What do you think of two only children marrying?

[Antonia]

My son is an only and is dating an only!!!
Should they marry, their children would have no aunts, no uncles and no cousins. Is that strange or what?
Does anyone know anyone in this situation? How was it? I am trying to envision the future. LOL

 

[Laurabearz]

I think if they are in love....... it doesnt matter........ I am not an only child, yet I have nothing to do with my siblings..... My children are none the worse for wear...... We have a lot of freinds who are their aunts and uncles...... And my girls hearts are filled with love from all of us......

Keep us posted....

 

[Roo Jones]

I have to agree with Laurabearz. Sometimes the holidays spent with your family's friends is much more fun and meaningful than a holiday spent with extended family. If they are happy together, then they should definately stay together and maybe think about marriage Some of my favorite aunts are my mom's four best friends, and we all have the COOLEST christmas party every year. Hope that helps!

 

[C.Ann]

My DD married an only child.. Although I do have two other children they live in another part of the country and family problems keep them from being around my DD, so she might as well be an only child..

My DD and her DH have an adorable 4 yr. old daughter and she's none the worse for the wear.. She has great aunts and great uncles and most of her parents close friends are like aunts and uncles..

Hasn't caused any problems (other than my DGD is treated like a princess by everyone ) so I wouldn't worry about it at all..

 

[The Mystery Machine]

It does sound wierd but I think the reality is you won't even notice it. And it sounds like a good plan for the onlys, no sibling rivarly, .

 

[Marion]

I'm an only child and so is my DH...we've been married over 20 years, quite happily I might add! The funny thing is we have 3 children....now THAT was a challenge....dealing with the sibling rivalry for the first time

 

[ead79]

I am an only, as is my fiance. I do feel sad that my children will have no aunts/uncles/cousins, but we hope that some of our dear friends can be their "adoptive" aunts and uncles. I know he is the right man for me to marry, so I know that God will work the aunt and uncle situation out as well.

 

[nancy679]

I am an only and my DH has one sister (married but no kids, and no intentions of having any) so my kids wont have cousins either. I dont think it really matters , because you could have cousins that are years apart, or miles apart making a relationship hard.

I have to agree with Marion, we have 3 kids too, and dealing with sibling rivalry was something I had no experience with. I think I'm doing a good job though

And of course my kids are spoiled by the grandparents, and their auntie.

I would have loved to have a big extended family, but we dont and thats just the way it is.

 

[Fire14]

and heck it makes life easy for us kids. no if's or ands of where we'll be for holidays

 

[Randi]

I am an only child of 2 onlies and the best thing is that both sets of grandparents got along great so we spent all holidays together rather than going to one house then the other. Heck, we spent lots of days together, we all lived in the same town.

 

[wdw4us]

I might as well be an only. My brother lives in TX and I live in NH. I am very close to my husband's family but I do have friends that are like sisters to me.

I think if they have a good circle of friends, it doesn't really matter.

denise

 

[ASFCurly]

I can't imagine not having aunts, uncles, cousins, ( I have 25 cousins, but I love my big family) but that shouldn't be a factor in whether they get married or not.

 

[catsrule]

My first cousin was and only child, and her husband is an only child. They have 2 children, and have been married for about 25 years now. They have lots of cousins and second cousins that they are close to. It hasn't been a problem for them at all.

 

[bambii]

and I turned out just fine, I had my family and then adopted Aunts Uncles and cousins we just called them that they are real close to the family.

then I married a guy with 13 brothers and sisters (halfs and steps) and he has over 7 aunts and uncles. then when we married I had aunts and uncles and it doesnt feel any different now then it did when i was younger. On my wedding day I became a step mom and aunt.

 

[epcotfan]

I'm an only child and it wouldn't bother me if I never became an aunt. As long as the couple loves one another nothing else should matter.

 

[gina2000]

Circumstances sometimes force people to move away from family anyhow. So having brothers and sisters/aunts and uncles does not guarantee that you will see them regularly.

Love is love. Wherever it comes from. Be it from few or many. Let them enjoy their relationship. If it turns into a lifelong commitment, I'm sure they will make it work for themselves and their children.

 

[snuggles]

My MIL and FIL were only children. They had 4 sons which gave them the family they never had. Their marrige lasted 55 years until my FIL passed away. I dont think having aunts and uncles matter. (I'm an only too) The main thing is if they love each other and love their kids.

 

[Ona]

I am on anly child and so is my Mum. So on that side of my family it's just my mum and my gran. My dad has 3 siblings but some live abroad and we aren't all that close really, to the others.

So at Christmas it's usually just me, my parents and my grandmother. But that is great. I can't speak from experience as I have only ever been an only child, I really feel that some times it's easier for us to be so close. I have absolutely no plans to get married (hey, I'm only 21 ) but I woudn't have ever considered that aspect of things. I guess everyone only knows what they are used to. So if a child has no cousins, are they really going to miss it?

JMHO.

Merry Christmas everyone,

Ona

 

[Kallison]

Tell them to pick some fabulous friends for Godparents. They will make out fine. I certainly don't think they should NOT get married just because their kids won't have aunts, uncles or cousins. Their shopping list will be a lot smaller at Christmas time.

My kids had 4 uncles, my DH's two brothers died before the age of 40, my brother died last year at the age of 45 and my other SIL is getting a divorce. So now they have no uncles. Life doesn't always work out the way you think it will.

 

[disykat]

I don't think it's any different than growing up an only child in the first place. For the only child the "weirder" thing would probably be marrying into a large family.