Well that sucked!

[mom2grace]

DH bought me a sweater that he knew wouldn't fit (bought a petite on purpose, told me I could exchange it) and a piece of costume jewelry. I told him, buy something pretty at X store in a Medium. A nicer ladies clothing store with plenty of pretty items in a medium. I'm not petite, I'm 5'6" tall and a solid size 12.

I'm pretty simple when it comes to jewelry, have 2 rings that I wear every day, wear earrings once a year. There is a jewelry line that I do like that is not costume but is not expensive. The catalog comes to our house regularly. I have never bought a piece of costume jewelry in my life. It looks like plastic.

I was devastated on Christmas morning, as he continued to open present after present.

I spent $400+ on him, including the Star Wars BB-8 droid that I knew he would love. Packages regularly arrived from amazon and he knew they were for him as they were bought on my amazon account, not our joint account. I wanted to surprise him and I also didn't want to be on our joint account to accidentally see what he was getting me. That laugh is on me.

He has issues from childhood surrounding Christmas and I gave him $400 from my personal fun money account to go and buy things for our 2 kids, this was after all of the Santa list items were purchased. It's important for him that the kids have lots of gifts to open. Remember, he bought me 2 gifts, one of which he knew wouldn't fit.

And then he managed to lose our 12 year old son's drone within the first hour of playing with it. It's gone for good.

We've been married for 18 years. Thanks for listening.

 

[monsterkitty]

DH bought me a sweater that he knew wouldn't fit (bought a petite on purpose, told me I could exchange it) and a piece of costume jewelry. I told him, buy something pretty at X store in a Medium. A nicer ladies clothing store with plenty of pretty items in a medium. I'm not petite, I'm 5'6" tall and a solid size 12.

I'm pretty simple when it comes to jewelry, have 2 rings that I wear every day, wear earrings once a year. There is a jewelry line that I do like that is not costume but is not expensive. The catalog comes to our house regularly. I have never bought a piece of costume jewelry in my life. It looks like plastic.

I was devastated on Christmas morning, as he continued to open present after present.

I spent $400+ on him, including the Star Wars BB-8 droid that I knew he would love. Packages regularly arrived from amazon and he knew they were for him as they were bought on my amazon account, not our joint account. I wanted to surprise him and I also didn't want to be on our joint account to accidentally see what he was getting me. That laugh is on me.

He has issues from childhood surrounding Christmas and I gave him $400 from my personal fun money account to go and buy things for our 2 kids, this was after all of the Santa list items were purchased. It's important for him that the kids have lots of gifts to open. Remember, he bought me 2 gifts, one of which he knew wouldn't fit.

And then he managed to lose our 12 year old son's drone within the first hour of playing with it. It's gone for good.

We've been married for 18 years. Thanks for listening.

Some friends have spent the last week at Children's Hospital. They spent Christmas with their 11 year old daughter who is in a medically induced coma.

So what is your concern again? (I am sorry your DH lost your son's drone. Bummer for your son)

 

[mom2grace]

Some friends have spent the last week at Children's Hospital. They spent Christmas with their 11 year old daughter who is in a medically induced coma.

So what is your concern again? (I am sorry your DH lost your son's drone. Bummer for your son)

I'm a pediatric oncology nurse, I get it! But, really, who else can I say this too? I certainly don't want to burden my family and friends.

 

[BillBrasky]

As a DH myself, I can tell you there are some foolproof tips to follow when buying clothing for your wife, listed in detail below.

1- Don't.

 

[Pamlur]

Mom2Grace, my ex consistently did stuff like that. One year I had asked for an electric typewriter; my parents lived out of town and I wrote them fairly lengthy letters often. The box appeared under the Christmas tree, I was so happy! When I opened it, it was a sewing machine. I liked to sew, but I had a perfectly good sewing machine. The sewing machine cost more than the typewriter would have, so that wasn't the issue. I know it's not the price, it's the thinking pattern (or lack of). I am so sorry.

 

[mom2grace]

As a DH myself, I can tell you there are some foolproof tips to follow when buying clothing for your wife, listed in detail below.

1- Don't.

Ha! He asked me my size in a text message the day he went shopping there. It would have been fine if it would have fit!

I knew he would be near the store & thought it would be easy. I had no idea it would be my major gift!

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Some friends have spent the last week at Children's Hospital. They spent Christmas with their 11 year old daughter who is in a medically induced coma.

So what is your concern again? (I am sorry your DH lost your son's drone. Bummer for your son)

A bit dramatic answer to a vent, don't you think? Yes, we all know that there are people worse off but does that mean nobody is allowed to vent here?

 

[disneychrista]

Sounds like it is time to stop exchanging.

 

[monsterkitty]

I'm a pediatric oncology nurse, I get it! But, really, who else can I say this too? I certainly don't want to burden my family and friends.

My apologies. I understand you were just venting and that you were disappointed. Maybe I'm just venting as well.

 

[cijay]

I'm sorry your presents weren't up to snuff. That's actually one of the 50 reasons I don't want people to buy them for me. There's no risk of them buying me something I don't want/can't use.

Did you have a good time with your family? Did you cook or eat a nice meal, have a relaxing day? Like, was everything else okay?

 

[mom2grace]

My apologies. I understand you were just venting and that you were disappointed. Maybe I'm just venting as well.

Trust me, I have everything in perspective when it comes to my kids. We spend a lot of quantity and quality time together as I personally know many mothers who have lost their children to cancer and other illness. I never take them for granted.

 

[mom2grace]

I'm sorry your presents weren't up to snuff. That's actually one of the 50 reasons I don't want people to buy them for me. There's no risk of them buying me something I don't want/can't use.

Did you have a good time with your family? Did you cook or eat a nice meal, have a relaxing day? Like, was everything else okay?

Yes, our larger family Christmas was good and my family (parents and sister) were very generous and thoughtful.

 

[DawnM]

I would NEVER give my husband $400 and tell him to do the Christmas shopping for my boys.

Magic only happens if I make it happen.

My husband is a great guy, but gifts aren't his thing.

I buy my own gifts too. I get exactly what I want that way.

 

[LisaR]

I'm sorry your DH disappointed you with his gift selection, I truly am, but every year there are posts just like this and I really can't wrap my head around it. You've been married for 18 years. You know he apparently has some issues. I don't understand being disappointed or expecting something different to happen this year when it sounds like he has always been this way. It just seems like you set yourself up to expect something that simply wasn't going to happen. Why not stop with the gift giving? Get yourself what you want instead. He isn't going to change and I think you need to accept that and let it go...unless this goes even deeper than Christmas presents.

 

[sonnyjane]

Sounds like it is time to stop exchanging.

This. DH and I have been together for almost 10 years. We don't exchange gifts. Not for anniversaries. Not for birthdays. Not for Christmas. The result is bliss. No worry. No anxiety. No disappointment.

 

[BigAlsGal]

DH bought me a sweater that he knew wouldn't fit (bought a petite on purpose, told me I could exchange it) and a piece of costume jewelry. I told him, buy something pretty at X store in a Medium. A nicer ladies clothing store with plenty of pretty items in a medium. I'm not petite, I'm 5'6" tall and a solid size 12.

I'm pretty simple when it comes to jewelry, have 2 rings that I wear every day, wear earrings once a year. There is a jewelry line that I do like that is not costume but is not expensive. The catalog comes to our house regularly. I have never bought a piece of costume jewelry in my life. It looks like plastic.

I was devastated on Christmas morning, as he continued to open present after present.

I spent $400+ on him, including the Star Wars BB-8 droid that I knew he would love. Packages regularly arrived from amazon and he knew they were for him as they were bought on my amazon account, not our joint account. I wanted to surprise him and I also didn't want to be on our joint account to accidentally see what he was getting me. That laugh is on me.

He has issues from childhood surrounding Christmas and I gave him $400 from my personal fun money account to go and buy things for our 2 kids, this was after all of the Santa list items were purchased. It's important for him that the kids have lots of gifts to open. Remember, he bought me 2 gifts, one of which he knew wouldn't fit.

And then he managed to lose our 12 year old son's drone within the first hour of playing with it. It's gone for good.

We've been married for 18 years. Thanks for listening.

My father rest his soul was the WORST gift giver ever! Every year my poor mother suffered terrible gift after terrible gift from him. Serious eye rollers. My mom would just smile and say thank you but I could tell she wanted something meaningful/thoughtful from him.

One year we thought he was about to come through. He gave her a little box present. We all expected a pretty piece of jewelry. She opened it and there was a little plastic baggy with a replacement clasp for her necklace. (Maybe $10 bucks at most). She smiled and said thank you but you could just tell she was sooo disappointed. I felt bad for her. She tried so hard every year to make Christmas special and my dad couldn't come through for her.

As I got older I tried my best to make sure she got a nice gift every year. My poor dad was just clueless! About gifts AND just women in general. Lol!!

 

[mom2grace]

I would NEVER give my husband $400 and tell him told do the Christmas shopping for my boys.

This was over and above the Santa gifts. Those I took care of. This was for him to have fun buying things he thought they would like.

 

[low-key]

hit him in head with frying pan

 

[mom2grace]

This was over and above the Santa gifts. Those I took care of. This was for him to have fun buying things he thought they would like.

We only spent around $350/kid on santa gifts. They are allowed to ask for 3 things, that are reasonable. DD follows through and gets everything on her list, DS asks for ridiculous things (macbook for instance) and gets part of his list.

 

[usnuzuloose]

Can't you go get the one in your size? I was never allowed to spend over 50 dollars on my kids each. I was also told I could not buy him anything because I did not earn money. At least you got something.