whatever happened to....

[coolbeans]

PLEASE and THANK YOU....

are they really that outdated?? I have a friend that just totally refuses to use those two phrases.. period.

the other week I took her a huge bag of glass jars that she wanted to use for a party, her response.."cool"

it wasnt' like they cost anything but I did clean them, take off the labels and stuff.. they looked awesome (if I don't say so myself!)..

 

[Feralpeg]

Every time she misses a thank you, I'd say a really obvious YOUR WELCOME.

 

[Stacerita]

I don't get why some people don't say please and thank you. Its easy to say/do, and can mean a lot. I make sure my DD and my nephews when they are with me use please and thank you all the time. It goes a long way. Heck, I even use it in the drive thru.

 

[RunningGirl]

People actually seem surprised when I say please and thank you. Very sad!

 

[coolbeans]

People actually seem surprised when I say please and thank you. Very sad!

me tooooooo, i say thank you a lot.. i love to hear it, so i say it.. i always think it's just good manners

 

[RunningGirl]

It's amazing how easy it is to brighten someone's day by saying "thank you". The grocery bagger, the ticket taker, the bus boy ... all those people who tend to be invisible when you're in a hurry. Whenever I run a road race I thank every volunteer who's out there handing out water or directing runners on the course.

 

[Where'sPiglet?]

I say thank you all the time too.

Someone told me since I use it all the time, it doesn't mean anything when I say it.

 

[Disneylover79]

I have to agree with this subject as well.... I say please and thank you every chance I get... I too say it in the drive through....I am also a nurse and a simple thank you goes a long way...and it makes my day sometimes....

 

[2binak]

We have a 20 month old and at 14 months old, she was correctly using "please" and "thank you" and by 15 months old, she was correctly using "you're welcome". We're always getting positive comments about her politeness from her daycare teachers, waiters/waitresses & perfect strangers. I wouldn't have it any other way...

People actually seem surprised when I say please and thank you. Very sad!

Me too! I had a worker in a sub shop stop what he was doing, look me straight in the eye and say, "You are one of the most polite people I've ever met. I think it's a very sad commentary on our society when it shocks a someone who works with the public day in and day out, that someone says please or thank you or no thank you. He said he didn't hear those words often even though he's in contact with hundreds of people a day.

Someone told me since I use it all the time, it doesn't mean anything when I say it.

Seriously? What is wrong with that person? Are you supposed to be selective in who you are polite to?

 

[Where'sPiglet?]

Seriously? What is wrong with that person? Are you supposed to be selective in who you are polite to?

Who knows. This was at the same school where one day I said "Good Morning" to someone else and got a "What's so good about it?" in reply.

I don't work there anymore.

 

[2bearsmom]

Our parents taught us well! lol

I always say please and thank you and you're welcome but rarely hear it said to me or others. My 4yr old ds always says it and gets really ticked off when he says thanks mommy (when I hand him something or get his cereal etc) and I just say uh huh instead of you're welcome. Man does he yell at me! lol

I also find it rude when people wont hold a door open for me, especially when I'd be at the mall trying to open the door, hold open the door and push the stroller through! Nobody ever bothered to help me.

 

[chell]

I say thank you all the time too.

Someone told me since I use it all the time, it doesn't mean anything when I say it.

The person who told you that is crazy. They simply don't get it because they don't know how to use the words. Just ignore what they said.

I try to say please & thank you too. It only takes a second.

Today I went with my husband to the doctor and he spent a lot of time with us and I hope he could tell I was being sincere when I said thank you.

 

[MM27]

I always say thank you when a cashier hands me back my change or receipt. I can't tell you the number of times they say, "Yep" or "Uh-huh" or grunt something else. I've worked in retail and I know some days stink, but common courtesy would tell you that you should be thanking your customers as they pay for their purchases.

I have students in my class that will say thank you every time I pass out a paper to them. Others never say it. It's obvious which ones have been taught at home. I have an unwritten rule that kids learn really quickly in my room. If I give them some sort of treat or prize and they don't say thank you, I take it back. Might seem harsh, but they learn quickly and the next time I'm passing out goodies they make sure to say thank-you.

 

[pixiewings71]

OMG, I say "please" and "thank you" all the time, so do my children. And yes, if someone doesn't say it to me I am sometimes sarcastic and say "YOUR WELCOME" or something like that. I really don't get how it can be outdated or not mean anything......sheesh, what kind of society do we live in if please and thank you don't mean anything......

 

[Heidict]

I heard of some guy once say that he would never teach his child to say "please" because it was 'begging'. Can't remeber where i heard that from but I always remembered it because I was so socked.

 

[krcit]

Add me to the list of please and thank you-ers! I say it all the time and my kids have learned by example. The crossing guard at their school told me that they say 'thank you' to her every morning when she crossed them. They(and I )thank waiters and waitresses, store clerks, strangers who open doors etc. I used to get so annoyed at my nephews because they never would say thank you or even hello when I saw them. I babysat them everyday and let's just say they now say please, thank you and hello

 

[RadioFanatic]

my dh drives me by not doing this. And I remind him of it ALL the time. He thinks if he asks "may I have ...", then that is sufficient and an please is inferred - whatever!

My 20 month old has said please and thank you since about a year old. You're right, people are shocked when he says it! How sad is that?

 

[jen0610]

Please, thank-you and your welcome - are respect issue that we are redrilling into the teen and tween that showed up at our house. Seems that the 'tudes of some of their friends were starting rear their ugly heads in our kids and they forgot their manners for a while. Snapped that in the bud, real quick.

We have also drilled into them, that when someone tells you to have a good day, you return the saying. A simple "You, too." is all that is needed.



Forgot to add. The other item that DH is drilling into the almost 15 year old, is opening and closing the car door for a lady. DH has done this for me for years. DH is making DS open the car door for his sister, in practice for when he gets a girlfriend of his own. DH told him, it doesn't matter if she is just a friend or one that you are dating, you hold the door open for them. DS thought DH and I were the only ones who do this, until on Saturday, a family had just parked and was exiting their car as we were getting back in ours, and the hubby in that family pointed us out to his son and said see, I told you we weren't the only ones who it. It is a custom that isn't seem much any more.

 

[Tikitoi]

Just like when you are in a crowded store or supermarket people are surprised or offended when you actually say "excuse me".

 

[MIGrandma]

I am a firm believer in saying please and thank you for everything. In the drive-thru, at the store, anywhere.

I used to work as a waitress and a lot of customers never said those words. It was "give me this" or "get me that." It was so irritating, and kind of sad too. But then there were the great customers who always said please and thank-you, those words go a long way to make someone's day better. And when young children said them, I made sure to compliment their parents on what good manners their little ones had.