When did I end up back in high school?

[TLinden16]

I was wondering if anyone can tell me how at the age of 31 I ended up back in high school? I work in a small office, and it's very cliquey. Now, I have never been one to change the way I dress, look, or act to fit in with a group. A couple of my co-workers have been really upset because they've been excluded from parties after work (where as I take the attitude that if people exclude me from something, they probably aren't people I really want to be around anyways). It's really getting quite comical.

One of the women I work with has made a big deal about how hurt she is when she is excluded. For months I've been listening to her complain about how she doesn't like that people don't invite her to things. Well, she's worked her way into the "in crowd" by being a gossip hound (I have several scars from all the times she's stabbed me in the back), and she got invited to go out with the "cool kids" last week. Maybe she'll get to go on a date with captain of the football team next week! Seriously, this woman is 40 something years old. Isn't she a bit old for that?

I could go on for another ten paragraphs, and not get into everything going on. I'll spare you all that boredom.

But if any of you can let me know how I ended up back in high school, please let me know. I guess I should be happy because at least I'm getting paid for going to high school this time.

Karen

 

[aunt lissa]

Is it high school or a soap? I personally don't watch all the daytime soaps as I have one of my own (my life!)

 

[poohandwendy]

Actually , you never left...you just made the incorrect assumption that people grow up...well, SOME do...but the really bad ones never do...

Like you, I refuse to participate. Watching people play the same stupid HS games is sometimes amusing...but most of the time it is just plain annoying!

 

[FreshTressa]

Yup, it never ends!!!

It is just that you get wise and realize that being "in" isn't such a big deal afterall.

I'm glad at least YOU are a grown up!!!

 

[JESW]

Sorry to hear that! When I was working I remember it being like that - that's why I preferred to work with the guys. Our neighborhood is kinda like that...the "popular" ones..eh, can't be bothered.

Good luck!

Jill

 

[KathyFP]

I am glad that my office isn't like that.

You are doing the right thing. Go to work, do your job and then go home to the DIS boards

 

[powellrj]

LOL isn't it amazing how some people just never grow -up! Sometimes it gets lonely when you work out in the field, but when I read posts about office problems, I remember that there are worst things in life than being a little lonely. Good-luck

 

[winniedapooh]

And here I was thinking it may be a good thing to come out from behind the closed door once in a while, lol.....NOT! Seriously my job requires a lot of along time and I ammmmm sssoooooo glad that I do not have to deal with cliques at work, ugh! I am way too old for that stuff.

 

[TLinden16]

There are definitely good days and bad days around here. I'm just glad that I'm not the type of person who lets it bother me like some of my coworkers. It really just makes me laugh. I'd rather have a handful of really good friends than a bunch of hangers on.

The funniest is when they start talking about each other behind their backs. They can be sooooooo mean.

Karen

 

[caitycaity]

tlinden, i think you must work in my office!

 

[debster812]

caitycaity,

I was just thinking the same thing, and since we are both in Massachusetts, I am about to go through our email address book and see if there are any Karens in my office. Maybe I'll find a new office pal

 

[WeirdEyes]

I work with a bunch of men and LOVE IT! I do miss the female companionship from time to time though. I have one really good friend who works with me so that is good. Our office isn't very cliqueish (sp?) anyway. I have worked in places like that though and it is horrible. I usually always get along with everyone, but for some reason, people are just mean and will stab you in the back for no reason. Glad I don't have to deal with that any more. Good luck!

 

[Christine]

Well, I kind of have the reverse situation in my office.

I am almost 40 (egads) and I *still* socialize and there are plenty of things that I still like to do at this ripe old age!!!! Just had to get that in--you're never to old to want to be *in* if that's what you're about.

Anyway, on to my office story. I have heard through the office grapevine that some of my co-workers are jealous or envious of what they perceive to be a "clique" that I am in. Now I have been working in this job for 15 years. Along the way, I have picked up a few really good friends. At one time, we all worked closely together. Some of us have now moved onto other jobs, while some have stayed. We get together and lunch regularly and have been doing this for years. Over these years, a few comments have made by some about "not being allowed in the lunch crowd." I just roll my eyes! I mean, good God, you can't be invited to every group that exists. What the hell is wrong with having a small group of friends--as long as it is innocent and not hurting anyone--who cares. We talk only personal stuff about our families and our weekend happenings, etc. We don't bash anyone from the office, nor do we flaunt our relationship. There are other groups within my office and I'm certainly not offended that I'm not "in" with them.

Of course, not everyone acts this way, just a few. But they are enough to sour my day!

Just recently, my boss asked me to host the company picnic at my house. We work at a place where there are many different contractors working on the same project. Our company is one of five companies on a project. So for this picnic, employees of our company, ex-employees, clients, and some key people in the other companies were invited. One guy on the floor, who is an absolute idiot, found out about it, got upset, and left for the day because he wasn't invited and thought no one "liked" him. Now, not one person from his company was invited. It would have been weird to invite him. He just really wanted to be included.

I am now hosting a luncheon for same idiot because he is on my project. No one really cares for him because he is obnoxius and has stabbed a few people in the back over the years, but a lot of people are going because, as I have been told, I am hosting it and some of these people want to lunch with me. I am just astounded at the mentality. And as I write this post, it almost sickens me because I feel like I'm some mean cheerleader out of a "Carrie" movie or something. I just go to lunch with my same 4 friends year after year. How the hell did all this happen? Bottom line, people are strange and lonely I think.

 

[Margie J]

Finally I am free to post after the Junior High bell rang and I got to go home. I can sure relate. Do you happen to work with me?

We have had many situation here that are so juvenile. I joke with people about earning my PhD in Psychology by working where I do. Some of the stories are unbelievable.

The latest was a guy who flirted with many women at work. He'd focus on each one for about 6-8 months. At the point where you thought he might ask you out he cooled things down and moved on, doing the same thing with someone else. Well, his behavior caused a major problem recently when one woman took him seriously. I guess she must have thought this guy was her boyfriend 'cause she threw a "nutty" on me one day. I was talking with another man in the hallway and this woman came over to invite him to lunch. He declined and then she walked away, not asking me if I'd like to have lunch (mind you, she had made plans with me the day before). So, I asked her where she was going, she told me, giggling, and continued to walk away. I shot back "ok, don't ask me". At that she got all crazy and ran back to her room. I followed her and she was already complaining to others that "the flirt" had asked her and another guy out to lunch, blah, blah, blah. I reminded her that we had made plans for lunch the day before and I was expecting to go out. Then she told me she'd have to ask "the flirt" first if I could go. The answer was yes, I went to lunch (the flirt, this woman, another guy and me) and she didn't talk at all. She was all pissed that I went along.

After that encounter, I went to a party for a mutual friend of "the flirt" and myself. The nutcase woman from work had not been invited. Anyway, the party was fun and I didn't mention a word of it at work. The nutcase found out somehow and didn't speak to me for days. Finally, she walked up to me in the hallway and asked me if I'd gone to the party. All I said was "yes, it was fun." The nutcase walked away, looking dejected. I was like, whatever.

You'd think she would have given up and gotten the hint by then. OH NO!!!!!!!!!!!! A group of us went out to dinner and she sat, all huffy, at one end of the table away from "the flirt". When dinner ended she literally jumped all over him at the first opportunity. He was trying to brush her off and finally walked away with two buddies. Her behavior was so desperate and crazy. To top it off, she went home with another male co-worker that night! Crazy woman!

We've also had our share of gossips, a** kissers, married people trying to relive their single days, cliques and a love triangle to boot. I won't get into major details about the love triangle now. One classic line that came from the ex was "if he just wants to sleep with someone why can't it be me?"

I not so fondly referred to this place as the "Wheel of Misfortune" a few years ago.

 

[Margie J]

Finally I am free to post after the Junior High bell rang and I got to go home. I can sure relate. Do you happen to work with me?

We have had many situation here that are so juvenile. I joke with people about earning my PhD in Psychology by working where I do. Some of the stories are unbelievable.

The latest was a guy who flirted with many women at work. He'd focus on each one for about 6-8 months. At the point where you thought he might ask you out he cooled things down and moved on, doing the same thing with someone else. Well, his behavior caused a major problem recently when one woman took him seriously. I guess she must have thought this guy was her boyfriend 'cause she threw a "nutty" on me one day. I was talking with another man in the hallway and this woman came over to invite him to lunch. He declined and then she walked away, not asking me if I'd like to have lunch (mind you, she had made plans with me the day before). So, I asked her where she was going, she told me, giggling, and continued to walk away. I shot back "ok, don't ask me". At that she got all crazy and ran back to her room. I followed her and she was already complaining to others that "the flirt" had asked her and another guy out to lunch, blah, blah, blah. I reminded her that we had made plans for lunch the day before and I was expecting to go out. Then she told me she'd have to ask "the flirt" first if I could go. The answer was yes, I went to lunch (the flirt, this woman, another guy and me) and she didn't talk at all. She was all pissed that I went along.

After that encounter, I went to a party for a mutual friend of "the flirt" and myself. The nutcase woman from work had not been invited. Anyway, the party was fun and I didn't mention a word of it at work. The nutcase found out somehow and didn't speak to me for days. Finally, she walked up to me in the hallway and asked me if I'd gone to the party. All I said was "yes, it was fun." The nutcase walked away, looking dejected. I was like, whatever.

You'd think she would have given up and gotten the hint by then. OH NO!!!!!!!!!!!! A group of us went out to dinner and she sat, all huffy, at one end of the table away from "the flirt". When dinner ended she literally jumped all over him at the first opportunity. He was trying to brush her off and finally walked away with two buddies. Her behavior was so desperate and crazy. To top it off, she went home with another male co-worker that night! Crazy woman!

We've also had our share of gossips, a** kissers, married people trying to relive their single days, cliques and a love triangle to boot. I won't get into major details about the love triangle now. One classic line that came from the ex was "if he just wants to sleep with someone why can't it be me?"

I not so fondly referred to this place as the "Wheel of Misfortune" a few years ago.

 

[Margie J]

Finally I am free to post after the Junior High bell rang and I got to go home. I can sure relate. Do you happen to work with me?

We have had many situation here that are so juvenile. I joke with people about earning my PhD in Psychology by working where I do. Some of the stories are unbelievable.

The latest was a guy who flirted with many women at work. He'd focus on each one for about 6-8 months. At the point where you thought he might ask you out he cooled things down and moved on, doing the same thing with someone else. Well, his behavior caused a major problem recently when one woman took him seriously. I guess she must have thought this guy was her boyfriend 'cause she threw a "nutty" on me one day. I was talking with another man in the hallway and this woman came over to invite him to lunch. He declined and then she walked away, not asking me if I'd like to have lunch (mind you, she had made plans with me the day before). So, I asked her where she was going, she told me, giggling, and continued to walk away. I shot back "ok, don't ask me". At that she got all crazy and ran back to her room. I followed her and she was already complaining to others that "the flirt" had asked her and another guy out to lunch, blah, blah, blah. I reminded her that we had made plans for lunch the day before and I was expecting to go out. Then she told me she'd have to ask "the flirt" first if I could go. The answer was yes, I went to lunch (the flirt, this woman, another guy and me) and she didn't talk at all. She was all pissed that I went along.

After that encounter, I went to a party for a mutual friend of "the flirt" and myself. The nutcase woman from work had not been invited. Anyway, the party was fun and I didn't mention a word of it at work. The nutcase found out somehow and didn't speak to me for days. Finally, she walked up to me in the hallway and asked me if I'd gone to the party. All I said was "yes, it was fun." The nutcase walked away, looking dejected. I was like, whatever.

You'd think she would have given up and gotten the hint by then. OH NO!!!!!!!!!!!! A group of us went out to dinner and she sat, all huffy, at one end of the table away from "the flirt". When dinner ended she literally jumped all over him at the first opportunity. He was trying to brush her off and finally walked away with two buddies. Her behavior was so desperate and crazy. To top it off, she went home with another male co-worker that night! Crazy woman!

We've also had our share of gossips, a** kissers, married people trying to relive their single days, cliques and a love triangle to boot. I won't get into major details about the love triangle now. One classic line that came from the ex was "if he just wants to sleep with someone why can't it be me?"

I not so fondly referred to this place as the "Wheel of Misfortune" a few years ago.

 

[Margie J]

Finally I am free to post after the Junior High bell rang and I got to go home. I can sure relate. Do you happen to work with me?

We have had many situation here that are so juvenile. I joke with people about earning my PhD in Psychology by working where I do. Some of the stories are unbelievable.

The latest was a guy who flirted with many women at work. He'd focus on each one for about 6-8 months. At the point where you thought he might ask you out he cooled things down and moved on, doing the same thing with someone else. Well, his behavior caused a major problem recently when one woman took him seriously. I guess she must have thought this guy was her boyfriend 'cause she threw a "nutty" on me one day. I was talking with another man in the hallway and this woman came over to invite him to lunch. He declined and then she walked away, not asking me if I'd like to have lunch (mind you, she had made plans with me the day before). So, I asked her where she was going, she told me, giggling, and continued to walk away. I shot back "ok, don't ask me". At that she got all crazy and ran back to her room. I followed her and she was already complaining to others that "the flirt" had asked her and another guy out to lunch, blah, blah, blah. I reminded her that we had made plans for lunch the day before and I was expecting to go out. Then she told me she'd have to ask "the flirt" first if I could go. The answer was yes, I went to lunch (the flirt, this woman, another guy and me) and she didn't talk at all. She was all pissed that I went along.

After that encounter, I went to a party for a mutual friend of "the flirt" and myself. The nutcase woman from work had not been invited. Anyway, the party was fun and I didn't mention a word of it at work. The nutcase found out somehow and didn't speak to me for days. Finally, she walked up to me in the hallway and asked me if I'd gone to the party. All I said was "yes, it was fun." The nutcase walked away, looking dejected. I was like, whatever.

You'd think she would have given up and gotten the hint by then. OH NO!!!!!!!!!!!! A group of us went out to dinner and she sat, all huffy, at one end of the table away from "the flirt". When dinner ended she literally jumped all over him at the first opportunity. He was trying to brush her off and finally walked away with two buddies. Her behavior was so desperate and crazy. To top it off, she went home with another male co-worker that night! Crazy woman!

We've also had our share of gossips, a** kissers, married people trying to relive their single days, cliques and a love triangle to boot. I won't get into major details about the love triangle now. One classic line that came from the ex was "if he just wants to sleep with someone why can't it be me?"

I not so fondly referred to this place as the "Wheel of Misfortune" a few years ago.

 

[Margie J]

Bump!

Sorry for the multiple posts. Something weird happened with the boards last night and I can't delete the extras.

 

[TLinden16]

Originally posted by Margie J
Bump!

Sorry for the multiple posts. Something weird happened with the boards last night and I can't delete the extras.

That's OK, Margie. Some stories are worth reading several times Yes, the boards were acting crazy last night.

Thanks for sharing. I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who works in high school.

Karen