Wedding invitation snub

[kaytieeldr]

As far as this post. Why does it bother you so much? You keep bringing it up over and over when the OP of it is using a rolling down laughing imoji which to me means that she is not really serious.

Because it's not funny. She makes herself sound like a nightmare to the bride/bride's family.

 

[mummabear]

Because it's not funny. She makes herself sound like a nightmare to the bride/bride's family.

And a bride/brides family that care only about themselves and not the grooms side sound like a nightmare....

 

[kaytieeldr]

And a bride/brides family that care only about themselves and not the grooms side sound like a nightmare....

Well, "...before someone other than my child tells me who I can and cannot invite..." doesn't even imply caring only about themselves. It's contentious. Please. I can't take it any longer. Unless there's some bigamy going on, we're talking about the family of one individual bride and the family of one individual groom. That's the only reason I'm done with this thread.

 

[DisneylandDarling]

Your relatives sound just as dysfunctional as mine...only difference is it seems all our issues revolve around politics. 90% of the family is one way, the other 10% is another and there is a lot of hurt feelings and nastiness that's been going on lately. I never understand why people have to get so hateful with this kind of stuff, either you agree or you don't. No reason to tear people down, especially family.

OP, I would be hurt that I wasn't invited as well.

 

[jerseygal]

My concern would be that the Nephew doesn't know you were not invited and would be hurt if you didn't show. I think a simple conversation with him would be best. You aren't going to put more stress on him before his wedding if he already knows. If he doesn't you are potentially salvaging a relationship.If your sister gets mad, let her. I quit caring what the crazies in my family thought or said about me a long time ago, and it has been a freeing experience.

I LOVE your strength! Trying to live by that mantra, but when family stuff has "deep roots", its difficult staying focused and balanced daily. That is difficult enough, but becomes even more so when HELPING plan your son and future DIL most incredible day of their lives. Do a lot of praying, thanking God for all of my blessings, try to practice mindfulness by reminding myself to stay "in the moment" , take deep breaths, and trying to take one moment at a time and appreciating and loving those that support our family the most! If it were me, I would definitely have a discussion with your nephew who you love very much! HOPE for you that this get resolved!

 

[lambdabeta]

It will be a cold day in hell before someone other than my child tells me who I can and cannot invite to my child's wedding. I'd love to see my future DIL's mother try it.

Because it's not funny. She makes herself sound like a nightmare to the bride/bride's family.

I find it very interesting how your story changes. Now it makes the groom’s mom look like a nightmare to the bride’s family and it is not funny which you never bring up in your response to the OP. Here’s your comment:

Sounds like the relationship between the two moms will be off to a rocky start. Might not be a bad idea to be more flexible and, well, reasonable. Or demand to pay for the whole thing. Then you get to dictate how many invitees.

Nowhere in this post does it say this is not funny, it offends me or it makes the groom’s mother look like a nightmare. It sounds like you understand the post because the first part can be applied to both mom’s but then you bring up who pays dictates how many invitees. Which has nothing to do with the post you are responding to.


You keep repeating the same comment and hoping to get a positive response. You haven’t because you don’t truly understand it. This post is about the bride’s mother dictating who the groom’s mother can invite not how many. It is a sarcastic comment to your post about the bride’s family setting the number of invitees. Which may be the problem. You’re not arguing the same point. Which does not make the groom’s mother a nightmare, contentious or a threat. You seem to be hung up on this. At one point you state that the person who pays dictates the terms by comparing a wedding to hosting a party. Yes money does dictate number of invitees or venue but whichever family is paying for the wedding needs to take the other family into consideration. It is a wedding not just a party, there are two families involved and the guest list should not be based on who is paying. There needs to be compromise. That fact seems to be totally lost on you or do you just have to be right.