Very MAD and Very Hurt

[luvsJack]

I have posted many times that we don't have a lot of drama in our family. Well apparently that is because one section of the family are FAKES and spending their time judging the rest of us!

My family and my sisters family used to be fairly close. Any family gatherings included all of us and even more "friend" gatherings tended to include all of us. Not anymore. And the last time they did include "some" of us, it was clear that it wasn't all of my family--not including my son and his wife. This was at my niece's house. We didn't go and won't go to her home again.

Now I have been told that niece's husband does not like my dd. I put it off at first as a misunderstanding but am now seeing how much she is being left out of things with them. I haven't said anything to her or to them and I won't. Her dh is very judgemental and thinks everything is his way or the highway but dd hasn't done anything to him nor has ds and dil that they did not include in the gathering.

Then today I get a call from my sister about mom's birthday and she makes a comment amount something my son has been working on for mom and let me know that her dh would help MY dh with the project but not my son! Ok, but my dh is only home 1 day a week and may not be able to help with the project. DS is working on it but dh told him IF he is home this weekend he will help him and they don't need bil to help.

Then other things are said when I saw them at moms. And they seem to think we are somehow wrong about something and feel that we are not able to afford the same things they can and are not equal to them. I really don't even know what is going on with this.

They do make more money that us but I don't feel this makes them any better than us. Her dh wants some of our land that goes behind our house and her dd wants some that includes where our horses are kept. So, maybe this is part of the problem. I have asked her if ds did something but the answer was "no, why would you think that?"

And on top of everything else they changed the plans for their wdw trip so that they wouldn't be there the same time we are!! Me, dh and dd are going Thanksgiving. They changed it so they would not be there that week. The last time we were all there the same week we didn't even SEE each other.

And I have been given little remarks like "are you sure you should go to wdw?"

I just feel very betrayed by my family.

 

[Jex]

The details are overwhelming. Seriously though, sorry your family hurt you.

 

[Uncle Remus]

I have posted many times that we don't have a lot of drama in our family. Well apparently that is because one section of the family are FAKES and spending their time judging the rest of us!

My family and my sisters family used to be fairly close. Any family gatherings included all of us and even more "friend" gatherings tended to include all of us.

Okay.

Tell us all about it.

 

[Magic Mom]

 

[luvsJack]

LOL. Sorry ya'll, I hit submit too soon. I have edited it now.

 

[Goofyluver]

We can't pick our family, we can only pick how we respond to what happens in and with that family.

I'm sorry you're hurt.

 

[RNMOM]

Few people can damage us as much as our families. I have 4 siblings but only speak regularly to 2 of them. One lives very far away and that's fine. The other I see often but the decisions she is making of late have me pretty worried and I have pulled back to avoid offering her too much "advice". I know she doesn't want it anyway. I've told her how I feel so she knows.

I figure I live my life as an honest and humane person and expect others to also. Unfortunately it doesn't always work that way.

Why do families play games with all this stuff? Just say what is on your mind and deal with it.