Tiggerlover-
I had to convince my DH that his Navy retirement check would NOT keep him in the style to which he'd become accustomed.
So, after tons of contractors making ship visits and giving him their business cards- and saying: Look me up when you get out...
He DIDN'T do it! One of the gentlemen who'd given him a card found out that he was retiring from a college classmate who was a chief that worked for DH.
We ended up relocating after he toughed out an almost 6 month separation (except for weekends). I was in Va Beach, and he was in Charleston. His boss suggested me for a job at the same location, and here we are!! We have different bosses, work in the same building, and I've been here almost 4 years- and he's been here for almost 4 1/2.
Do all the traveling that you can now..... that's what we did while we were in Europe...