warning if you buy something off a wedding registry....

[torinsmom]

Is the stuff at BBB that much better than Walmart and Target stuff? I see the same type of things when I go in there.

 

[punkin]

No difference. I just never knew.

Yes, I would have been surprised as well. I had a co-worker who had a breathalyzer on her registry (I don't recall from where) but there are people whose lifestyles in no way resemble mine. I try not to judge. Then again, I don't like wedding registries at all. I prefer money.

 

[HelenePA]

Is the stuff at BBB that much better than Walmart and Target stuff? I see the same type of things when I go in there.

Of course not! Do people really think these factories go out of their way to make something better just because its going to a different store? My brother use to work at a local "fashion plant" they would make bedspreads for all different stores like Walmart, Target, BBB Dollar General... they'd all come off the same line just put into different packages with different label names on them...

 

[Art 1]

Yes, I would have been surprised as well. I had a co-worker who had a breathalyzer on her registry (I don't recall from where) but there are people whose lifestyles in no way resemble mine. I try not to judge. Then again, I don't like wedding registries at all. I prefer money.

Cash is king.

 

[Bethshaya]

THere are a number of reasons why deleting isn't the proper way.

If the item is a single purchase item, like a vacuume, it does work to not get a duplicate. However, if the purchase is a china place setting, and she has 12 listed, and you bought one. If they delete the listing for the place setting, no one else will know what her pattern is or how many she has.

There is also no tracking. If she wanted to keep a record of her registry, the item would no longer be on there.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

Yes, I would have been surprised as well. I had a co-worker who had a breathalyzer on her registry (I don't recall from where) but there are people whose lifestyles in no way resemble mine. I try not to judge. Then again, I don't like wedding registries at all. I prefer money.

At least your co-worker knew herself and/or her future spouse and had made plans to be legal!

Eh. I like registries. I know things get returned or exchanged, that's part of the fun of it all, but I also know that many younger couples wouldn't buy these things if I just gave them money, so it's nice that they get to have some splurges starting out.

 

[Imzadi]

I didn't register AT ALL, but Walmart would have worked fine for me. Many people don't get fine china now. My "every day China" was a pretty pattern, white on white plates that you could buy at a grocery store chain after spending $40/week for 6 weeks I still use it daily 17 years later.

When I was little, my much older sister was picking out her fine china for her wedding. She was looking at Lenox & Wedgewood. I couldn't believe the price of a single, complete place setting was well over $100. She had to choose carefully as the pattern would be for a lifetime & she had to make sure she bought extra replacement pieces at the same time, as some patterns get discontinued, then ONE dinner place alone could well cost $100-$200, not the whole place setting.

She's used that fine china, maybe 2-3 times in the decades since. It's basically just on display in her china cabinet.

Her dinnerware picking was the only experience I ever had. Sometime after college, I wanted to finally be a grown-up and have matching plates & cups, instead of the collection of mis-matched stuff ex-college roommates left me. I didn't know where to go. I certainly didn't have the money for a Lenox set. I was so pleasantly surprised when I went to the then equivalent of Target and found a wonderful dinnerware set of 4 place settings for $25!!!

I was in heaven. And if I broke a couple pieces, I could buy an whole new favorite pattern as my tastes changed. None of this precious buying for life crap!

Yeah, there's lots to love about places like Target & Walmart.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

Unless the associate was at the gift registry or on the computer at the service desk, there isn't any way to delete an item off of the registry, even if they do have the password for the couple's registry.

The associate DID delete it without the password at the service desk. Instead of making it say one was received, it deleted it entirely! My DH had to go back this morning and it took FOUR associates/managers to figure out to add it back. When they tried to update it again to reflect the purchase, they deleted it again!!!

For those of you asking about wedding registries at Walmart, yes. What we bought was a kitchen aid stand mixer (about $200) and they are registered for all sorts of things from a vacuum cleaner to pyrex and several small appliances like toaster, waffle maker, electric skillet, etc. I guess a lot of people register at Walmart. I think it appealed to them because some of the people being invited to the wedding are from very small , rural places in the middle of no where but I know there's a walmart nearby.

DH actually had to go over twice. Yes, he did verify it was deleted (we looked online) and had them verify it was deleted (by looking online at the store). He didn't leave the store the second time until they all looked and was convinced it was done correctly.

For those of you who asked what difference did it make if it was on the registry or not, it makes a HUGE difference. When this bride-to-be is looking at her registry, she might say "Oh - I thought I had registered for that mixer -- I guess I didn't" -- and register for it again. She may end up receiving multiples of all she registered for if they keep deleting things by accident. And if Walmart keeps deleting every single thing that's bought, eventually when the guests pull up her registry, it will be empty!

 

[nancycg56]

My DD just completed her registries and "somehow" things they did not register for ended up on one of them ~ Target, I think. It was easy enough to delete but weird that it happened in the first place.

 

[aprilgail2]

Yes, I would have been surprised as well. I had a co-worker who had a breathalyzer on her registry (I don't recall from where) but there are people whose lifestyles in no way resemble mine. I try not to judge. Then again, I don't like wedding registries at all. I prefer money.

wedding registries here are for the engagement party an the shower--for the wedding you dont buy a gift-just cash/checks

 

[punkin]

wedding registries here are for the engagement party an the shower--for the wedding you dont buy a gift-just cash/checks

That makes sense, but a breathalyzer for a shower/engagement gift?

I did give her money for her wedding and I believe I bought her a set of glasses for the shower off the registry.

 

[bumbershoot]

My DD just completed her registries and "somehow" things they did not register for ended up on one of them ~ Target, I think. It was easy enough to delete but weird that it happened in the first place.

She probably accidentally chose the option to include things that were "also chosen by other people who chose items on your list". It's how my friend got 3 registries FULL of things she had NO clue about for her baby shower.

Somebody had a wedding registry at Walmart?

I don't shop there so I didn't, but I see no problem with it. Back when I did shop there, they sold all sorts of blenders, slow cookers, toasters, toaster ovens, plates, etc...all things that are often put onto a registry.

We had a Target registry with a toaster on it and other kitchen things..and a Macys (well, Bon Marche back then) registry for other items like Fiestaware and our Lenox pattern (which we use quite often...used my inherited big platter for our casual, sit on the couch and put sandwiches together, anniversary dinner tonight, and I would have gotten the plates from *our* pattern out but hubby usually does the dishes and had a new computer to set up so I didn't want to be a burden with more fancy dishes to handwash), glasses, towels, Kitchenaid mixer, etc.

(should mention that I didn't want a registry *at all* but after umpteen phone calls of "what do you want, I don't know what to get you, you NEED to make a registry", we did!) (should also mention that our two MOST memorable wedding gifts, and the most memorable shower gift, were purchased all on the thought-patterns of the gift-giver, and we love them completely!)

 

[onelilspark]

We've registered at Macy's & Amazon. I'm in love with Amazon's registry because you can select so many things (power tools anyone?) and then people can ship things directly to us if they want instead of having to drag it with them (a lot of people have to travel.) I can imagine the amount of things at Walmart would also be a draw.

 

[torinsmom]

Some of you would probably just die if I told you how much I spent on my ENTIRE wedding. WTH, I will tell you, LOL. My wedding dress was $100 at a bridal outlet. It was beautiful, BTW, beaded and all that. We got married at a chapel and the cost was $350, which included the minister, the flowers and a video. We had about 50 people there. My pictures were $150. We paid to get all the negatives and then made our own prints. Our rehearsal dinner was at a pizza buffet, $100 for the 10 people who attended(parents, maid of honor, best man, siblings). Our reception was held at a community center in one of their banquet rooms. I think the rental fee was $100 and my mom made everything except the cake. I believe it was $120. Honeymoon was 2 nights at an oceanfront hotel in Myrtle Beach gifted to us by a friend. So, less than $1000 when it was all said and done. I did not register and people gave me what they wanted whether it was from Walmart or Belk. Most gave money which was really helpful.

Funny thing is, I was just as married as someone who spent $20,000. I know couples who spent that much and are just as divorced as I am

 

[aditimohan30]

The whole idea of a gift registry is to not have a duplicate gift that the receiver won't be able to use and result in the wastage of gifts. I guess if there is any issue with the registry, the host should be there to solve their client's issues. We had a registry for the first birthday of my nephew. Through some technical error, there was a single gift bought by 3 people, the registry host did not exchange it or change it, it is not fair.

 

[kyton]

Seriously way to reopen a zombie thread!

 

[mousefan73]

Somebody had a wedding registry at Walmart?

Why not? For many places Walmart is the only big box for miles unless you do online. Not everyone needs/ wants fine china and it has family that can afford premium brand names.

Plus Walmart has a great selection for outdoors and garden items. I have seen registries that have grills, garden furniture, fishing items - things like that.

 

[mousefan73]

Seriously way to reopen a zombie thread!

Ugh!!’ And I fell for it!!! That’s what I get for putting off housework and checking here. LOL. Curious though if the OP’s bridal party are even still married ha ha

 

[mmouse37]

I have used my fine China about 6 times in the last 40 years. This year I decided to donate it and buy a ton of plain white plates from IKEA for our holiday get togethers.

MJ

 

[Kitty 34]

It's weird when this thread first opened none of my boys were even engaged. Now all three are married with children/and or with dogs.

......and I'm almost a zombie.