We just received an invitation from someone we don't know.***UPDATE***bottom pg1

[Beth76]

So, I pick up the mail and there's an envelope with a return address and name that I don't recognize. It's an invitation to a Labor Day BBQ. It's in a town that's near where my MIL lives. When I say "near" I mean on the same side of the state, it's still at least an hour from her house and 3 hours from our house. So I asked my DH if he knows these people. He's said that he doesn't recognize the name either.

I'm pretty sure my parents wouldn't have given my name and address to someone w/o telling us. And besides, they know we are busy that weekend.

So, now my MIL is giving our address out to people we don't even know, inviting us to a party that's 3 hours away. I'm not RSVPing. If she wants to tell them we're not coming, that's fine. But, I'm not going to do it.

 

[monkeyboy]

Don't go it may be a scam and they will rob your house when you are away

 

[princesstommi]

While it stinks that your MIL is giving your address to random people (I would be livid), I wouldn't punish the party hosts by not RSVPing. Your MIL might have talked you up, made it seem like you could go, or otherwise coerced an invite out of these hosts...but that's not their fault. I would drop a simple regret into the mail to the return address just to be polite. And then I'd make DH call his mother and make her explain exactly what the heck is up!

 

[Serena]

That reminds me of the bridal shower and wedding invitation I recieved. Apparently someone moved to town with my name, and lived on another part of my street. It was a long story but lots of people were looking for her. Her husband has recently passed away, and she skipped out on some bills too.
I had mail and phone calls that I had to deal with.

btw, I did call the number they gave and they were very nice and were really surprised they had the wrong name and address.

 

[Missy1961]

Please RSVP. We were on the other end of this situation. When my brother got married, we had the bridal shower at our house. So our number was the RSVP number. We got the names and address from his future MIL and sent out the invites. Then my poor mom had to take abuse from some person who didn't recognize the bride's name! My mom tried to explain, this person was so rude. It turns out she was very distantly related and didn't really know the family well.....I guess his future MIL wanted extra gifts for them, LOL. So drop them a line, say sorry, can't be there. And besides, are you sure your MIL is the one giving out your name?

 

[Kimberle]

I would RSVP too. It's not the host's fault. I'd ask them nicely how they got your name. Maybe it is your IL's fault, and maybe it's just a mix-up. If someone is gracious enought to invite your to their home, it seems like the decent thing to do is to RSVP.

 

[DukeStreetKing]

Originally posted by monkeyboy
Don't go it may be a scam and they will rob your house when you are away

 

[robsmom]

I agree, RSVP and don't be afraid to tell them that you are not sure why you are invited, maybe there is some reason you are not thinking of.

When my grandmother turned 90 we had a big party at my Mom's house. My sister printed invitations on the nice card stock that you can buy to feed your computer. My grandmother went to rosary group every week and my mom wanted to invite the ladies and was able to get a list with addresses. Several women called my sister and said, "i think you made a mistake". After she toldthem who my grandmother is they would say "oh barbara, she's a lovely lady" and rsvp. Well this one lady told me sister, "sorry, i just can't place her" and then said, but it seems like a lovely party.

 

[my3kids]

Call for the rsvp. It might be mailed to the wrong house. I actually sent a wedding invitation to the wrong home and thankfully the nice lady called. Same last name, same street, wrong family.

 

[RadioNate]

Could it be a married name of an old friend of DH's?? Seems odd your MIL would have you guys invited to a party thrown by people you don't know. I'd check with her to be sure.

I'd RSVP in case there is a mix up but that's just me.

 

[mt2]

Reseal the envelope well. then on the outside put either "return to sender" or "No one at this address by that name"

Imagine the calls you'll get from your DMIL! LOL

mt2

 

[Beth76]

Originally posted by RadioNate
Seems odd your MIL would have you guys invited to a party thrown by people you don't know. I'd check with her to be sure.

Actually, it's not that odd. My MIL is a wacko. I'm going to have my husband give her a call when he gets home. And then either he or she will RSVP and decline. Regardless of what happens, if my MIL is involved, someone's going to be "upset" if we don't show up. She is the queen of manipulation and emotional blackmail.

 

[Beth76]

Originally posted by mt2
Reseal the envelope well. then on the outside put either "return to sender" or "No one at this address by that name"

Imagine the calls you'll get from your DMIL! LOL

mt2

I like that one!!!! We've already received the "I thought you might have died since you haven't called me in so long" message on our voicemail. I'd like to move and change our phone # w/o telling MIL, but DH says we can't do that.

 

[mt2]

Good Luck! I know how things are wacked sometimes.

mt2

 

[Beth76]

OK, so DH came home and called his mom. It WAS her!!! These people are just some friends of hers. Why they wanted to invite us is beyond me. Anyway, I'm going to have DH call to decline.