Were you completely sure they were the one? (Yeah, I'm bragging about Monica...)

[VampHeartless]

I know, I know, I already talk about her too much...

but...I am simply going CRAZY over Monica...

We talk everyday, and things are so wonderful. She seems perfect...despite her past, the women it's turned her into has all the things I every imagined in my perfect love.

I was scared at first...and, now, I'm easing into her...and it's not as scary.

I know, everyone's gonna talk about waiting and taking it slow and whatever...and we are.

(We figured, marriage is at least three years off...maybe longer. We both have careers and dreams to follow)

But, dang, this girl is really stealing my heart right now!!! I want to marry her tomorrow!!

How do you know for sure? Did you know for sure?? I swear, I don't know if I could imagine anything more real sometimes...she makes me want to burst!
It is still scary...until she talks to me, or I see her online...and...then it's totally comfort...

maybe I'm being stupid...who knows...but I'm really happy for the time being...

 

[Pin Wizard]

Congrats!! It sure sounds like you're very happy.

No, I wasn't sure. Ha! I finally got to the point with him...make up your mind what you're doing. He definitely had cold feet a couple times being he was divorced.

Have fun and enjoy it!!

 

[Freyja]

I knew pretty soon DH was the one. We had been dating for 5 months when we got engaged. That was 11 years ago, we have now been married for 8 years and are expecting our 4th baby. Sometimes you´ve just got to follow your heart.

 

[Jolie C]

I don't really believe in "the one", so I can't answer the question, but I'm really happy for you and the excitement and fun you are having with your new relationship.

 

[grinningghost]

Whatever it turns out to be, who cares? You're having fun NOW and that's what matters. Good for you! And don't worry about talking about Monica too much - it's awesome to hear about someone being so happy.

 

[Laura]

Don't worry about the future right now. She isn't going anywhere, right? I knew when I stopped wondering, basically. You'll just know.

 

[Shugardrawers]

I knew instantly. How I knew I couldn't say. I just did. I had wondered before if someone I was with might be "the one" but in DH's case, I didn't wonder. I just knew it. How your partner makes you feel about yourself is a pretty good guage. DH made me feel like the most beautiful, desirable woman in the world. My opinion meant the world to him and he wanted to hear what I had to say about everything. Whatever we did, wherever we were, I just knew his focus was on me. Every promise he made to me was kept. I knew every minute where he was and what he was doing, not because I had to but because he just told me. We've been together 4 1/2 years now and I still feel the same way. He's the only man that ever completely filled the void I felt. He really was the missing 1/2 of me. I think he's way too good for me but I'm grateful every day he doesn't think the same way. I adore him.

 

[KristiKelly]

I knew pretty quickly, within a month or 2, that DH was the one. However, we dated for 6 years before getting married (too young & I was in school). We have been married for 10 years & together for 16-1/2 years. Good Luck!!!!!!!!

 

[MScott1851]

I knew DH was the one within a few months. He, however, took a little longer to decide on ME.

We dated off and on intermittently for 5 years before we got married.

 

[JESW]

I knew fairly early on that DH was "the one". We met when we were both 26 and working at the same company. We started dating in March, moved in together in December and were married in June. Rather quick! But 17 years and 2 kids later we are still together! Yes, it was VERY tough in the beginning as we didn't really know each other and living with another person is hard, but we got through it. Our marriage still has its ups and downs but we have weathered all the storms. We have grown together.

Good luck to you and I hope it all works out!

Jill

 

[HappyMommy2]

DH says he knew the first time he met me that I was "the one."

DH was the first person I ever dated, so, having no previous relationship to compare to, I don't think I really realized he was "the one" until he moved across the country for military training some time after we began dating, and I realized that I NEVER EVER wanted to live apart from him again. That's when I knew he was "the one." We've been happily married for nearly 11 years now

It's fun to hear how happy you are Vamp. Best wishes.

 

[MELSMICE]

No, I didn't know DH was "the one". In fact, I didn't even like him when we went on our first date. Tried to get rid of him the next few times he called.

The night I knew that I really liked him was a night I was going to cancel a date but found out he had made plans with a group of his friends & we were all going to dinner together. I thought "Gee, the poor guy - I can't do that to him, but this is the last date!" It was that night that I realized he was really a great guy.

Thank goodness he was persistent & didn't get turned off by all my stupid excuses.

 

[Feralpeg]

Obviously, it is hard to know if someone is goint to be your perfect life soulmate. If it were easy, there wouldn't be so many divorces. That being said, you'll never know if you don't give love a chance. It sounds like you are very happy and that makes me happy! I truely hope this love turns out to be "the one"!

 

[danacara]

Vamp - BRAKES. BRAKES. BRAKES. GO SLOW.
From one mid-twentysomething to another

 

[Microcell]

Vamp,

You know where I stand, and I won't rehash. That being said, I think it is great that you will be waiting at least three years to get married, and be happy. It feels real to you and that is all that matters right now. When it gets closer to time to pop the question or anything like that, just be sure you agree on the fundimentals. Heck, do you even want to live in the same place? That can all wait, and be happy with your happiness!

 

[Tasha+Scott]

I knew almost instantly that Dh was "the one". We dated for a year and got married VERY young. I was only 19 and he was almost 21. Our first year of marriage was TERRIBLE! I often wondered why I had jumped into marriage so fast and if I had made this huge mistake. However, we decided to try to make things work, and we did. Now it's been over 5 years later and I am truly more in love with him now than I was when we first fell in love. I don't regret marrying him at all and feel that he is definitely my "soul mate." He makes me happier than I ever knew was possible. I just wanted to let you know though that it is wise if you wait before getting married. It may seem great now, but if you rush into marriage you will find out how much you really don't know about each other yet. I am glad I made the decision I did but I would recommend dating for several years before getting engaged. That is JMHO, of course. I am glad she makes you happy though. Hopefully a few years from now you will be posting about your engagement!

 

[shortbun]

One day at a time mate. Keep it simple and I never forget that expectations can become dissapointments. I try to use "easy does it" as my life motto. Have fun!
I knew my life partner was the one when I tried to boss him around and he just laughed at me then followed my instructions-still laughing. He's a good man and I like having him around after 23 years!

 

[disneyelaine]

Well I dated one guy in college for about 5 years. Then spent ages 24 to 28 basically dating many guys, never finding Mr. Right. All my girlfriends would sit around and rehash each date/each new guy, wondering what this guy meant when he said something, wondering if this new one would call again, etc, etc....THEN I met the man who would become my husband. And guess what.......there was NOTHING to rehash ad nausaum with my girlfriends! THAT is how I knew he was going to be the one.

Then a song came out right as we began dating. Words in it went "with you I never wonder, will you be there for me, with you I never wonder.....

It hit me that with this guy I never did wonder.....he never gave me a reason to wonder and I just knew.

The song was Love of a Lifetime by Firehouse...a early 90s' band. It was our 1st dance song when we got married a year after we met.

 

[ericamanda01]

We had been dating for just a short while and he took me out to dinner form my birthday. We ran into some of his buddies and he introduced me as "My love" . Without a thought I knew he was the "one!

 

[disneyworld!]

yeh, I was there 2 1/2 yrs ago, I still beleive his is my one true love......just didn't work out...and I am out several thousand dollars....I now do not believe in it! to this day....I can feel everything about him....and I will never trust anyone again!