What should we do?

[vicceja]

Hi!

We are off to Disney in just 6 days , but we just received a call from my Husbands family that his dad will not make it through the night . He had a heart attach in December which left him paralized and basically not able to do anything or recognize much - he just had a second attack and they do not believe he will make it through the night. What am I suppose to do? I am so confused and upset about the entire situation. I've spent to much money on this trip and to tell you the truth we are so tight with any extra money right now - I don't know if we can afford for my husband to fly out to Mexico

 

[vettechick99]

I'm so sorry about FIL. How close are you and DH to him? Close enough to fly ASAP to say his last goodbyes or just in time to make it to the funeral?

I'm afraid only you two can make this decision but lots of

 

[vicceja]

Hi!

We live in Connecticut and He is in Mexico....I don't know what to do

 

[jenjen212]

i am sorry for your family's experience...

this is a tough one... it depends on how he feels about it, since it is his father. if you just can not afford to send him out there, but he still wants to go, maybe some other family members could help out with the travel arrangements.

if need be... disney will usually refund your money past cancellation dates for reasons like this. so if you needed to have your money refunded to use it to say last good byes, i am sure that disney would work with you...

my sympathies ,

jen

 

[snowy76]

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I am four days out from my next trip... so I can understand the disappointment and uncertainty you must be feeling.

That being said, Disney is very good about refunding or changing plans due to situations like this. If this was my trip I would tell myself "Someday there can be another trip, but there will not be another chance to say goodbye." Even if your FIL passes before DH can get there, there is comfort in being there with family and making sure your loved one is taken care of afterwards.

Get DH to Mexico... Check with the airlines -- they usually offer discounted fares they have for people flying due to serious illness or a death in the family. They call it a bereavement fare. Once you know more details about the situation in Mexico, you can decide what to do about your trip.

The anniversary of my grandmother's death was just a couple of days ago. When she passed, my dad did not want me to go for her funeral (he thought I would be more upset). He left without me, so I actually drove myself to Philly from upstate NY, by myself. Nighttime driving is not my cup of tea, but I have never regretted the time or money the trip took. I felt like I needed to say goodbye - even though I did not get to do it before she died.

 

[liveforthemagic]

My DH had to do this a few years back to say goodbye to his grandpa. You just call the airlines and tell them your situation and the fare is not nearly what it would be normally for a last minute booking. He used USAir at the time....but I'm sure they all do it.

As far as deciding whether or not to go, that's a toughie. Its a shame, but real life issues like work, time missed, used up vacation time and money not earned really come into play. Rest assured that your FIL would understand your decision, no matter what it is.

Maybe, you could get in touch with Disney and just push your ressies up a few weeks. I have seen posts that indicate that they are not at full capacity--and I'm sure if you are staying off site you can find an opening somehwer.e

Post and let us know how you are doing!

 

[vicceja]

HI All!

Thanks for the great advise and well wishes
Unfortunately, while my husband and I were driving home from work last night I received a call on my mobile....my FIL died at 5:30pm My husband is doing ok and I sent him off this morning to Mexico to be with his family and to be there for the service. He did not want to cancel or move our ressies so everything is still on for Tuesday the 28th! The only issue is - My husband returns from Mexico on Monday the 27th at 11pm - our flight is on Tuesday the 28th at 6AM Which means when he arrives at the airport the night before he will have to hang around until we get there...then run to the our airline, JetBlue and get ready for another flight. It's going to be hard for him the first day at Disney but I thought since we arrive so early he can stay at the room for the day and I will run around with the boys. I think we will be ok...

Thanks again for all the great advise!

 

[liveforthemagic]

I am so sorry to hear the news. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your DH.

If anything can help heal a sad heart, its Disney. Plus just being with you guys after a really rough week will probably do DH good.

Enjoy as best you can!

 

[lovewdwdvc]

Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

 

[iwannabeminnie]

Would it be possible for him to fly from Mexico to Orlando instead of coming home? He could possibly arrive at about the same time you do or arrive a day ahead and crash at a hotel near the airport.

or you arrive the night before your flight out and all of you spend the night at a hotel near your local airport. We often spend the night at the hotel near our airport so we don't have to get up so early and it is cheaper with their "park and fly" rate than paying to leave the car in airport parking for a week.