I miss spontaneity. We have a very handicapped 14yo son and getting away by ourselves even to go to a movie requires planning and juggling. We recently qualified for some help on the weekends, 3 hours Fri-Sat-Sun. But it's not enough. I would give anything to have someone we could trust to care for him for a week so we could go do some things with our other kids, like go on a cruise or go to the beach. I fear that we won't get any let up until he's an adult. DH and I are both 53; we're both dealing with serious health problems. We'll be 61 when he turns 21. So, yeah...spontaeity.