What do you think of Internet dating??

[KAREN55555]

Just curious as to what people think of internet dating services? I met my fiance over the internet. It's strange but we both are very hesitant to tell people how we met. Last night we were at a black tie gala and the couple next to ask us how we met and we both looked at each other and told them our usual made up story. It's so strange. Will society ever except internet matches?

I'm interested in your responses

 

[Beauty]

I have absolutly no problem with internet dating as long as both parties are single/divorced and open to dating. Its the internet affairs that could and do break up marriages that bother me. If your unhappy in a relationship or marriage fine, making friends over the net is fine...but before you go to that next level you owe it to your husband, wife, SO or whatever to end one relationship before beginning another.

 

[goofygirl]

I met my BF of over 2 years through an online ad at Love@AOL (its Match.com now) and it the best move I ever made.


I am not hestitant to tell people how we met. Online dating is becoming more common and is losing the stigma that "only desperate people look for love online."

I still advice people to be careful before meeting someone though. There are liars and cheaters to be wary of.

 

[Ranatra]

My sister who had been single for a number of years, met her now current BF online about 2 years ago. I was VERY hesitant about this whole thing, because I thought she should have been more careful than she was. She's WAY too trusting of people. Thankfully, she met a wonderful guy, we all think the world of him and they seem to be headed toward a long time commitment.

 

[snoopy]

I've been out of the dating scene for so long, been married most of my adult life, so when I first heard about Internet dating I was so leery of it.

However, I have one friend here who I adore who met her husband via the Internet. I've met him as well, and they are the cutest couple. Before I found the DIS I might have thought it was only for the desperate, but now that I have known a few couples who got together this way, I think its a fine idea. As long as both parties are single, I see no difference than meeting at work or in a club or whatever.

 

[cassie]

I lurk, and I put my info in, but really don't have the courage to meet someone. Basically, all the men seem to want gals in the 30 something range. I'm talking of men in their 50's. Plus, of course, they want slim atheletic types. I don't fit the bill. I did post one time somewhere looking for a man who liked Disney. I figured that would be a safe bet. Unfortunetly no one responded.

 

[AMClvsMKY]

I personally have no problem with it - it you told me you met on-line I would think the same thing as I would overwise which is good for you!! I would probally be real hesitant if I were single but only because you never know what you are going to get. I realize you can get that anyway, but it seems a little safer to me for somebody that you trust to already know the person before you go out with them alone.

 

[RoqueC]

I think it's ridiculous. That's just my opinion.

 

[abaldacci]

I don't care how people meet as long as they are happy, but I was leery also when I first heard of it.

 

[Bunchkin]

Our next door neighbor met her husband via the internet and he is THE biggest loser!!! She has called the police on him twice for man-handeling her!!
I've called the police three times because of his dog destroying our property. And the other neighbors called the police on him once because of his dog too.
She admitted to us, right after they were married, that she knew very little about him and his family.
How do marry someone without knowing everything there is to know about them??

Now this jerk is the president of our homeowners association.
I have no clue how this happened without an election.

 

[Saffron]

Ahhh but you see, people who marry people without knowing much about who they are marrying, will marry people they met in the grocery store, at the zoo, at a PTA meeting etc. without really getting to know them.

I never thought in a million years I would date someone I met on the Internet but ------------- viola! Here I am!

I had planned NOT to be in a relationship with anyone until after I graduated from school. But then I got to know Will. Without the Internet, I never would have found him. I'm so glad I have. We know a lot about each other and have to find out a lot more about each other, but we are not in any hurry. For me, the Internet has been a blessing. I think if you take it slow, get to know each other, it's no different than meeting and dating anyone, anywhere. I don't mind telling people how we found each other at all. I'm just glad we have.

 

[DocRafiki]

Originally posted by RoqueC
I think it's ridiculous. That's just my opinion.

Thanks for your expert 16-yr-old opinion on dating.

Anyway, I have browsed those ads a lot and even met a few. IMO, there are very few "good guys" out there, and even fewer on the internet. A girlfriend of mine keeps dating loser after loser; she is definitely part of the problem... not picky enough.

I did meet a local vet my age when I first moved down here. It was obvious right away that he wasn't dating material, but I'm glad I got to know him. He's been good company for the last 1.5 years, and it was through him (actually a friend of a friend of a friend of his ) that I got my job in Orlando.

Basically, I'm too picky to date anyone from a dating service. I can find something wrong with every one of those ads. I usually have to know someone first and get to know them platonically before I can be attracted to them these days (I mean, now that all the HOTTIES are taken).

 

[SonjaB]

Personally, I like to meet friends on the Internet, then after I have verified there are no obvious genetic/inherited flaws, have them underhandedly introduce me to their brother by lying to the both of us so we'll say 'hi' to each other.....

LOL, I really don't care how I met him, I'm just grateful I did.


Hmmmm.....I bet Nik thinks I owe her BIG.....

 

[Jenzebelle]

I met my husband on AOL and I am not ashamed to tell people how we met.

Sure we've had our ups and downs, just like any relationship. But we love each other and isn't that what matters? Who cares how you met, so long as you are together and in love?

 

[cuterlt]

I met my DH on the internet about 6 years ago now in an AOL chatroom. We have been married for 5 years. It is kind of wierd to tell people how we met, but it makes for an interesting story. DH is wonderful. My friends and family love him! My colleagues even helped a great deal with my wonderful, but very quaint, wedding.... I don't think I would have found anyone, had it not been for my DH.

 

[Jeff in BigD]

As long as the relationship isn't solely based on the computer I don't think it would be an issue. I wouldn't keep contacting someone only over the internet solely because there are only some things you can know by being around someone in person.

I wouldn't meet someone on the internet that lived in Maine or something & then start a relationship or anything like that, but if I met someone in the area on the internet & we hung out & then started dating it wouldn't bother me.

 

[scarlett873]

it doesn't bother me if that's how someone chooses to meet someone...but in this day and age, you need to be CAREFUL! there are some real nut jobs out there...

my hubby and i had an online relationship, but we knew each other long before that began. but it was a great way to reintroduce ourselves...

 

[MeanLaureen]

DH Obi-Wan Pinobi and I met on AOL in Jan of 1999. We got married Nov 6, 1999 and we are still together so I'd say meeting someone on the Internet is pretty darn cool

Besides, in theory it's not a lot different than meeting someone at a bar and going out with them. You have no idea what you are getting into that way either.

 

[antnee]

well i think in the future it will be as common as meeting someone in a public place

 

[AngieBelle]

Well, I've never used internet dating services, but I did meet my boyfriend online! He contacted me after reading my Beauty and the Beast fanfiction that's online because he's a huge B&TB fan. He works at WDW, and I had a trip planned there about 2 months after we met online so we got to meet in person. We also hung out during my college program. He had a crush on me from day one, but it took me almost two years to return the feelings! I think internet chatting is a great way to get to know each other if you are both honest people. I know for me, it is much easier to write than it is to speak, so I act more like myself. Of course, once you're comfortable online, it's mandatory to spend time together in person too!