Wedding Memorial - help!

[julipuli]

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[WDWBride04/19/2010]

My fiance's mother passed away and he mentioned doing the empty chair thing. I really like that idea. I think it's really nice. We're also having the intro. to our ceremony be "Before we start today's ceremony we would like to recognize those who are here in spirit and are present in our hearts and minds with a moment of silence." Besides his mom, one of my grandmothers and grandfathers passed away (I'm actually going to be wearing that grandmother's dress and my engagement ring is hers).

 

[AlternateEgo]

I have seen some very pretty flower arrangements as a memorial. You could have a few roses in a vase that will sit somewhere so she can "watch over" the ceremony. You can put a ribbon on it with a "in memory of".

Just an idea. I had been trying to come up with something awhile back for my uncle and grandparents, but decided against a display and just having something in my bouquet.

 

[brock20l]

We're also having the intro. to our ceremony be "Before we start today's ceremony we would like to recognize those who are here in spirit and are present in our hearts and minds with a moment of silence."

I really like that little gesture. And to the OP, I don't think you have to have anything as sombre as "in memory" placed with the flowers or anything. I think just having the empty chair, with some sort of "decoration" is a beautiful gesture. Maybe you could even include a picture of her somewhere. I would speculate that if she were still here, she would be in your wedding party?...can you picture those little "card holder" picks that they give at florist's shops to put in with the boquet that holds the small card with names or congratulations or something? -- what if in your maid of honor's boquet, you added one of those little picks as a stem, with a small (like wallet-sized 2x3-ish) picture of your sister held at the top (where the card would go)?

 

[mermaidbride1108]

You could play a song during your ceremony to honor her

Include her in the Ceremony Programs

Do they make cufflinks lockets to put photos in? Your DF could put her picture in a locket somewhere

 

[dhay]

I had an open chair for my mom and when my Dad sat down I had him place a yellow rose (her fav) on the seat as a placeholder for her.

We also had her incorporated into the ceremony a bit, and I wore one of her rings that I inherited that had her birthstones in it and had an orchid in my hair since she used to grow them and gave my dad an orchid bout.

The open chair was not depressing at all I thought. I personally loved that I "saved" a place for her at my wedding.

 

[Lorelei528]

We just got married at SBP a month ago. My father passed away back in '95and DH's brother passed away as a child when he was only 11 and DH was 9.

I find the chair with the flower on it very depressing and I know our mom's would think so too. I asked my mom and she didn't like the idea at all....

We did 2 memorial candles (in glass globes) and Rev. Miller started off the ceremony mentioning both my father and DH's brother by name and how they are missed etc.

Everyone thought it was very touching. I was glad that my MIL especially was pleased with what we had done because of the way she still speaks of her son, it was just important to me that she was happy with what memorial we chose.

I have pics actually but not that I can post yet...will do so as soon as I can-maybe even this weekend.

 

[WDWBride04/19/2010]

I had an open chair for my mom and when my Dad sat down I had him place a yellow rose (her fav) on the seat as a placeholder for her.

Aw, I like the flower as a placeholder idea. I know my fiance leaves a certain kind of flower for his mom on Memorial Day. I'll have to see if he'd want to do that.

 

[momplus3]

We are doing a family table with photos of family that cannot be there for various reasons. DFiance's mom and sister cannot travel so we will have their photo. DFiance's brother and dad passed away in 2001 and 2004. My mom just passed away last week. We are also having 2 calla lillies placed there in our families honor.

 

[Wish on a Star]

You can also give him cufflinks with her picture in them. It is nice to have her with him.

http://www.thingsremembered.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10001_9951_609854_-1_1?fcref=

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

My aunt passed away in 2006. At my cousin's wedding in December they had a picture of her and her husband on their wedding day. I don't remember if anything specific was said, but we loved the picture. I can't remember exactly where they placed it. I think maybe it was at the front of the church.

 

[Promomx2]

I don't know if WDW will let you do this, but could you and your fiance toss either a flower or some petals in the water and say a prayer sometime during or after the ceremony.

 

[rpmdfw]

We did something a little bit different.

We waited until the reception, and then when it came time for the toasts, we had the first person making the toasts announce that first, they would pour one glass of champagne in honor of all of those who couldn't be there whether due to time or distance, and that they were with us in their hearts. That single glass then remained untouched on the cake table.

 

[honey2741]

We did something a little bit different.

We waited until the reception, and then when it came time for the toasts, we had the first person making the toasts announce that first, they would pour one glass of champagne in honor of all of those who couldn't be there whether due to time or distance, and that they were with us in their hearts. That single glass then remained untouched on the cake table.

I really like this idea!

 

[DISNEYMAGIC2005]

We did something a little bit different.

We waited until the reception, and then when it came time for the toasts, we had the first person making the toasts announce that first, they would pour one glass of champagne in honor of all of those who couldn't be there whether due to time or distance, and that they were with us in their hearts. That single glass then remained untouched on the cake table.

I really like this idea too!

And I think I might have to use it! Thanks!

 

[rpmdfw]

I really like this idea!

I really like this idea too!

And I think I might have to use it! Thanks!

I'm glad you like it, and wish I could claim that it was my idea. It's something that we've done at other family gatherings, so I just went with it.

I really like it. It's got a very "bearing libations for the ancestors" quality to it that I find appealing.

 

[chipscinderelly]

We did something a little bit different.

We waited until the reception, and then when it came time for the toasts, we had the first person making the toasts announce that first, they would pour one glass of champagne in honor of all of those who couldn't be there whether due to time or distance, and that they were with us in their hearts. That single glass then remained untouched on the cake table.

What a fabulous idea!

We had a memorial candle that was in front of the unity candle (and shorter) and was lit at the beginning of the ceremony by my Cousin and noted in the program who it honored.

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

I had a memorial vase of yellow roses up at the altar for our grandparents and Bobby's Aunt and Uncle.

 

[mermaidbride1108]

We are doing a family table with photos of family that cannot be there for various reasons. DFiance's mom and sister cannot travel so we will have their photo. DFiance's brother and dad passed away in 2001 and 2004. My mom just passed away last week. We are also having 2 calla lillies placed there in our families honor.

I'm so sorry about your mom!

We did something a little bit different.

We waited until the reception, and then when it came time for the toasts, we had the first person making the toasts announce that first, they would pour one glass of champagne in honor of all of those who couldn't be there whether due to time or distance, and that they were with us in their hearts. That single glass then remained untouched on the cake table.

LOVE this idea - very unique but very touching

 

[figmentfan814]

We had empty seats in the front row for our grandparents who had passed away. Then for my DH's father who had passed away only 3 months prior to the wedding we placed his picture with the flower in the empty seat for him.