What would you do if DD insists on hotel

[goodferry]

My oldest son (16) is the same way, but he loves the Poly. We are a family of six and now that dd is 4, we need two rooms at the Poly and I don't think that's a financially responsible thing to do with four kids to put through college, so I told him I had a budget, this is what it is, we would like to stay in a different resort this time, pick something based on that budget. He has us in a BWI deluxe room that sleeps 6 (plus we ended up with the 40% off code)!

He said that next trip, he will pay for the extra room so we can stay at the Poly again, I said I would go along with that! It's funny how they get attached to a resort. We stayed at the CBR once and he didn't develop any sort of unnatural attachment to it, but we were at the Poly 5 minutes and he was ready to move in for good!

OP, I would explain to her about the construction at the Contemp. and tell her about all the wonderful things the Poly offers, watching Wishes from the Volcano pool, the Luau, the beautiful grounds. Show her pictures and the disney planning video, I am sure you will sway her!

As far as letting the kids help choose, we accept all four of the kids as functioning members of our family and allow them to help us make decisions, especially those related to vacations that are theirs too. Will we let them make any ridiculous choice (ie a two bedroom suite at the GF) no, of course not, but we do allow them to help with the decision process. Now if we could just talk them into one of the Values!

 

[Jedi Master Gonzo]

Mickeyschickie, I like your posting and totally agree with it. The grandparents in my family give in way too much!

Anyways, our last trip to WDW was at the Poly. While there we took a whole day and drove around to the different resorts. We took a vote between the 6 of us and it came down to 5 for WL and 1 abstaining because she just wants to go and doesn't much care where we stay as long as it's on site.
I find us voting to stay at the WL kinda funny because we live in the Applachian Mountain region. I kinda figured I would get out voted for the Poly again or the Contemporary.

 

[disneyfan55]

how is old is your daughter and who is footing the bill??

Exactly what I was thinking!! She should be happy just to go to WDW. I would keep your reservations and enjoy!!

 

[lustergirl]

Exactly what I was thinking!! She should be happy just to go to WDW. I would keep your reservations and enjoy!!

And to think my 2 teenage sons still love AS Sports and would stay there in a heartbeat again!!

 

[Elmo888]

Show her pics of the pool! DD6 wasn't excited about staying at POR or WL (I had a ressie at POR and changed to WL). After seeing pics of ASMovies, she wanted to stay there. Her question was always "what does the pool look like?" That seemed to help.

BTW, she loved WL.

Are you going to have a meal there (isn't there a character meal at the Poly)? Pics of that might help, too. And tell her that you can go visit the CR since it it just a monorail ride away!

 

[disneyfan55]

And to think my 2 teenage sons still love AS Sports and would stay there in a heartbeat again!!

I know!! My 2 have been going since infants and were happy at any and all of the places we stayed!! This year we are going and staying the AS SPORTS too!! Couldn't pass up the value resort with the free dining!! (Kids are 27 and 29 now!!)

 

[micmacmissy]

I read a thread on the restaurants board where a mom was asking for input on finding a character meal suitable for her kids, because her daughter "refused" to eat with certain characters.

I agree with most of the posters on this thread....as my dad always put it, "If I'm payin', then I'm sayin'!"

 

[Sammie]

First off, I agree with the others, please do not change your mind over the lack of enthusiasm from a child that young. They are so fickle, they change their minds like the wind.

That said, to get her excited, have her watch Lilo and Stitch, show her the cool volcano pool, the beach with view of the Magic Kingdom, the waterfall in the lobby.

Truly as long as you have fun, she will have fun too. And when she is old enough to pay, she can treat you to her favorite place to stay.

 

[disneyfan55]

First off, I agree with the others, please do not change your mind over the lack of enthusiasm from a child that young. They are so fickle, they change their minds like the wind.

That said, to get her excited, have her watch Lilo and Stitch, show her the cool volcano pool, the beach with view of the Magic Kingdom, the waterfall in the lobby.

Truly as long as you have fun, she will have fun too. And when she is old enough to pay, she can treat you to her favorite place to stay.

Well put!!

 

[sydprincess]

This thread really shows the difference in generosity among parents. Yes, you're paying for the trip, but are you taking it for YOU, or are you taking it for your child? If you're taking it for you, then I would expect anyone who wants to dictate where they stay to come right out and tell their child that they are picking the hotel because the trip is for them. Because that is what's happening. I find it very sad that there are parents who will not consider the opinion of a young child, like they are not a person who is allowed to have likes and dislikes (just like their parents). A big part of being a parent is sacrificing what you want in order to give your child what they want. I'm glad my DH and I are parents who will go to whatever lengths to make sure our children feel like people. I know one day my girls will thank me for it.

 

[PudgetteD]

This thread really shows the difference in generosity among parents. Yes, you're paying for the trip, but are you taking it for YOU, or are you taking it for your child? If you're taking it for you, then I would expect anyone who wants to dictate where they stay to come right out and tell their child that they are picking the hotel because the trip is for them. Because that is what's happening. I find it very sad that there are parents who will not consider the opinion of a young child, like they are not a person who is allowed to have likes and dislikes (just like their parents). A big part of being a parent is sacrificing what you want in order to give your child what they want. I'm glad my DH and I are parents who will go to whatever lengths to make sure our children feel like people. I know one day my girls will thank me for it.

Gee, I guess I somehow misinterpreted the title of this thread. I thought it said that her DD INSISTED on a certain resort. I ALWAYS take the wishes and opinions of my children into consideration and understand that they have likes and dislikes, however, there is a BIG difference between asking and insisting. And while we too will do just about whatever it takes to give our children the world, we will not and do not tolerate our children "insisting" that we do anything! They are children, we are parents. On our last trip to the world in 2006, we did 3 character meals (DDs request), got every character autograph imaginable (DS's request), played both mini golf courses (DS's request), did both water parks (DD's request), canceled in room sitter and Victoria and Albert's to take both children to DisneyQuest (spur of the moment request from DS and DD)and bought over $500 worth of goodies for DS and DD, but yeah, just because we chose the hotel it was OUR (DH and I) trip. PULEEEZ!

 

[going2disney]

This thread really shows the difference in generosity among parents. Yes, you're paying for the trip, but are you taking it for YOU, or are you taking it for your child? If you're taking it for you, then I would expect anyone who wants to dictate where they stay to come right out and tell their child that they are picking the hotel because the trip is for them. Because that is what's happening. I find it very sad that there are parents who will not consider the opinion of a young child, like they are not a person who is allowed to have likes and dislikes (just like their parents). A big part of being a parent is sacrificing what you want in order to give your child what they want. I'm glad my DH and I are parents who will go to whatever lengths to make sure our children feel like people. I know one day my girls will thank me for it.

I don't think those of us that don't completely allow our children to plan our Disney vacations are "less generous" as parents than you may be. Because I choose our hotel does not mean the vacation is "for me". Rather I realize that there are decisions that I make and decisions my DS5 can make, like which park he may want to visit first and which ride he would like to go on, does he want to wait in line to see Mickey or Pooh first, etc. He has lots of input into "our" vacation. I don't think you'll ever meet a parent who does not "sacrifice" a lot for their children, but remember you are the parent. You may find that allowing your children to choose whatever they want to make them happy will have dire consequences as they grow into adulthood. Rather than them thanking you for the freedom in allowing them to decide what makes them happy you might get a smart mouth and attitude if you or someone they encounter doesn't give them their way. I agree that children should feel like people but remember they are children and need to progress through normal growth and development, they are not adults and do not have the reasoning and thought processes of adults.

 

[LadyTrampScamp&Angel]

I wouldn't change your ressie either. I try to take my DH and kids preferences into consideration but I don't want to stay at the Ft. Wilderness cabins (DH would) on every trip Ultimately I'm the planner in this family and I decide where we stay, and my family has loved it every time. Although my kids live a somewhat priviledged life when they pipe up about something like that I tell them "hey, just be glad you're going to Walt Disney World" - but in the most loving way I've often explained to them how lucky they are to go every year, lots of kids don't get to go at all. They are pretty reasonable with that. I understand a seven year old is hard to reason with, DD is 7 too, but your DD will probably get it.

Anyway, I don't know that I'd even worry much about it if I were you. She's going to have a great time when we gets there and all will be well. Tell her you can always do the CR again in the future but you want to give the Poly a try. I agree with tell her you'll take her to visit the CR, easy enough on the monorail, play in the arcade, go to Chef Mickey's . . .

Have a great time!

 

[libinatorsmom]

Leave your reservation as it is... and simply tell her we are staying here and leave it at that... simple and too the point... You are the parent....

 

[libinatorsmom]

This thread really shows the difference in generosity among parents. Yes, you're paying for the trip, but are you taking it for YOU, or are you taking it for your child? If you're taking it for you, then I would expect anyone who wants to dictate where they stay to come right out and tell their child that they are picking the hotel because the trip is for them. Because that is what's happening. I find it very sad that there are parents who will not consider the opinion of a young child, like they are not a person who is allowed to have likes and dislikes (just like their parents). A big part of being a parent is sacrificing what you want in order to give your child what they want. I'm glad my DH and I are parents who will go to whatever lengths to make sure our children feel like people. I know one day my girls will thank me for it.

HUH.... but do you let your children make all the choices in your life... what to eat for dinner, where to go, when to go, etc... parents need to be parents... and I dont think the generosity of this mother is any less by staying at the POLY vs the CONT... jees.... and obvious this mother has taken her daughters wishes into consideration as she posted on here... to get opinions... So you allow your children everything they want and to do everything they wish to feel like "people" last time I checked I dont get everything I want or get to do everything I want... does that mean I am not a "person" - parents make incredible sacrifices for thier children - the difference between two dulx resorts at WDW to me is not a sacrifice....

 

[lady_hlh]

We stayed at the POP on our first 2 trips, my DD just loved it there and didn't want to stay anywhere else. I was looking at pictures of AKL on-line one day and my DD got all upset because she thought that I was going to make her stay there, poor thing. We got the free upgrade offer to OKW this year and I told my DD and DH that we were definitely going to take the upgrade no matter what. My DD loved OKW and told me that she liked it even better than the POP. Next year I think I want to try CSR and I'm sure that my DD will love that also after she goes there.

 

[LadyTrampScamp&Angel]

last time I checked I dont get everything I want or get to do everything I want... does that mean I am not a "person" - parents make incredible sacrifices for thier children

I was thinking the same thing. As a married woman with kids my life is all about compromises and sacrifices. You can be willing to listen to a child to make them feel included but that doesn't mean they get final say. I do discuss many things with my kids and accomodate them often but I don't let them rule. Not many people in life get their every wish granted, so got to admit I don't follow get that reasoning.

Anyway, to get the OP's DD excited you might schedule the Lilo & Stitch character breakfast early in your trip. The parade around the room is fun, along with the characters, and the food's pretty good. It'll get her in the Poly mood.

 

[jeanninepl]

Hi everyone and thanks for the terrific opinions. I am a school teacher who always stresses to my students that everyone has different opinions so its great to get so many responses.

I definitely wanted to reclarify, and I did reply in here that my original post wasn't stated very well, especially because I used the word INSISTED.

I ment when it comes up she says that she wants to stay at "her home in Disney" which is the Contemporary and doesn't want to try any place new. She isn't throwing fits or acting like a brat. She just isn't a child who is open to trying new things and I really want her to be excited about this trip. That is why I should have made the title of my thread about how to get her excited, my apologies.

I think, like Christmas, planning the Disney tirp together is half of the fun, and you want everyone in the family to be as excited as you are feeling!

 

[Nancyg56]

She just isn't a child who is open to trying new things and I really want her to be excited about this trip. That is why I should have made the title of my thread about how to get her excited, my apologies.

I think, like Christmas, planning the Disney tirp together is half of the fun, and you want everyone in the family to be as excited as you are feeling!

Don't worry how you posed your question. Like anywhere else some times things are taken way too literally. I understand why you want her excited, I sat for hours showing my DGD pictures of the Poly pool, the beach and the decor becasue I wanted her to have the same anticipation that I did. We are planning a surprise trip for her birthday and I really feel badly that we cannot chat about CBR and how pretty it looks.

I am going to start showing her some pics as we get closer so that I can feel her out but I do miss the planning time with her. I know that you will have so much fun once she sees the resort and she has something tangible to discuss.

 

[DreaminDisney]

I think, like Christmas, planning the Disney tirp together is half of the fun, and you want everyone in the family to be as excited as you are feeling!

I agree 110%.

I would try and get an ADR for Chef Mickey's so your DD can still go there but I wouldn't change resort ressie. My DD is 7 too and in situations like this I just tell her it's fun to try new places how lucky they are to even have the option.

Have a wonderful trip. Your DD will love it. In the end even if she likes CR better she'll still have a wonderful time. Have a great vacation!!!!