What do you do when you get in a fight with a family member?

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I am just upset right now. My sister and I are fighting. We each have said some hurtful things to the other. Apparently without the other one knowing it. I didn't think any of the stuff I said was hurtful, just stating my position, but she left a very nasty message on my machine saying I had done the same. There is so much drama here, and so much history. I could write a book on it. I think each of us has a personality that can be hurt quickly. Hard to say. I have often just let things slide and don't address things. I hate confrontations and frankly will do anything to avoid them. This time is truly the first time I have said my position and it gets slammed back at me. No matter what I end up feeling badly about the situation and I am just beside myself. so far she has hung up on me, and we each left messages that weren't helpful apparently. I just like to pretend that all is well, but this time it is not, and I can't just pretend it will blow over. I have a call out to our minister. I think the only way to resolve this is to get together with her and our minister. But I don't know that she would even go for it. Too much drama.

 

[jamsmom]

{{{HUGS}}} I am not sure what to say. Unfortunately, the mood I am in at this moment, I would say go have a drink!!

 

[nativetxn]

I would wait a few days before I decided what to do. I would think about what I could say to make her feel better without making myself feel worse. I have been known to put my feelings in writing. (can you tell I've been through similar situations with my own sister?)

About 6 years ago we decided that our relationship was too important to each of us to even consider discussing certain topics. So we don't discuss those topics. It helps a <b>LOT</b>. We haven't had a real bad disagreement in 6 years.

I know her weaknesses and she knows my weaknesses. It's too easy to hurt each other when we disagree. This works better for us.

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. Good luck with this.

 

[Mishetta]

I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. I don't have any siblings but I have a cousin who at one time, we were very close. We are so opposite & sometimes I wonder if we'd be friends if we weren't related. Probably not. She's done so many things to deeply hurt me but when it comes right down to it, I still feel like I could call her if I needed help.

It's your sister, you'll need to work this out, somehow. I think getting he minister involved is a good thing but maybe you'd both better chill out before meeting again.

I hope things work out & quickly.

Many {{{{hugs}}}} being sent your way!

 

[Serena]

I'd give it a couple days too. Let each other cool off a little before doing anything.

Sisters are important.

Me and my sister didn't get along at all until she had kids. All of a sudden she was calling me all the time.