Thought of a couple more questions..
We haven't decided if we are going to fly or drive to Disney yet (we're in Ohio). If we do drive, I'm not worried about transportation on Disney but what about to Universal?
Do they offer some sort of service with Universal? There's nothing that Disney or Universal offer to get back and forth (they don't want you going to the other place!) There is an Orlando Lynx bus or Mears. Or a taxi.
Also curious about child care. We'll be celebrating our 17 anniversary while there and though not mandatory, it'd be nice if hubby and I could go to dinner or something by ourselves. Does anywhere offer child care and if so how does it work? Rates, etc? Most of the deluxe hotels have a kids club for kids 4 - 12 (or maybe 4-10, not positive) with evening hours. I've never used it personally but have heard good things. You do not need to be staying at that hotel to use the kids club, so you can send the kids to the one closest to where you'll be dining.
Or does anywhere do anything special for birthdays, anniversaries, etc..? Get an anniversary pin at the front desk of your hotel or at guest services. Most likely the only thing it will get you is a "Happy Anniversary!" from some cast members, but you never know - sometimes there might be some pixie dust. If you want to do something for your DH for sure (order a cake, decorations, etc.) that's possible too, but obviusly you'll have to pay.
Oh, another one.. We'll be staying at Disney but my oldest will be staying off Disney with the band. I know we'll get magic bands but how do I get her one? She doesn't need one, but you can buy her one if you'd like. As far as I know you can't buy them in advance, but I could be wrong.
Also, if I choose to get the photo pass thingy (lol) can I link it to her band as well so any pictures she has taken will be with ours? I don't want to pay $300 for two!! I'm not positive about this, hopefully someone else will chiime in. What you can do is switch MBs so that your older daughter has one of your younger daughter's bands with her and your younger daughter will be with you so you can just use someone else's MB for the photopass swipe. Of course, you'll need to make sure the FP+'s linked to the band are for whoever is actually wearing it.