Was there ever a little kid that u just didn't like?

[MomofKatie]

Oh, yes- I am not proud of it, but there is one little girl that DD used to be close friends with that I just couldn't stand. She lives 3 doors down from us, and was in DD's K and 1st grade class. They were the only 2 little girls of the same age on the street, so they wanted to play together all the time. But this little girl was just a nightmare!

She was rude, broke house rules when visiting us, told DD that she wouldn't be her friend anymore if DD didn't go along with naughty things she did- actually kicked and hit her occasionally, and just generally was a hellion. In fact, she and both of her brothers are the "bad kids" of the neighborhood. I tried to counsel DD, but wanted her to make up her own mind that this girl was definitely NOT acting like a friend when she did these things, but DD gave her chance after chance.

Finally, thank goodness, a year or so ago, DD stopped asking to have her over (I hadn't let her in my house in several years- no kid who hits my child is coming over to my home to do it) or to go to her house. She told me that she really wasn't a very nice person, and DD didn't want to keep trying to be friends with her, since she didn't act like a friend to DD.

 

[hereyago]

I had to move the bike. UGH luckily they moved.

You are nicer then I am, I will get flamed, but oh well. I would have just run over that bike. Oops,leave it in the road, that is what can happen.

 

[Katie's Butterflies]

You are nicer then I am, I will get flamed, but oh well. I would have just run over that bike. Oops,leave it in the road, that is what can happen.

I must admit, I thought about it. lol

 

[hereyago]

There is one kid, well we hardly see her anymore as she never comes outside to play in the cul de sac or her back yrd where her play tower thing is.

Her mom made her the role model for bratty kids everywhere. A few years ago, DD was having a bday party. Brat girl wanted to be the center of attention. She started try to open DD's present for her and sit in the chair that DD was sitting in opening her presnts.

Ok, that isn't cute when the girl is 8. And her mom was like, oh isn't that cute, she wan'ts to be the center of attention? WTH? I was like, no at that age it isn't. We never invited her to another party.

She had done the same thing at another girl's party a few months before. Oh such and such got underwear, she was literally opening the presents. So when DD's birthday came around I could see where it was going. the girl tried to open a present with her toes-she was barefoot. Her mom did nothign at that party as well.

Her mom finally had another kid and I have often wondered if she would hurt the baby because she wouldnt be getting enough attention. SHe had hit her cat before. thank goodness the dog they have has only 4 teeth.

 

[ndelaware]

When one of my daughters was in first grade her favorite shirt had Tigger on it. One day I got it out for her to wear and she said she didn't want to wear it. I asked her why since before that day she would have worn it everyday if I had let her. She said "Tigger shirts are for babies". I asked her "where did you hear that?" She told me "Mary" from her class told her. I was pissed, lol and my daughter never wore that shirt to school again.

Five years later we moved to a new development and Mary's family moves in one block away. All of a sudden Mary is at our house 3 or 4 days a week and she actually seems like a nice kid, very polite and respectful. After she gets comfortable with me, I start giving her grief about the Tigger shirt issue. I tease this poor girl all the time about Tigger. We buy her Tigger stuff for Christmas. It has become a running joke between us. Last night her father told me that even though we probably feed her as much as he does, we can't claim her on our income taxes.

So you never know what kind of kids they will become.

 

[kellyg403]

For my dd it was a mean boy. She was a tomboy and tended to hang out more with the boys in the neighborhood climbing trees and riding bikes. The one little boy was the youngest in the family...he had 7 older sisters. He was the end all be all for this mom and dad. He shined like the brightest star in the sky and was the biggest and I mean biggest little brat I ever encountered. He treated everyone like they were pions in the great game of life and he was the ONLY person who deserved anything. I spoke to the mom a couple times about him waiting in the bushes and pushing my dd off her bike when she rode by. He would lay in wait. She would come home scabbed and bruised. I never felt like hurting someone else's child but that little boy...ahem..it was hard.

One day, dd came bouncing down the stairs with her purse. While not normal, she was 8 and I was seeing the light of her realizing she was a girl. So I thought at the time. About 20 min later mom and boy were at the door. Evidently this day he waited in the bushes and dd was ready for him. She had filled that purse with pennies and nail polish, he came out to push her off her bike and decked him with the purse. No blood but he did have a bump on his head. Mom was furious. I know it was wrong, I know dd was wrong. I don't like violence. But once the story started I couldn't help but start laughing. The mother was incredulous. I was laughing hysterically. I finally said I was sorry. I WAS the one who finally told dd that she would have to stick up for herself so it was my fault. Who would have thought she would go that far??? But that kid tortured her day and night. Mom said he wasn't allowed to play with her anymore. Good news, at least for me. He was never allowed to cross the street again.

So yeah, I couldn't stand that kid. I bet if I could remember his name I could google it and he is a serial killer or something. Funny it was 20 years ago and I still remember that day!

Kelly

 

[ndelaware]

..... I know it was wrong, I know dd was wrong. I don't like violence. ....

I am not in favor of violence either, but I don't fell your daughter was wrong at all. She was defending herself from physical harm. The boy got what he deserved and I personally would have told the mother that. Maybe your daughter even saved him from being a serial killer by teaching him that there are consequences to go along with our actions.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Yep, and believe it or not, it was not in Kindergarten, but when my son was in PreSchool. They were THREE!!!!!

Exact same scenario, you could see where this little 'princess' had gotten her attitudes and behaviors... Just look at her mother.

OP, I totally agree with you telling your daughter strait-up, that she doesn't need to be wasting her time dealing with kids like this girl.

As you can see by the ages I just mentioned above... I had to start imparting the same message to my son well before the age of 6.

One of the most important things that we can teach our children is that they can choose their friends wisely, and to avoid anyone who deliberately sets out to compromise our child's self esteem.

 

[kellyg403]

I am not in favor of violence either, but I don't fell your daughter was wrong at all. She was defending herself from physical harm. The boy got what he deserved and I personally would have told the mother that. Maybe your daughter even saved him from being a serial killer by teaching him that there are consequences to go along with our actions.

Oh, I never told dd she was wrong. As a matter of fact, after I finished laughing that the mother who wouldn't stop her kid, was absolutely furious that my dd harmed her snowflake, I reminded her that had she taken him in hand the 4 times I was at her door letting her know what he did this would not have happened. I still felt bad that dd did that, I never wanted her to resort to it. But, in her desperation she did what she needed to, even at 8. No amount of talking was getting this kid to understand.

Kelly

 

[FINFAN]

yep, and on the flip side, I am sure there is a little darling or two out there who is not enamored of me either.

 

[shortbun]

Wait til middle school!!

 

[kellyg403]

yep, and on the flip side, I am sure there is a little darling or two out there who is not enamored of me either.

 

[wdwmom2]

For my dd it was a mean boy. She was a tomboy and tended to hang out more with the boys in the neighborhood climbing trees and riding bikes. The one little boy was the youngest in the family...he had 7 older sisters. He was the end all be all for this mom and dad. He shined like the brightest star in the sky and was the biggest and I mean biggest little brat I ever encountered. He treated everyone like they were pions in the great game of life and he was the ONLY person who deserved anything. I spoke to the mom a couple times about him waiting in the bushes and pushing my dd off her bike when she rode by. He would lay in wait. She would come home scabbed and bruised. I never felt like hurting someone else's child but that little boy...ahem..it was hard.

One day, dd came bouncing down the stairs with her purse. While not normal, she was 8 and I was seeing the light of her realizing she was a girl. So I thought at the time. About 20 min later mom and boy were at the door. Evidently this day he waited in the bushes and dd was ready for him. She had filled that purse with pennies and nail polish, he came out to push her off her bike and decked him with the purse. No blood but he did have a bump on his head. Mom was furious. I know it was wrong, I know dd was wrong. I don't like violence. But once the story started I couldn't help but start laughing. The mother was incredulous. I was laughing hysterically. I finally said I was sorry. I WAS the one who finally told dd that she would have to stick up for herself so it was my fault. Who would have thought she would go that far??? But that kid tortured her day and night. Mom said he wasn't allowed to play with her anymore. Good news, at least for me. He was never allowed to cross the street again.

So yeah, I couldn't stand that kid. I bet if I could remember his name I could google it and he is a serial killer or something. Funny it was 20 years ago and I still remember that day!

Kelly

Now that's what I call problem solving!!!!!

I am not for violence, but sometimes ya gotta do what ya gotta do!