What do you think of people financing.....

[sajetto]

their weddings? I saw this on another board and my jaw dropped I saw people taking out personal loans and one person taking out a second mortage to pay for their daughter's wedding. I can't hold it in.............what's wrong with America! It seems to me like people go into debt for the craziest things. Flame all you want , but I have the Suze Orman way of telling it like it is.....just plain DUMB

I'm getting married in January, but its with money that I already have and a VERY small wedding. I put priority on buying a home rather than one day of my life. Am I REALLY alone in thinking this?

 

[shep]

This is one thing I will probaly never understand either...
We had a small wedding too and that is exactly what we did...Used money for our house instead of an expensive wedding..

Same thing goes with credit cards and not paying them off every month..
People get into to so much debt over them.. ..

 

[jennyl772003]

We kept ours small so that we wouldn't go into debt. My husband even paid off my ring before he gave it to me.

Debt is a crummy way to start a marraige!

 

[FreshTressa]

I found out that my dear parents financed my wedding about the time my second child was born.

They were still paying on it .

If I could go back, I would not have let them.

 

[sajetto]

I don't see a problem with people having big weddings if they have the money at hand. What I think is strange is when people are already in debt, but want to add to the pile. My sis and BIL had PLENTY of money to have a HUGE wedding. However, instead they decided to put that money to their home in Atlanta. Much better decision in my opinion, but if they had decided to use it to the wedding I wouldn't be concerned about it. They still had a really nice and pretty large wedding, but didn't spend as much as I KNOW they could have.

Many Brides get into what I call the "suck zone" all they see is the wedding. They eat, sleep, and breathe it and forget about what comes after the wedding.

My DF and I closed on our house on Friday. I love that house so much that the wedding is the LAST thing on my mind. I'm just looking forward to spending out lives together in that HOUSE, not 1 hour in the WDW wedding pavilion. Sure I'm excited about getting married at Disney but not so excited that I'm willing to blow our financial future for it.

 

[sajetto]

I found out that my dear parents financed my wedding about the time my second child was born.

They were still paying on it .

If I could go back, I would not have let them.

Awwww...I'm sorry Tressa. I'm sure that they didn't want you to know about it and they wanted you to be happy. They chose to do that, you didn't force them. How would you have known anyway unless they came right out and told you? I'm sure that as long as you were happy, they were too.

 

[Aurora63]

I personally would not do it, and I would advise others not to do it...but if they do it, it's their descision!

 

[goofyforlife]

I've caught parts of that TV show bridezillas and think some of these couples are nuts.

My DH and I had a simple wedding for about 80 people. We spent under $5,000. (We paid for most of the wedding ourselves.) I thought our wedding was nice and i could have cut more corners if I had too.

Now I see some of these couples who spend more than that on rings alone.....

Nuts I tell you.....

 

[sajetto]

I personally would not do it, and I would advise others not to do it...but if they do it, it's their descision!

You are VERY right it is their decision, but if they ask my opinion...which they did...I'm going to tell them exactly how I feel about it, not what they want to hear.

 

[rhanditresmom]

It is hard for me to understand. I spent probably $500 max on my wedding. Including dress...my mother made it for me (she is quite talented!). I think it makes more sense to save for a house, something you will use for years and years! It doesn't seem like a good idea to go into years and years of debt for the sake of one day.

 

[Buckalew11]

I think it is crazy. I think you have the right idea and people do get sucked into "the day" (the wedding) and forget about the marriage and life together.

We had a small wedding that I personally didn't want, but DH did.
We bought a house.

Sad about Fresh Tressa's parents going into debt and paying for so long. I am sure many people do that for their kids.

A few years ago here, a well known man was caught stealing money (small amounts really-- it really didn't make too much sense) from his workplace and one reason was because he was in such debt. When asked about it, he mentioned that he owed on his DD's wedding! He was a school principal and stole concession stand $$. He lost his job and all that and his poor DD, hearing that part of the reason he'd done it was because of the wedding!

 

[summerrluvv]

I think if that's what the parties invovled want to do then who cares really? It's their debt, they are paying on, why everyone else is so concerned about other people's debt is beyond me

 

[disykat]

I wouldn't do it. The only things beside a house or car that I would be willing to go into debt for would be a medical emergency or a desperate need - like food for my family.

I think it's fine to give my opinion on a topic - that's what we do here. I disagree that doing so makes me overly concerned with other people's business.

 

[Mickey527]

My son and DIL had to finance for their wedding two weeks before it happened.
Her mother and father said they would pay for the wedding. They picked the hall, the food, everything. They had planned on 200 people. My son wanted to use my backyard, the bride wanted to go to WDW and get married there.
I had no say in it at all.
I gave my family list and kept it down to 50 people. My list got cut by her mother down to my 4 brothers and two wives, the other two are single and could not bring a date. My sister who lives in FL was not invited because per the mother, "It's too far for her to come". I was seated at the table with my brothers because "that way you have someone you know next to you to talk to"
Her mother invited 120 people, relatives, friends, neighbors from their first house, etc....
The bride and groom could not have any friends because per the mom, "the wedding party was enough of their friends, you don't need to invite people just because you know them".
Two weeks before the wedding the parents of the bride told my son and DIL that they had overspent for their vacation and didn't have enough money to pay for the wedding.
So my son is now paying for the next 5 years to HFC for a wedding he didn't even want.

 

[Planogirl]

I think if that's what the parties invovled want to do then who cares really? It's their debt, they are paying on, why everyone else is so concerned about other people's debt is beyond me

ITA.

Different people have different priorities. Some people buy new cars, some finance trips to WDW and apparently some finance weddings. As long as they pay their bills, why is this anyone else's concern?

Besides it might be their only debt in some cases.

 

[Kimberle]

I think it's sad, really......

So many people "blame" it on the bride/groom. It's not always what they want. Around here, many "Franken-guests" make it very hard to plan a small simple wedding. (I live in the metro NYC area.) I've heard many people poking fun of people who choose not to have liquer at their receiption. "When we go to a wedding, we want to p-a-r-t-y...", "$5 out of the "envelope for every drink I had to buy myself", "I don't care if they don't believe in drinking, they need to treat their guest right", are all direct quotes I've heard from people I know.

I'm very glad I chose to get married in the mid-west, where I grew up.

 

[Planogirl]

My son and DIL had to finance for their wedding two weeks before it happened.
Her mother and father said they would pay for the wedding. They picked the hall, the food, everything. They had planned on 200 people. My son wanted to use my backyard, the bride wanted to go to WDW and get married there.
I had no say in it at all.
I gave my family list and kept it down to 50 people. My list got cut by her mother down to my 4 brothers and two wives, the other two are single and could not bring a date. My sister who lives in FL was not invited because per the mother, "It's too far for her to come". I was seated at the table with my brothers because "that way you have someone you know next to you to talk to"
Her mother invited 120 people, relatives, friends, neighbors from their first house, etc....
The bride and groom could not have any friends because per the mom, "the wedding party was enough of their friends, you don't need to invite people just because you know them".
Two weeks before the wedding the parents of the bride told my son and DIL that they had overspent for their vacation and didn't have enough money to pay for the wedding.
So my son is now paying for the next 5 years to HFC for a wedding he didn't even want.

Now this situation is very wrong IMO. If you promise to pay for a wedding and get to weeks before hand, I say find a way or cancel what you can. It was unfair of these parents to shift the burden like this.

 

[chell]

It doesn't bother me, that is their decision. Maybe they have a good reason for it.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

What others do with their money is their business.

But DH won't let me go into debt for a car or a HOUSE! And others get to finance weddings?!?! Life is so unfair.

 

[scrump]

If it makes them happy, they should do it, it's their life.

Personally, I wouldn't go into debt over a wedding, but I have known friends to do so, and they thought it was worth every penny.