VR etiquette

[hoosiergirl7]

Granted it is a few years down the road but DH and I since we didn't get married at Disney (instead had a Disney themed wedding/reception at home) would like to do a VR at WDW.

This is my dilemma. We had a wedding for 215 people and really want something way smaller and more intimate. This all happened actually after an elopement in Vegas. There are family members we are much closer to than others that we would like to invite. Is there a way to invite some family and not all the family? Most of these people probably wouldn't come anyhow. So what do you do? I know my MIL might have issues with this as the family we're not close to belongs to DH. We see my family on a regular basis and even then there are probably some cousins that I won't invite because I never see them.

 

[Kate and Pete]

I have just been researching this - as DH and I would like to do a VR at WDW, too! (In four yrs. - we just celebrated #6, but it's never too early to plan!).

That said, VR are supposed to be intimate - not a "re-do" of your wedding. Very close friends and family who have played a part in your lives/marriage over the years. Invite the people you want to invite - this is your party!

 

[lurkyloo]

The way to do this is just to do it! DH has a huge family with something like 30 cousins. We invited his two closest cousins (one of whom introduced us and is my friend as well) and 3 of his 9 aunts and uncles. Other than that, it was immediate family plus the grandmas.

So far we haven't heard of any of the rest of the family being P.O.ed that they weren't invited. Frankly, they've all had to attend one huge wedding after another in the last few years, so I'm pretty sure they were relieved not to have to fly all the way to Florida for ours!

 

[29apr00]

We sent invitations to family members even though we knew they had no intention of attending. figured it was jus the easiest way to keep the peace. We have 18 attending our VR on DCL next year. That is actually a good thing, because we were originally looking at SRT at WL and that location only holds 10. So we've have had a bit of a problem.

 

[hoosiergirl7]

Thanks for everyone's thoughts. I just don't want to hurt feelings but this is my VR and I am paying for it. I don't want to feel obligated to invite people I see every few years and don't talk to on a regular basis. I wanted to know if people thought that I should invite people anyhow.

 

[29apr00]

invite only your close personal friends and family if you want.

 

[RenB21]

Hi, I'm planning our VR for March 2013 (so a way off yet!!), but I'm planning on inviting no-one!

When we got married, I wanted to elope and it be just the 2 of us, but DH wanted his family there, I wasn't as bothered about mine. We ended up inviting all family - but only people we spoke to - so not the distant cousins we'd not seen in 10 years!

This time, we would like parents there, but as my parents are divorced and won't speak, that's not going to happen, and DH's are also divorced and his Dad won't travel. As we won't be able to have all 4 parents (plus partners), we are just not inviting anyone.

I think it will be more romantic as it will be all about just the two of us.

I suggest you just invite people you actually want there, it is your day (again), and as you say you're paying!!

 

[hiwaygal]

I think it will be more romantic as it will be all about just the two of us.

It very much can be!

 

[padisneyfour]

we are just planning for immediate family( mom,dad and then siblings with their spouses and children) with our 2 DDs and the DH and myself. still brings us to approx 27.

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

Just returned from our VR!! We were married on August 3, 2007 but we already had a cruise booked with our very close friends..so instead of having a wedding, we did the DCL VR..it was, a wedding...just much cheaper than a wedding..DFTW did an OUTSTANDING job...everything was like a fairytale!!

Makeup!

our reception in The Palo Room

This one is blurry..it is a picture of a picture..I haven't scanned them all in

 

[Lynn5700]

I say invite your close friends and family. Good luck with everything!

 

[hiwaygal]

DisneyDmbNut - your pictures are beautiful!!

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

thanks!!

I wasn't sure that DFTW wanted to make a VR more like a wedding, but everything I requested was granted!

To the OP...invite who YOU want...it is YOUR day..I invited people that truly understood that this was our wedding day and not just a VR!
Our group..All Dis'rs:

 

[Cinderella_68]

Our wedding was intimate and we only had a few close friends and family there.
For our VR, we were debating on having it at DLR and being able to invite our families, or at WDW and have just our immediate family, and my mom, who lives with us. The price came out to the same either way.
Our families just don't "get" the whole "Disney thing" as they call it. And we didn't want to spend our vacation making sure they were having fun. This was a celebration, in the end, for us. So WDW it was, and we had a great time and a very memorable celebration!
Reading TR's from other Disney brides, I am very happy we did not have extended family to deal with. To quote Steel Magnolias, "I'm not as nice as I used to be."
Just keep it simple and plan to enjoy yourselves and celebrate!