip is vicious, even on a message board.

 

[terri01p]

Whenever I first got on here back in 2002 I really let a thread bug me out it was about children in wheelchairs and it really hit home to me because I have a dd in a wheelchair the person was down right rude, after about three day I found out I was going back and forth with a "just turned " 15 year old...

After that I simple let it go because I knew she was in a different world than I was, you never really know who's on the other side of the computer..sadly enough.

 

[zeroed]

The number one thing to remember about internet message boards is that they are on the internet and the internet isn't real life. Some people will get carried away with anything and take things too personally. I've found these people to be about half a step away from dressing as elves and throwing bags of sand at each other in the woods whilst yelling, "Two damage."

Just have fun on the web and don't take it or yourself too seriously.

 

[clarabelle]

When I see a post "elsewhere", either about myself or about someone from the Dis that is very disparaging, I am stunned by the level of middle school behavior exhibited in the tone, language and vitriol by posters that I would have assumed would have been "above that". I think that type of gossip is vicious, even on a message board.

I thought mushy meant impersonal rants. If you see a rant about a behavior that you engage in -like re using refillable mugs -does that make you change your behavior.

 

[va32h]

I am a reformed shopping cart abandoner. Until I read the threads here, I never realized how much that irritates people. So I take my cart back to the corral every time, rain or shine.

 

[bicker]

I am 99% unaffected by things that annonymous people on a message board say.

(Regarding personal rants --> ) Agreed. Generally, I view such things as reflections of the attacker's frustration with not being able to have an un-rebutted soap-box for their own perspective. Instead of keeping to the topic and trying to better support their own perspective, they resort to ad hominem attacks. It is certainly something you shouldn't give a second thought to.

 

[Disney Doll]

I am 99% unaffected by things that annonymous people on a message board say.

Add another 1% and I agree with mirthmaiden.

 

[bicker]

I thought mushy meant impersonal rants. If you see a rant about a behavior that you engage in -like re using refillable mugs -does that make you change your behavior.

(Regarding impersonal rants --> ) When possible, I boil it back to, "What was I explicitly promised and what did I promise in return? - versus - What am I doing?" If what I'm doing is supported by that agreement, then I don't change my behavior. If what I'm doing violates that agreement, then I do change my behavior.

When it is more of a interpretative thing, I re-evaluate. The ranting of someone online would never govern my actions, but it might get me to think the issue through again, and see if I'd continue making the same decision about how to behave. Sometimes that results in a change; sometimes not.

 

[Cantw8]

I am a reformed shopping cart abandoner. Until I read the threads here, I never realized how much that irritates people. So I take my cart back to the corral every time, rain or shine.

me too, I never used to give it a second thought

 

[JunieJay]

Depends on the person talking about me. There are DISers who I would take very seriously if they were to offer constructive advice.....call it an instinctive thing, but I think I have a good idea who really has my best interests at heart and who wants to just rag on me in an anonymous forum.

One thing I have learned from this forum is how differently people communicate. Sometimes its hard to differentiate if the person just wants to participate in a pile-on versus someone who just doesn't sugar coat things but is giving advice from the heart. Obviously I'm not perfect, so if I feel the advice is from the heart - even if its rather blunt in its delivery - I'll take it to heart.

 

[bicker]

(Regarding shopping cart corrals --> ) Like just about everything, I believe there are shades of grey here. If a corral isn't provided, clearly then I won't bring the cart back to the corral. If there is a corral provided, then I consider whether it is reasonably placed for my use. For example, I won't incur any personal danger (walking across a busy cross-lane of traffic) to return a cart -- it was dangerous enough to walk across the busy cross-lane to get to my car, so I won't incur that danger again, especially when placement of an additional corral would resolve the danger. Remember, we are each obligated to mitigate our own risks. By the same token, if there is a corral in my lane, I would always return the cart to it. Always.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I'm pretty easy going, but when I see a behavior I do being criticized I think about it & if I see value in the criticism I'll try & modify my behavior, however, if I personally see nothing wrong with the behavior I just think how interesting that some people actually care how others do things. Life's too short for me to worry about that kind of stuff.

The discussions on the CB sure do make me think sometimes... or laugh out loud.

 

[MushyMushy]

I can't think of one time where I have changed how I've thought, or how I've acted because of a post on a message board.
To be honest, I've always been a laid back, go with the flow type of person; and until reading message boards such as this one, I never realized how much other people analyzed and picked apart the actions of others.
While I was well aware that other people did things differently/raised kids differently/spent money differently/looked at politics differently/etc... than I did, I always just chalked that up to - we're all different people with different experiences, that have brought us to different places in our lives. Never in a million years did I suspect that some people considered me wrong/rude/tacky/offensive or whatever just because I didn't do things exactly the way they did. It has truly been an education.
People are all different, but the one thing we all have in common is we all just want to be accepted for who we are. And that's a fair enough request. I've always tried to accept people for exactly who they are - I'm amazed at their gifts, and share their sorrow as they deal with their challenges and just love them for who they are, warts and all. Sure, some people can be extra challenging - I just consider that the entertainment factor; but one thing I've learned by accepting people for exactly who they are, is that over time, as they get to know me, they do the same for me. And that is probably the best feeling in the world. Tolerance is a beautiful thing, isn't it?

Wow, that is such an awesome post! My husband takes the same attitude in life. I love that he's so easy going, but sometimes I have to ask him -- isn't there anything that ticks you off that people do??? Yeah, of course there is, but he just doesn't let it get to him enough to blow off steam over it.

When I see a post "elsewhere", either about myself or about someone from the Dis that is very disparaging, I am stunned by the level of middle school behavior exhibited in the tone, language and vitriol by posters that I would have assumed would have been "above that". I think that type of gossip is vicious, even on a message board.

Oh yeah. But that's a whole nuther story from what I was talking about. But I hear ya.

I am a reformed shopping cart abandoner. Until I read the threads here, I never realized how much that irritates people. So I take my cart back to the corral every time, rain or shine.

I had you in mind when I started this thread, so I'm glad you chimed in.

Most of the things I do that I've ever seen complained about aren't so unanimously agreed upon like that. Or it's one of those other things where you're danged if you do and danged if you don't, so I don't bother to change my actions.

 

[va32h]

I had you in mind when I started this thread, so I'm glad you chimed in.

Oh crap. What other threads are about me?