I also appreciated your fair observations about
Disneyland. As much as I think Cinderella Castle is beautiful, it definitely shatters the illusion of being in different times and places.
For me, the difference between Disneyland and WDW is best summed up by the light in the apartment over the firehouse. Walt Disney's touch is felt all over Disneyland.
I've discovered that I do not get the WDW feel until I see Spaceship Earth. In 2006, I went to the MK first, then AK, and didn't truly feel like I was in WDW until I saw Spaceship Earth later that afternoon. In 2009, I spent the first day and a half of my visit at DHS for Star Wars Weekends and didn't get the I'm at WDW feeling until I went over to Epcot for lunch and saw Spaceship Earth. Mny will think me crazy, but for me, Spaceship Earth is the WDW icon.