what woudl you think...

[musicotb]

... if every time you went to check your email on your boyfriend's laptop, there was no browser history or recently viewed documents?

*you live with boyfriend and have for 2.5 years
*he has a history of lying about looking at... stuff...

.... just trying to validate that I was right is questioning why he chooses to do this and hide all his ongoings on his laptop... if I'm out of line, let me know.

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

I delete my history daily and am not hiding anything. However, that would be the way to hide where I have been if I needed to hide it. In my experience if someone is looking up *stuff* on the internet, there really isn't much you can do to change that.

 

[Kimberly]

I do too delete my history about once a week. Many hackers use your cookies and browsing history to find out your personal information for identity theft, so it is a fairly safe thing to do. If you do online banking and shopping, I would say that everytime you are on the internet might be a good thing to do.

 

[poohandwendy]

Hard to say, he may have his settings set to delete history every time he logs off.

Just wondering why you are checking his history every time you use his laptop? Sounds like you don't trust him. And if you don't like his looking at 'stuff' and he does like it, he is bound to delete his history. You need to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. If not, I would let it go.

 

[L107ANGEL]

How do you delete your history

Op, I would think you know the answer to your question. Maybe you should stop checking up on him so it doesn't bother you?

 

[hucifer]

How do you delete your history

Ahh, you have much to learn, grasshoppa.


My DH and I make a habit of deleting our history on a daily basis. We have nothing to hide, it's just a good way to keep our files clean.

 

[I'mNoPrince]

I have a clean sweep program that dumps my IE and MSN browsers each time I close it. My Netscape already does this . It's good to keep that stuff off your computer with a laptop even more as the space can get tricky at best.

I would have to worry about the why you need to check and not the why he is.

You can always enable a keystroke program is you really want to know what he's doing with it . But if you have to do that I would just dump the relationship . Trust is the most important thing and the hardest to earn back once gone.

 

[Hannathy]

That my Girlfriend was snooping on me and it p***** me off! Sounds like a lot of trust issues with both of you. I couldn't tell you the last places my DH has been on the computer ever unless he leaves the page open, nor do I care.

 

[musicotb]

My issue is no longer what he might be looking at. It used to be, but I've decided it's just not worth my energy, and it's his choice. It's just the covertness and the dishonesty.
I don't snoop, but when he freaked out on me last night for wanting to check a movie time on his computer, it led me to think there might be something else going on, so I pressed the "down" arrow in the address bar (I didn't actually go into his browser history) and looked in his recently viewed documents. I wouldn't have done so had his reaction to me simply picking up his computer to check a movie time been very irrational.
I guess sometimes I just wonder if I'm overreacting, or hif he realy is acting like he's hiding something. Like I said, I don't care if he's looking at porn, I care if he's lying to me about it.

 

[Cool-Beans]

... if every time you went to check your email on your boyfriend's laptop, there was no browser history or recently viewed documents?

*you live with boyfriend and have for 2.5 years
*he has a history of lying about looking at... stuff...

.... just trying to validate that I was right is questioning why he chooses to do this and hide all his ongoings on his laptop... if I'm out of line, let me know.

I'd think he knows I'm snooping. If there was a history of lying, I'd also think he was up to no good. But if there was a history of lying, I wouldn't be dating him anymore.

 

[musicotb]

I'd think he knows I'm snooping. If there was a history of lying, I'd also think he was up to no good. But if there was a history of lying, I wouldn't be dating him anymore.

I'd understand this if I looked at his computer often... but last night was the first time in about six months...

 

[SusanWasHere]

i'm sorry you are going through this. i've been there done that with more than one boyfriend. you are correct in thinking something due to his reaction. i wouldn't care if my SO checked movie times, weather, my emails, my history, etc. bc i know there is nothing to hide. it should be that way in a trusting relationship. him having that reaction shows he does have something to hide. this happened with 2 exes of mine and it was stuff i discovered by accident. having trust issues destroys the relationship, and i know that finding out about the internet stuff only led to other stuff. good luck, i hope you work something out. but some guys (and women) just get so addicted to that stuff on the internet they lose things in the rest of their lives. it's a shame that something that can be so good and helpful also can be so destructive.

 

[poohandwendy]

I'd understand this if I looked at his computer often... but last night was the first time in about six months...

Then I would just guess he has his settings marked that way, to dump after logging off.

 

[Cindyluwho]

I'd think he knows I'm snooping. If there was a history of lying, I'd also think he was up to no good. But if there was a history of lying, I wouldn't be dating him anymore.

Thank you! The problem has nothing to do with him deleting his history and everything to do with a woman who has such low self esteem that she's dating someone that she states "has a history of lying". Run away, and run away fast!!

 

[dad2t&e]

I delete my history files almost every time before signing off. It's a habit I've got into to keep my files clean and because my old computer was maxed out with no space.
If you have trust problems with your significant other you need to work them out. Snooping or lying is NOT the way to have a healthy relationship.

 

[poohandwendy]

I just want to add, is the lying ONLY about this particular issue? I ask because you both may just have different opinions about it and he just wants to keep you off his back. Not saying that is right, but he may just look at it differently than you do and doesn't see the harm in it.

If that is the only issue, you need to figure out if this is a dealbreaker or if you can live with it. If he is lying about more things, I would say the relationship is doomed and I would walk away.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Is anybody going to tell me HOW to do this?

 

[poohandwendy]

Is anybody going to tell me HOW to do this?

LOL, go to tools (top of your screen) and then go to 'clear private data'...at least that is how it is on mine (Mozilla Firefox)

 

[musicotb]

Thank you everyone for your replies! I do want to update. We have had trust issues in the past, and I have worked so hard to get over them. He's asked me to trust him, so today I put it to him that in order for this to work, he has to trust me too. He told me I was exactly right, that I have come so far and that it is now he that he has to work on trusting. Thanks for all your help!

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

In Internet Explorer, go to Tools, Internet Options, Delete Files. Or, if you want view the files first, go to Internet Options, Setting, View Files, then Edit - select all, then delete.