What if DH is a party pooper...

[HollyMac71]

HELP!!!!! I don't know what I'm going to do with DH for Disapalooza. He doesn't know anyone so he thinks he will be tagging along with me. I keep telling him there will be a lot of people to meet etc... But he just doesn't seem interested.

I'm SUPER excited about going and cannot wait to see everyone. But wonder what DH is going to do. Anyone have any thoughts and ideas about what to do?

 

[YellowMickeyPonchos]

I have a quiet husband and he's a bit of the same way. Sell him the point that you're going to a very large private party and he'll be able to really take his time and look around the place without having to rush or get shuffled through the crowds.

You could always tell him there will be the usual standing-in-line chit-chat, but if that doesn't work, you could also sell it as being a special hand-holding romantic night out for the two of you!

 

[Mickeyflower]

Just tell him to treat it like any other park trip. Don't think of it as a private party (those words can intimidate shy people), it's just a trip to Universal to check out Harry Potter, nothing more. Besides, nobody is intimidating in shorts with a camera around their neck

 

[dpic]

Offer him a pizza, a 6-pack, and let him stay in the room. If he chooses that, fine you're free to have fun. If he decides to go along, then it's his choice. My wife and I rarely do things apart, but there are times when something is more one's style than the other's. There is no law that says you have to be connected at the hip for everything. Make it pleasant for both, and let him choose. And, besides, most husbands will cave in when given the choice--we just like to think it's our idea.

 

[HollyMac71]

When I first planned to go to the party I didn't think there was going to be a problem. But took him to the get together at the poly a couple of months ago and he sat in the corner playing with his phone. <sigh>

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

Like DPIC suggested, I think I'd give him an option to go with you or stay in the room. If he chooses to go with you, remind him he can ride FJ and check things out really well since it won't be as crowded like a normal day.

Maybe once he has a choice, he'll go and be happy with it.

Good luck!

 

[stitchlover]

My husband is the same way. Very quiet, doesn't like to get out of his shell, etc. We had this same conversation this weekend. I told him when we are in large groups like this I feel like I have to stay by his side and make sure he's okay and then I kind of feel like I miss out on interacting and meeting people. He told me "I'm an adult. I'm fine. If I want to talk and mingle I will. If I want to sit on the side and play with my phone, that was my choice." He told me he doesn't sit there because he is too nervous, he just doesn't want to talk.

So I've decided I'm just going to let him do his thing and I will do my thing. Now it helps that we will have our non-talking daughter with us and they can do their thing together!

 

[mikelan6]

My husband is the same way. Very quiet, doesn't like to get out of his shell, etc. We had this same conversation this weekend. I told him when we are in large groups like this I feel like I have to stay by his side and make sure he's okay and then I kind of feel like I miss out on interacting and meeting people. He told me "I'm an adult. I'm fine. If I want to talk and mingle I will. If I want to sit on the side and play with my phone, that was my choice." He told me he doesn't sit there because he is too nervous, he just doesn't want to talk.

So I've decided I'm just going to let him do his thing and I will do my thing. Now it helps that we will have our non-talking daughter with us and they can do their thing together!

Having a substitute husband also helps

 

[stitchlover]

Having a substitute husband also helps

Well true...it does help when one has an ABD husband to do those activities that the RLH (real life husband) has no interest in attending.

 

[jcb]

"I'm an adult. I'm fine. If I want to talk and mingle I will. If I want to sit on the side and play with my phone, that was my choice."

I think he was quoting me - or else it sounds like me.

Based on what Nikki called another Disser and me last night, I'm willing to form an official geek area at HP. It will be an area where anyone can come to geek out whenever they feel like it. No talking required. Anyone can come and stare at whatever electronic or mechanical device they are willing to haul with them to HP.

A designated geek-area also gives non-geek spouses the impression that we are socializing. Any geek knows that there is safety in numbers.

I haven't decided whether to load on my iPad (1) all the HP movies, (2) Complete Star Wars (Blu Ray) or Lord of the Rings.

 

[HollyMac71]

My husband is the same way. Very quiet, doesn't like to get out of his shell, etc. We had this same conversation this weekend. I told him when we are in large groups like this I feel like I have to stay by his side and make sure he's okay and then I kind of feel like I miss out on interacting and meeting people. He told me "I'm an adult. I'm fine. If I want to talk and mingle I will. If I want to sit on the side and play with my phone, that was my choice." He told me he doesn't sit there because he is too nervous, he just doesn't want to talk.

Thank you for the advice. Now I have to wonder if all the benches will be full of DH and DW that are waiting for their partners who are socializing. Maybe they will start socializing among themselves.

It's like when I was a kid and Mom would take me somewhere and say "Sit here and I'll be right back."

 

[sayhello]

I think he was quoting me - or else it sounds like me.

Based on what Nikki called another Disser and me last night, I'm willing to form an official geek area at HP. It will be an area where anyone can come to geek out whenever they feel like it. No talking required. Anyone can come and stare at whatever electronic or mechanical device they are willing to haul with them to HP.

A designated geek-area also gives non-geek spouses the impression that we are socializing. Any geek knows that there is safety in numbers.

I haven't decided whether to load on my iPad (1) all the HP movies, (2) Complete Star Wars (Blu Ray) or Lord of the Rings.

Why choose? Load them all. But to be really geeky, I think it would need to be all the HP movies. Must keep our geekdom relevant!

Sayhello

 

[HollyMac71]

YES!

There should be an area <hint> for recharging if spouses batteries should run low.

 

[TIGGERmetoo]

I think he was quoting me - or else it sounds like me.

Based on what Nikki called another Disser and me last night, I'm willing to form an official geek area at HP. It will be an area where anyone can come to geek out whenever they feel like it. No talking required. Anyone can come and stare at whatever electronic or mechanical device they are willing to haul with them to HP.

A designated geek-area also gives non-geek spouses the impression that we are socializing. Any geek knows that there is safety in numbers.

I haven't decided whether to load on my iPad (1) all the HP movies, (2) Complete Star Wars (Blu Ray) or Lord of the Rings.

 

[SamSam]

Ha! I'm the shy one, but on the Dis all time. DH is definitely an extrovert, but not into the Dis, but when I've actually gottten him to go to an event he has a fabulous time.
If your DH will go with you, he may have a better time than he ever thought possible...or he could be in a corner with his smart phone...that works too.

 

[doconeill]

I've always been one of those shy people in a crowd - generally have trouble introducing myself. But once I can find someone I can talk to about something, it helps.

I'd be one of those people in the "geek" corner, but I'd be talking Android apps, shortcomings, etc.

Of course I can talk tons about Disney

Alas, I'm not going to DISapalooza. I'll actually be down there next week for a Syfy/NBC Universal private party. Probably less than a tenth the size of DISapalooza in the same space. I did it last year and it was fun. But, given I have a problem introducing myself to people in general, imagine what it was like trying to hang with TV execs, producers, and stars... Fortunately I will know a few of the people this time around - although one person I actually became friends with isn't going this year

 

[DeaverTex]

Hey, Hollymac71, you could be talking about me here. I'm not good at meeting people either. From personal experience, I can pretty much guarantee that your DH is comfortable, accustomed, resigned -- call it what you like -- to the situation and doesn't want to rain on your parade. Don't worry about him. He'll either find one or two people to interact with, or he'll just sit back and do his own thing. Have fun!


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