What do you call your MIL/FIL?

[Binkrin]

I spent the day with my (future) in-laws on Saturday. I realized that I don't call them anything. FH calls my parents by their first names because they have told him to.

I don't know how I feel about calling them Mom and Dad after we are married. Thoughts? Feelings?

 

[musclecar_72]

I call them by their first names.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I call her by her first name (...at least to her face )

 

[mickeyboat]

We call them by their first names.

Denae

 

[FlyingBelle]

Had a discussion about this with my dad recently. He feels that his children's spouses should call him what we call him. Problem is, my DH is the same age as my dad's brother. Just doesn't feel right!

When we got married my in-laws signed my first b-day card as:

Love,
Mom & Dad
or
Frank & Carol
or
Whatever!

I LOVED it! Now I just call them... whatever!

 

[lisajl]

To their face or behind their backs? J/K... I don't really call them anything, I just say hi or how are you, etc.
They are not my mom and dad, and after 21 years of marriage to their son, they still are not my mom and dad.
Never felt comfortable calling them that.

My sisters DIL calls her mom and she loves it! I think I would too, if you had a good relationship with the in laws.

Lisa

 

[Marseeya]

Ask them.

I call my FIL by his first name at his request, and I call my MIL Mom at hers, but I'm really not comfortable with that. Neither one of my inlaws are old enough to be my parents.

 

[lizardqueen]

all depends...either by their first names or mom and dad. now that we have kids and they are usually around, it's just easier to say "hey grammy" or "hey pop"

 

[ReggieB]

You know, no one has ever cleared that up for me! After 10 years I still manage to skirt round calling them anything!!

 

[NCDisneyMom]

I asked my MIL what she wanted me to call them, while we were still engaged. She said she would be honored if I called them "Mom & Dad", but understood that I may be uncomfortable with that, so calling them by their first names would be fine. I'm close to my parents, so it was hard for awhile. I think it was about 7 or 8 years after we got married that I finally got used to calling them Mom & Dad. We sometimes have both my parents and my in-laws over at the same time, so those times I will call them by their first names, since my parents will answer to me calling "Mom" or "Dad".

 

[pearlieq]

I call them by their first names.

I don't feel comfortable calling them mom and dad. My mom is the person who's been with me my whole life, and who is always in my corner, not a virtual stranger who gave birth to DH. They're nice, good people, but they're not my parents.

 

[LisaB]

Hey you.. No I call them by their first names. I don't like calling adults Mr and Mrs. I actually drives me nuts.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Mom and Dad..but it has taken me a long while to do that (about 5 or 6 years). I felt goofy or something.

SIL calls them that--so i figure if they don't mind when she does it...then I could do it.

I do use it very sparingly though.

After many step-dads--I don't dole out the 'dad' title too much--and my mommy is still my mommy.

 

[Beth76]

first name

 

[jennyl772003]

They refer to themselves as Mom and Dad, but I just don't feel comfortable calling them that. If I HAVE to, I call them by their first names, but even that feels uncomfortable. I usually refer to them as Grandma or Grandpa when my son is around.

If at all possible, I don't call them anything, I just start talking.

 

[MEG&MINNIE]

Grandpa (after we had kids) or Dick and Carol. Hope this helps!

 

[nickelsfamily]

You know, no one has ever cleared that up for me! After 10 years I still manage to skirt round calling them anything!!

SOUNDS KIND OF LIKE ME!
WHEN I CALL THEM I ADDRESS THEM BY THEIR FIRST NAMES. IN CARDS (GIVEN OR RECEIVED) ITS MOM & DAD. MY DH HAS TOLD ME THAT THEY WOULD LOVE FOR ME TO CALL THEM MOM & DAD, BUT I CAN'T GET COMFORTABLE WITH THAT. MY PARENTS GOT DIVORCED WHEN I WAS VERY YOUNG, WHEN MY MOM REMARRIED I STARTED CALLING MY SF DAD, MY BIOLOGICAL FATHER - FATHER, SO ITS A BIT MUCH TO ADD ANY MORE TO THE MIX! I'D JUST CONFUSE MYSELF! I GET ALONG VERY WELL WITH MY INLAWS SO THAT'S NOT AN ISSUE.

I THINK THAT IT SHOULD BE WHATEVER YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH!

 

[Ava83]

I call my MIL-Momma, Big Momma or her first name (her husband and my DH also call her Big Momma-don't know why) But its 95% of the time its Mamma.

Now my FIL is Pop-Dh now calls him that too so I started a trend there.

 

[salmoneous]

I've gone 18-years of knowing mine without ever having to call them anything. DW and I joke about it, but it's working for me so far, and I don't intend to change.

 

[ely3857]

Christine & Malcom, although thinking about it I rarely need to thier attention almost never speak their names. In conversation they are referred to as 'his' Mam & Dad



Jodie