WHAT??? do you think everyone around you is stupid?

[cheermom1]

My sil is headed to jail for fraud and theft..she already took my other sil's ID...ok while she is waiting on going to jail she called my other sil and told her that her and my bro are going to a concert and wanted to know if they would like to go as well...my other sil said yes that sounds fun ..sil told her she needs her CC # to buy her and her dh's tickets???? UMMMM why in the world do you think she is going to give YOU her CC#???

Than another day sil called other sil and told her she was doing a GED program online and wanted to know if she wanted to do it too and if she did all she had to do was send her $300...again???

WOW just WOW ..

other sil did NOT fall for any of it...

 

[Jennasis]

My sil is headed to jail for fraud and theft..she already took my other sil's ID...ok while she is waiting on going to jail she called my other sil and told her that her and my bro are going to a concert and wanted to know if they would like to go as well...my other sil said yes that sounds fun ..sil told her she needs her CC # to buy her and her dh's tickets???? UMMMM why in the world do you think she is going to give YOU her CC#???

Than another day sil called other sil and told her she was doing a GED program online and wanted to know if she wanted to do it too and if she did all she had to do was send her $300...again???

WOW just WOW ..

other sil did NOT fall for any of it...

That's chutzpah! Glad nobody caved.

 

[cheermom1]

That's chutzpah! Glad nobody caved.

no she didn't cave she just called me and told me what she did ...

see I'm very close to other sil and my bro but I am not close to sil and bro..does that make since?

anyway other sil has been in our family since she was 16 through foster care and we just bonded ...

my bro that is with sil we aren't very close and he likes it that, nothing wrong with it, just stating...anyway we are still trying to figure out why he hasn't left her or something?? we try to be civil to her but how far can you go??

 

[Disneyland1084]

No offense Cheermom, but your SIL (the one going to jail) is an idiot!

 

[cheermom1]

No offense Cheermom, but your SIL (the one going to jail) is an idiot!

you don't have to tell me that ..I know geez what guts she has ...

 

[Liberty Belle]

She sounds either really stupid or really desperate. Are there drugs involved?

 

[cheermom1]

She sounds either really stupid or really desperate. Are there drugs involved?

not that I know of but you never know..like I said we aren't that close..they live a good 2 hours or so from me and the rest of the family..she did this to other sil b/c she has the same last name and it would be very easy to take her ID...

 

[sbell111]

ummmm... ok.

 

[Amy&Dan]

I have a cousin who has a daughter who has done this. When she sweetly asks me when I go their house "do you want me to go put your purse in the bedroom?" I sweetly say "NO"! Heck, I don't even take my wallet in there with me, I leave it locked in the glovebox. She's crafty. But so stupid to always assume she's one step ahead of eveyone else.

 

[cheermom1]

I have a cousin who has a daughter who has done this. When she sweetly asks me when I go their house "do you want me to go put your purse in the bedroom?" I sweetly say "NO"! Heck, I don't even take my wallet in there with me, I leave it locked in the glovebox. She's crafty. But so stupid to always assume she's one step ahead of everyone else.

yep we leave our purses in our car if we go to their house...when they come to our house I always hide them in my room with the door shut...so sad that people like really think that other people really think they are that stupid to just give them info to use...my dh said she has a word I can't say here...

 

[bumbershoot]

Wow. That puts my own SIL, who has used her family and gotten things for free (to promptly SELL them or destroy them) for decades, to shame! (and with my SIL, drugs have definitely been involved, as she married an active heroin user who is a felon that she met while a counselor at a halfway house, and she probably uses as well, though maybe not *heroin*)

 

[surfergirl602]

you don't have to tell me that ..I know geez what guts she has ...

I don't think it comes down to guts... I think she has an actual problem, and seriously needs some help for it.

 

[cheermom1]

I don't think it comes down to guts... I think she has an actual problem, and seriously needs some help for it.

She doesn't want help..she has said that she doesn't owe anything b/c she didn't steal that much and that they got most of it back anyway and she shouldn't have any jail time at all...now what she did was steal a CC from the place she was working and racked up over 20k on it and she some how got a key to their PO and was stealing their mail 1. to get the CC bill and 2. to see if any CC offers would come in...plus she gave a few things she bought with the CC to a cop (who had no idea she did this till they came to pick up the items for his house) she even sent somethings to someone in another state and they had to go get them...on top of that she has already been in jail for the same behavior once before...she also like I said took my other sil's ID but they didn't have enough evidence to make that one stick (bunch of legal crap!!)

Like I said she doesn't want the help.....

 

[starrzone]

It's so sad to see family members go down the wrong path, but even worse when they don't want help...because I've come to realize that if someone doesn't want to change/get help, there's no way that you can make them. I guess all we can do is try and give (non-financial) support to them...sometimes it takes a real crisis to make them change their ways...and that's never a good thing.

 

[cheermom1]

It's so sad to see family members go down the wrong path, but even worse when they don't want help...because I've come to realize that if someone doesn't want to change/get help, there's no way that you can make them. I guess all we can do is try and give (non-financial) support to them...sometimes it takes a real crisis to make them change their ways...and that's never a good thing.

I know I hear ya..however she already had one kid taken away and she hardly ever sees the kid..I would think that would be enough of a crisis to turn myself around...but of course that is me not her...

we are all hoping my bro divorces her but so far he hasn't...he has told us he is afraid of her and he keeps a gun under his pillow..so again we do not understand why she is still there...

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

...we are all hoping my bro divorces her but so far he hasn't...he has told us he is afraid of her and he keeps a gun under his pillow..so again we do not understand why she is still there...

Wow!

 

[cheermom1]

Wow!

I know we have told him that is NOT a good idea at all..he doesn't listen to us and he moved where he moved to stay private but than tells us things like this

I DO NOT understand..but I have chosen to let him do what he thinks he should..I told him that if he didn't want us to say anything than don't tell us anything ..he tell mom and dad now but of course they tell me...I try to tell them that what he is doing is wrong too and they make excesses..IMO there is no excuse to have a gun under your pillow with kids in the house!!!! what is he thinking??????

can you tell I'm a little frustrated...

 

[luvsJack]

Why is he afraid of her? Does he stay to protect children? Maybe if someone offered him a place to go to?

I have a cousin whose wife went to jail several times for writing bad checks. She would open an account and just begin writing checks everywhere. Then she went to a title loan place and got a loan and somehow (we don't know exactly how she managed this one) got another loan at another place on the same vehicle. No drugs involved and she didn't go out and buy expensive stuff. It was as though it was just the thrill of doing it??

 

[cheermom1]

Why is he afraid of her? Does he stay to protect children? Maybe if someone offered him a place to go to?

I have a cousin whose wife went to jail several times for writing bad checks. She would open an account and just begin writing checks everywhere. Then she went to a title loan place and got a loan and somehow (we don't know exactly how she managed this one) got another loan at another place on the same vehicle. No drugs involved and she didn't go out and buy expensive stuff. It was as though it was just the thrill of doing it??

He has a place to go with the kids and he knows it..she sat in jail for a good couple of months and he didn't even talk to a lawyer...I'm thinking he wants to stay with her but is saying these things to get a poor me from the family..I told him that I don't do the poor me unless you TRY to do something about your situation!!!

 

[luvsJack]

He has a place to go with the kids and he knows it..she sat in jail for a good couple of months and he didn't even talk to a lawyer...I'm thinking he wants to stay with her but is saying these things to get a poor me from the family..I told him that I don't do the poor me unless you TRY to do something about your situation!!!

I agree with you totally. You cannot help someone that will not help themselves and some people just like the drama. Its sad for the kids though.