What's your take on this email?

[Danvers]

 

[Serena]

face.to.face.meeting.....

 

[Danvers]

face.to.face.meeting.....

I'm still confused on why she sent me an email, and didn't call....

 

[Blondy876]

It does sound a bit awkward. Maybe she was giving you an easy out just in case you wanted your sister to be the MOH instead?

 

[Danvers]

It does sound a bit awkward. Maybe she was giving you an easy out just in case you wanted your sister to be the MOH instead?

It's a possibility...but it's awful bad timing. The wedding is a little over a month away, and yesterday was everyone's fittings...

 

[disykat]

Maybe her mother is pressuring her to step down to let your sister have the honor? I had several people ask me in an almost scolding tone if I was having my sister. "You're having your sister be your MOH aren't you?" Fortunately I was, but it really made me wonder what people go through who don't.

 

[TigerBear]

Is your sister going to be in the wedding? Is there a difference in their dresses?

 

[Nancy]

I don't see a problem with NOT having your sister. I was my friends MOH and her sister (who she was and still is clsoe to) was a bridesmaid.


Not sure why she sent the e-mail, maybe she has been wondering but didn;t know just how to ask you. I would call her and tell her why you did noy ask your sister. and also let her know she doesn't have to do the toast. (I thought the best man did that?)

 

[Serena]

i.think.she's.just.giving.you.an.out.if.you.want.it.......an.email.is.the.easiest.way.to.do.that.....it.spares.anyone.embarrassing.moments.

but.i'd.want.to.see.her.before.deciding.anything.

 

[the kabuki]

i.think.she's.just.giving.you.an.out.if.you.want.it.......an.email.is.the.easiest.way.to.do.that.....it.spares.anyone.embarrassing.moments.

but.i'd.want.to.see.her.before.deciding.anything.

I take it the space bar is still shutting off the computer?

 

[aprilgail2]

I would just pick up the phone and talk to her...not sure why she would think she would have to make a toast though..out of all the weddings I have been to its only the best man that stands up and does the toast. never a MOH or bridesmaid...but again, perhaps thats a regional thing...

 

[Serena]

I take it the space bar is still shutting off the computer?

yeah..

 

[disney4us2002]

Well, I'm a traditionalist so I would've asked my sister if I had one, lol. My best friend from age 13 was my MOH but I wasn't surprised that she asked her sister to be her MOH when the time came. Is it possible that she feels awkward or picked up a vibe from your sister or your side of the family at the fittings?

 

[luvthatduke]

If I understand this, the email came from your MIL's
but was written by your MOH?
My gut reaction was that they had a conversation
about you and the arrangements,
and either your MOH was influence by your MIL to ask you,
or your MOH has been uncomfortable and your MIL
encouraged her to let you know - JMHO.
I do agree the email was inappropriate,
a phone call would have been much better.

 

[Beauty]

I would make totally sure that she doesn't want out herself. I would hate for your wedding to get any closer and then she change her mind on you. I definately think a one on one meeting is in order. You need someone you can depend on.

 

[Pagan Moon]

hmm is there any way that maybe your mom or sister or someone else on your side of the family had a "friendly chat" with your future in law side of the family?? I'm just guessing, maybe someone said something to the future in laws and now they my be feeling a little guilty and giving you an easy way to change your mind???

good luck !!!

PS.. I was a maid of honor to my best friend and she has 3 sisters and she only asked 1 to be in the wedding party.. i don't see anything wrong with not having family, it is YOUR wedding..you choose...

 

[NCDisneyMom]

Just another thought, for what it's worth. Perhaps she emailed instead of calling because she didn't want to put you in an awkward position. She might feel that if she called, you would feel pressured to answer on the spot, and say "No, of course I want you as my MOH", when in reality you might be regretting not asking your sister instead. This way, she gave you time to think about it, before reacting on the spot. I would definitely follow-up with a phone call to her, though. My other thought was, as others have stated, that maybe she doesn't want to be MOH anymore, and is trying to get out of it gracefully. Of course, I could be totally off on both thoughts.

 

[TigerBear]

If your sister is a bridesmaid it could easily be her way of giving you an easy out as others have said. If your sister is not a a bridesmaid I am not really sure what to think of her comments given how close your wedding is. I hope all will work out.