We were planning our VR at disney, but as you said, it becomes expensive. We've decided to do the VR at home then vacation at WDW with a desert party. We are fortunate enough to have some of our friends joining us as well as our 4 children. As for why we decided to have a VR... there are a few reasons. first I will list mine, then my DH
we have 3 grown children. Our DD has been dating a nice guy for 4 years and they have been talking marriage. They are both still young, but very responsible individuals and as a couple. I think it will be nice for them to sit and hear each vow, my DD knowing how much her father & I have been thru, and hopefully realizing they are NOT just words. Her brothers will hear this and hopefully realize this as well. But for me it is especially important she "hears" them before a ring is slipped on her own finger.
We've been through a lot over the past 30 years. I think more than a lot of folks. (of course less than others)(vaguely outlined in my PTR if you want real details). When I think of those moments, sometimes I wonder how our marriage survived. I want to refresh those words, in my heart & verbally with my DH.
And, honestly after 30 years sometimes the romance gets lost in the every day stuff. I want to relive the romance, even if just for the day. (and the planning of it.).
DH's reasons: He agrees he wants our children to realize it is not just a wedding, it is a marriage. He wants them to hear each vow, each promise.
: He likes a reason to have a celebration.
: He loves to make me happy. And to see me smile.
: He wants all to know he WOULD do it all again. Even the bad times.
Those are his words.
We have no need to resupport our marriage.
There is a part of me that would love to do the whole WDW VR. But I have decided there are other things I would rather do with the money. Plus, with our eldest DD talking wedding, I think we should be planning saving for HER wedding.
EDited to add: We do have friends who think that a VR is just silly. As she says, they did it once, it was forever, and there is no need to do it again. I respect that. Their first wedding was simple, VFW hall, catalog dress, etc. And it was a lovely wedding. For her the wedding was just the means to begin the marriage. Simple as that. She has mentioned in conversation over the years, "why is it the ones whos marriages are falling apart always seem to be the ones that do vow renewals". I think she was a bit embarrassed when I told her recently we are having a VR. I explained basically why we want to do it. She respects that, and I her opinion. We have been true friends for over 30 years, we don't always see eye to eye. But we respect each other. DH and I however, had a bit of a decision to make regarading inviting this couple. Knowing they think it is silly, we feel it is like asking for a gift. BUT, they are very good friends of ours. So... I just asked her..."would you be interested in attending the VR? If not I completely understand, but you are two of our closest friends, we didn't want to NOT include you. She said of course they would want to be there. To each their own. That is what make each of us an individual, and what makes the world so interesting.