I agree. I just got back from my 8th trip to WDW. When I went on my first trip it was more of a "once-in-a-lifetime" trip for 10 days. Ooops! Now I have been 8 times in 12 years.
What I did feel at WDW on my first trip was Disney magic. But I did not care for all the planning and buses and boats. Now I just kind of "put on my WDW hat" when going there and "put on my DLR hat" when going to DLR. What I am really after is the Disney magic and both resorts have it.
Up until the trip I went on 2 weeks ago to WDW I would say that DLR still edged WDW for me because the shows were better and, overall, the rides were better. I think WDW has finally closed the gap on rides (and, gasp!, maybe passed DLR) and they have made strides to close the gap on shows but still have not IMO. I am expecting big things from Fantasmic 2. The new fireworks show at MK Happily Ever After (HEA) is frankly as good and maybe better than
Disneyland Forever. Remember Dreams Come True holds high nostalgia for me so it will be hard for anything to truly surpass that. But HEA is now competitive with DL fireworks shows.
Not sure why Paint the Night went away but that kills any parade at WDW (and DLR, for that matter).
Nothing can surpass World of Color in my book, and nothing at WDW comes close. With the new Rivers of Light show WDW is making strides. I think DLR still holds the edge in shows, but WDW is catching up.
Overall this was the first trip I have felt that WDW holds an equal pull on me than DLR. DLR will always be home. But WDW really rocks. A single trip you may or may not get there. A second trip may be needed. I felt a lot more comfortable on trip #2 at WDW.
AKL Jambo House and BLT are both beautiful places but kind of at the far ends of WDW. I would suggest you hit AK hard when at Jambo house (at least one day if not two while there) and defer MK until you are at BLT.
I have never made an ADR 6 months in advance at WDW. Usually I do it at 2 months and it has always worked fine for me to get ADRs at good times. But I have never gone at New Years. So if you can do 6 months, do it.
Hope all goes well for you! Let me know if you need any tips! I hope to update my WDW guide for DLR vets some time this summer. It is in bad need of an update!