Because Disney is all about the bottom line....profit. Once they brought in
free dining, the restaurants went to pot (pardon the pun). The menus became shortened, the portions became smaller. For instance.....I took my two dd's (15 and 33) to WDW last week. My eldest dd's favorite spot to eat is 50's. She ate there 2 yrs ago, in Jan, and loved it. She got her pot roast, and commented that it seemed much smaller than the first time. Why? Because it was. At LeCellier many more expensive things have been taken off the menu.
Another for instance....a few years ago, we ate at Coral Reef. We had an incredible meal. So, when we returned there, last Sept during free dining (I booked before free dining was announced!!) we looked forward to a similar experience. It was the polar opposite....the servers were incredibly stressed and rushed, the noise level was incredible. There were young children running all over the place, there were babies screaming at many tables. This was at about 7pm. It was so awful that we decided to forgo dessert and leave...even though we had been looking forward to the dessert there. Our food was okay, but not of the same caliber that our first visit provided.
I have no issue with kids in upscale restaurants. I sometimes wish my 15 y/o had more adventurous taste in food, but she is very picky and tries nothing new. We were lucky...at FF while there were children, they were very well behaved and were a tribute to their parents. But, if I had spent over $150 for my dh and my dinners, with no alcohol, I would have been more than a bit miffed if I had had to shout to hear him over a melting down child.
I love kids, I have three of my own. I sent my two dd's off to play mini-golf while we ate at FF!!! Neither one of them would have appreciated the meal.
Perhaps Disney could come up with a restaurant that allowed families to dine together but allow the parents a more adult experience. Perhaps as someone already mentioned, provide child sized portions of existing meals, maybe provide some 'Disneyfied' food choices for the youngsters. I have no problem with that. I like a nice ambiance in a restaurant, not yelling kids. I like it to be dimly lit, not bright. I like a nice wine list. I want a good choice of both seafood and beef/chicken/lamb. I don't ask for much, and I'm very easy to please.
It may seem that many of us have something against children dining in more adult restaurants. We don't. I'm sure there are many well behaved kids out there. I just seem to run into the ill behaved ones it would seem.
With the advent of free dining, Disney has pretty much told us how it feels about 'fine dining' while onsite. What passes for 'fine dining' or two TS credit meals, in WDW is pretty similar to our regular restaurants here at home, in Boston. Sure, V&As is a notch above but they're pretty much it. Disney finds which places are crowd pleasers and then makes them 2 TS, calling them signature dining.
I think they do a decent job with the spots they have. I know that a lot of people wish that Disney would provide an adults only time at some restaurants. But, that will never happen. And I realize a lot of you will argue with those of us who say Disney isn't 'just for the kids'. I go to WDW every Dec to join up with my adult friends every year. We spend a ton of money there...not a kid in the group. We are all over the age of 30!!! Many of us have wished for a spot, other than Jellyrolls, that is more adult. But, again...it's Disney. Disney wants to appeal to the masses, and those masses bring their children with them. Nothing wrong with that..it's just the way Disney does business.