What would you think about this email? (Baby related)

[mousetravel]

What would your thoughts be if you recieved this email? Would you be insulted? Or would you think it's not a big deal?

 

[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

I'll forgive pregnant women just about anything.

She's worried about her baby, it's understandable.

I think you might feel offended that she feels she needs to say these things outright to people, like, call before you show up, don't be around a new baby with a cold, but nowadays, people don't think and are less considerate.

 

[JanetRose]

You shouldn't be too hard on her - she is being very honest.

 

[NAB]

Why would you not have gone to the shower....

I think she wrote what a lot of mothers think but don't say. I bet she has a birthing plan to for this pregnancy. Because that is what this looks like. She is planning ahead.

 

[geffric]

Sounds to me that she is heading off some trouble before it happens..good for her..

 

[becpee]

While I can understand the points that have been made completely and fully, I think the email is worded badly and seems quite rude.
Before I had a child myself I would have been very upset by this but I can see both sides of this.
While everybody wants to see the new baby, it is very hard and demanding on the family (mum and baby especially) at the beginning and I guess they just want the best for their family.
I would take their points seriously, I did not understand before my son how hard it can be on a family.

Like I said, it does seem rude but I think it's just worded badly, had she written it differently her points would be completely understood without coming across badly, she is maybe a little hormonal also, give the family the time they need and when things settle down pay them a visit.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Actually, it's more a commentary on today's society than it is her being rude. If people generally followed the rules of etiquette, she'd not have to reprise them in her email.

No one should visit anyone without calling and checking to see if their visit would be welcome at the time or not. No one should visit anyone if they have an illness that can be spread by casual contact. No one should expect to visit someone on the first day home after being in the hospital, regardless of reason for hospitalization.

If people respected those "social norms" then she'd not have to have written the email.

I don't find her rude at all.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

What would your thoughts be if you recieved this email? Would you be insulted? Or would you think it's not a big deal?

We have a friend of the family that sent this email to everyone. She is expecting a baby next month. She just had a baby shower in which we all attended. If I had of recieved that email before the shower, I would not have even went.

I had a baby last year and I felt totally opposite from her. I wanted people over, I wanted visitors. But even if I didn't I never would have written an e-mail like that. I guess it's her choice, but it does come off somewhat rude to me.

 

[Rebelmom67]

Another hearty "good for her"!!

Anybody who would find this offensive and would want to "not go to the shower" because of this, is not a friend anyway and the new mother is better off without them!

 

[gina2000]

She is being very, very honest about a difficult situation. I had the Christening very shortly after our son's birth in order to avoid having caring family members drop in. At that point in my life, even putting on a pot of coffee and getting out to buy a cake was difficult. It's just not that easy juggling.

 

[JC2]

She said a lot of things that I wanted so badly to say when I was getting ready to deliver my children. I was worried about hurting others' feelings. I just kept thinking that my child's health and the adjustment time for our family was more important than someone getting their feelings hurt. It's annoying to me that I'd even have to worry about that.

 

[sunnyday123]

I can totally understand. I had a friend who buried her son two years ago because he caught a cold at 2 weeks. Babies don't have the capablity to fight somthing like that off, and anyone that has ever had a newborn should not have to be told any of that stuff.

I think that she has to tell people that stinks.

 

[DisneyWalker44]

I wouldn't be insulted. I wouldn't think it a big deal. I wouldn't think it a small deal.

I see nothing wrong at all. It's a very nice note with perfectly reasonably requests (well, perfectly reasonable for a mom-to-be.

 

[disneyjunkie]

What would your thoughts be if you recieved this email? Would you be insulted? Or would you think it's not a big deal?

I think it's rude and yeah I would have been insulted.

 

[bekkiz]

She probably had bad experiances with her first child (I assume this is her second, based on the "big brother" language) and is trying to head off any issues.

I didn't send an email out like this, but I have very understanding friends who would never dream of coming over without calling. My family lives 900 miles away, and I did almost come to blows with my mom when I asked her to plan her trip up after the first 2 weeks after the boys were born. So, I understand laying out guidelines. Some people don't think about the stress and pain involved with a new baby.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

It just seems funny to me that an e-mail was written. Couldn't she just tell people? Yeah, I wouldn't want snotty nosed kids to come visit either, so that should just be a given and any parent should KNOW not to bring their sick kid over to see a baby.
The part about not wanting any visitors the first day, well yeah, why wouldn't she just tell people nicely... The e-mail just seems so wierd and bossy.
Maybe it's just because I would never write anything like that to my friends and family.
Or maybe she just worded it really wrong. I think she could have came off nicer if she worded it a little differently....
I dont know, I'm the kind of person that could have 4 kids and still want company and really woudn't mind throwing on a pot of coffee

 

[perdidobay]

Actually, it's more a commentary on today's society than it is her being rude. If people generally followed the rules of etiquette, she'd not have to reprise them in her email.

No one should visit anyone without calling and checking to see if their visit would be welcome at the time or not. No one should visit anyone if they have an illness that can be spread by casual contact. No one should expect to visit someone on the first day home after being in the hospital, regardless of reason for hospitalization.

If people respected those "social norms" then she'd not have to have written the email.

I don't find her rude at all.

I agree totally!

 

[Mickey527]

I think she said what every one of us wanted to say when we were new mothers.
I wouldn't be insulted, I would be proud of her for having the nerve to say it.
How many times I wanted to rest after getting the baby to sleep but had unexpected guests come over. They would take one look at the baby, mutter "how cute" when they were probably thinking "God, what an ugly baby" and then expect coffee, and cake, while looking around at the unwashed dishes and dirty sweats I had on.
If I were you I would hit forward to all and congratulate her on having the guts to say this, especially during this "flu" season.

 

[disneyjunkie]

I had a baby last year and I felt totally opposite from her. I wanted people over, I wanted visitors. But even if I didn't I never would have written an e-mail like that. I guess it's her choice, but it does come off somewhat rude to me.

Maybe it's the type of family and friends I have. None of them would expect me to entertain them. They would come over to help. Maybe bring over or cook a nice meal. Sit with the baby while I take a shower or get some rest. Do a load of laundry for me.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

The things she wrote in the email are just common sense things. You would hope people would do this without being told. Since this is her second, maybe she just wants to prevent things that happened when she brought her first baby home? The wording is not the greatest. I would think something simple like, "We would love for you to visit, just be sure to call ahead of time before you come" would do the trick.

I would have left the "don't come if you are sick" part out completely. I would hope people would at least understand that without the email.