Was I unreasonable to be dismayed...

[Phil'sFrontier]

IMHO I wold say yes you are being VERY unreasonable. Regardless of the situation, you are talking about a child here. This wasn't about your Sister, this was about her kid!
It is just a bathing suit...
I always say 'don't sweat the small stuff'

 

[Kat77]

Sigh and let it go! Easier to say than do (LOL!) but it's the only way you will get through this without resentment.

 

[disneyfan123]

"Despite my posts, I really love my sister and her kids, and we'll have a great time."

I guess complaining about your sister in the cyber world for all to see is not the best way to show your sister you love her. However taking your niece to walmart would be a good way to show love.

 

[carrie1626]

Duffy,

I HEAR YOU!!! But that's family ( sisterly) stuff that happens to all of us.

3 yrs ago planning a trip with my kids, parents and sister we ended up at POP for the week (which was perfectly OK-in the end) but it's not where I thought we were staying. The reason: that's the only place (value) my sister could afford. Since then my parents and sister ( who go EVERY YEAR) have stayed at The Wilderness Lodge:,The Polynesian and POFQ- notice the luxury!!!. Was I miffed the following year after my last vacation there..... you better believe it!! I knew and they all knew that I wouldn't be back for a long time. But for the sake of family harmony I say nothing

 

[Kat77]

I guess complaining about your sister in the cyber world for all to see is not the best way to show your sister you love her. However taking your niece to walmart would be a good way to show love.

Really?!
VENTING happens!
Better here than the real world where kiddos excited for Disney will overhear It's hard being the only planner and not losing your marbles.

 

[ebtbmom]

"Despite my posts, I really love my sister and her kids, and we'll have a great time."

I guess complaining about your sister in the cyber world for all to see is not the best way to show your sister you love her. However taking your niece to walmart would be a good way to show love.

Wow, a little judgemental are we? I think it's better to vent here where we don't really know her or her sister and therefore, it has no impact on their lives. Everyone needs a place to vent!

Plus, I agree with OP, I cannot stand unorganized people making their lack of planning everyone else's problem. I know that I'm like this, so we don't travel with other families (DH doesn't like traveling with others either). Since I still like spending time with my nieces, we just invite them on trips, leave the parents behind! That way me and DH are still in charge and anything I think they'll need that their self absorbed moms won't have ready I buy it for them.

 

[happymommy]

Oh, I do hope you had a good sendoff. Maybe a glass of that crappy wine they sell on the planes will help?

Good luck and hope it all turns out well!

DO split up! DO NOT babysit them!

We personally don't care too much for the character meals, and would rather enjoy the shows and the rides, the other good food, and the whole ambiance. I too am the planner, but some folks (my in laws) I know I couldn't travel with! They went to WDW once (but I do think they only went to the MK). Their story of why they hated it: my DBIL and his wife and two young daughters went with his folks, they went just for the weekend, Memorial Day weekend, flew down, had to rent a minivan, stayed in a rental condo offsite (just for the weekend mind you), then spent one day driving to a beach (I honestly never asked which way they went, East or West). He complained all they did at WDW was wait in lines. I said we never wait in lines for anything - we plan! Oh, and I had told them if it's just for the weekend, they may want to stay onsite. No, they HAD to stay offsite so they could COOK - it's a weekend - they had to bring their rice cooker as they HAVE to eat rice. sigh.... They still have no clue why we like going there. It's because I plan! I check out the deals, and I know what to do when. Ugh. Just venting as well, as I feel your pain!

Hope it's going well, though! Please post back when you can!

 

[ebtbmom]

It would be a big deal to me too to go to Walmart just for a bathing suit. Anyway you slice it, it would be 2 hours out of your day. That place is huge! You know you would end up doing some shopping.

I would just suck it up and pay the inflated Disney price too

Glad it worked out nad hope you are having a wonderful time!

Another good point. You cannot "just run to Walmart" from Disney World. We had to go last time because DH had not planned ahead and bought himself water shoes. It took at least 1 1/2 hours and we were in and out quick because I was not wasting time at Walmart while paying for a Disney vacation.

Only good thing, we got to stop at the Chick Fil A that was close by and get some good "counter service" food!

 

[redrosesix]

well, I'm still trying to get over the fact that they would only plan to bring 1 bathing suit or that the child only owns one suit When we go anywhere, we usually pack 3 each (they fold up pretty small, and I just hate putting on a wet bathing suit).

But if I did end up at WDW without one, I'd head straight to the water parks -- the only place you're sure to find one and really quite reasonably priced considering. No, I wouldn't go to Walmart while I'm on vacation and I wouldn't like it if somebody expected me to drive one there.

That being said, although I am a planner I am also more a go with the flow person -- I don't let the little things like this bother me much less ruin a trip. Yes, we end up at WDW with everything we need, but we don't have every minute of our day planned and often change our ADR's because we change the park we want to be in that day. So I wouldn't be able to tour the parks with somebody who's a commando either. That's just like asking for an argument.

 

[Kat77]

Plus, I agree with OP, I cannot stand unorganized people making their lack of planning everyone else's problem. I know that I'm like this, so we don't travel with other families

A fantastic Neuro Pedi once told to me that plans are made by the organized FOR the organized to use b/c non-planners are unable to keep up with them by nature... If I choose to make myself batty over their inabilties, it is truely MY problem. So I either don't travel with others OR I accept I will have to go with the flow and break off for periods of time so I won't go nuts on anyone.

 

[disykat]

I'm thinking kind of along the lines of Kat77. While I'm sure the different organization styles/vacation styles of the two sisters will cause some stress at times, and the sister wanting to cheap out at times may cause friction, it doesn't mean that the disorganized sister would have a terrible time at WDW on her own.

People survive and actually enjoy WDW all the time without carefully laid out plans. However, one of the reasons I enjoy traveling with only my dh and kids is that we have kind of a rhythm going when we travel together. We can be laid back about some things and highly organized about others - we are comfortable with our travel pattern.

I think some of us who are pretty organized cause ourselves a lot more stress than the people who are less organized and just kind of go with the flow. I think sometimes we need to take a page from their book.

As annoying as it is to "planners" to see people going to Disney unprepared I'd bet money that it's even more annoying to the people that are more casual about their planning to have it implied that they'd be lost without the planner.

 

[dkbnyc]

i still cant believe they didnt go to walmart today BEFORE they left on their trip. I'd much rather try to find a suit today instead of taking time in florida

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Wow, a little judgemental are we? I think it's better to vent here where we don't really know her or her sister and therefore, it has no impact on their lives. Everyone needs a place to vent!

Plus, I agree with OP, I cannot stand unorganized people making their lack of planning everyone else's problem. I know that I'm like this, so we don't travel with other families (DH doesn't like traveling with others either). Since I still like spending time with my nieces, we just invite them on trips, leave the parents behind! That way me and DH are still in charge and anything I think they'll need that their self absorbed moms won't have ready I buy it for them.

Wow. That is so rude. Just because someone isn't an uber planner or may have actually forgotten something because maybe planning a trip to WDW is not the most important thing in their life doesn't make them self absorbed.

 

[JUJU814]

Wow. That is so rude. Just because someone isn't an uber planner or may have actually forgotten something because maybe planning a trip to WDW is not the most important thing in their life doesn't make them self absorbed.

 

[ebtbmom]

I wasn't refering to them not having their clothes packed correctly as the reason that they are self absorbed.

It has more to do with reasons like these: constantly on Facebook, never helping with homework, allowing my in-laws to practically raise them, never getting them to school on time and sometimes not taking them at all if the parents don't want to get out of bed, smoking around them (some with asthma) and while pregnant, allowing people who smoke pot in their house around the children, buying video games and movies instead of inhalers, having cats that they don't fix and then take the numerous kittens to the pound, attempting to move to Florida and leaving one kid behind because she didn't want to move, etc.

I'm sorry, but I feel that you are perfectly allowed to actually judge people that you know. It's wrong to judge others when you don't really know them or their lifestyle, but when it's family members and you are constantly hearing about their disorganized and unhealthy lifestyle choices and your nieces and nephew are right in the middle of it, yeah, you tend to develop harsh opinions.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I wasn't refering to them not having their clothes packed correctly as the reason that they are self absorbed.

It has more to do with reasons like these: constantly on Facebook, never helping with homework, allowing my in-laws to practically raise them, never getting them to school on time and sometimes not taking them at all if the parents don't want to get out of bed, smoking around them (some with asthma) and while pregnant, allowing people who smoke pot in their house around the children, buying video games and movies instead of inhalers, having cats that they don't fix and then take the numerous kittens to the pound, attempting to move to Florida and leaving one kid behind because she didn't want to move, etc.

I'm sorry, but I feel that you are perfectly allowed to actually judge people that you know. It's wrong to judge others when you don't really know them or their lifestyle, but when it's family members and you are constantly hearing about their disorganized and unhealthy lifestyle choices and your nieces and nephew are right in the middle of it, yeah, you tend to develop harsh opinions.

Well I would have to agree with you based on that but in your original post it came across that the reason for their self absorption was because they weren't great packers or planners.

 

[Microcell]

i still cant believe they didnt go to walmart today BEFORE they left on their trip. I'd much rather try to find a suit today instead of taking time in florida

I don't know where they live but you would be hard pressed to find them in Missouri!

You couldn't pay me to go anywhere with my sisters.. good luck to you!

 

[disneyfan123]

Really?!
VENTING happens!
Better here than the real world where kiddos excited for Disney will overhear It's hard being the only planner and not losing your marbles.

I am sorry. Did not mean to offend, simply stating my opinion, which you did ask people for. I watch every year my mom and her sisters plan vacations together and then "vent" about their sisters. The entire trip thats all they do and then they are back planning another trip the next year, until this last year when they all cut off communication from eachother because it got so bad. Every year I would give that same advice to show some love, but "venting" seems to be the easier road to take and now I see where it got them.

 

[disneyfan123]

"I'm sorry, but I feel that you are perfectly allowed to actually judge people that you know. "

Sorry, but must add that to my funny quote list.

 

[bookgirl]

Wal Marts were open on Thanksgiving, so I would have went Thursday after or before dinner when all the other shoppers were home eating. Or I would have stopped on the way to the hotel to get one not waited till after you'd already gotten to the parks.


Stuff happens, you deal with it and move on.