Vents and responses

[Zoiebear]

Tonite, I think is the 2nd maybe 4th not sure, anyhow, time that I posted b/c I needed to vent, and possibly just needed some positive thoughts and encouragement since I have been going thru some ridiculous treatment and actions from the hands of another............ It just seems like there's is always someone to attack the poster,
...................................................... for example I remember a couple of weeks ago a Dis'er (cant remember his name) had posted about a horrid experience he had at wdw for his 10th anniversary (I am sure some will remember). I didnt even know him, but I definitely sympathsized with his situation......... (and honestly only the poster knows if what they post is accurate or not) Anyhow, some people were totally attacking while others were supportive and sending hugs and positive thoughts...........

I just wonder why the "negativers" feel they have to be 'against' the poster..... or doubt the validatity of the post? Does that give someone satisfaction? Why do they feel the need to make a 'not so positive statement' or 'figure the poster is the instagator of the sitatuation' ?
Just curious.............
S

 

[FreshTressa]

That has happened to me sooo many times.

No matter what I do, it is wrong in someone's eyes.

 

[VSL]

It's a message board - with a very large community.

There is always going to be someone with a different viewpoint.

 

[chyam]

I think what we all need to remember is each of us has our own opinion and we are entitled to it, when it is written (like in a post ) it may sometimes seem harsher than what was really meant. I know I too have been accused of this also. example: you may say that you perfer a hotel with less kids, then all of a sudden you are a child hater, don't you remember you were a kid too, Disney is for children...geezzzz I just said I perfer to be at a quieter hotel one that does not cater especially to children. Some people just like to attack.

 

[Freyja]

It's a message board - with a very large community.

There is always going to be someone with a different viewpoint.

I agree. And it wouldn´t be fun if we agreed all the time. But I also agree with the OP that people sometimes are far too harsh and forget themselves that everybody is entitles to their opinion.

 

[SetzKitten]

Yes, but I think venting and asking for help or opinions are two different things. When someone's venting, it should be enough to say "Sorry you feel that way." instead of giving advice or opinions that weren't solicited. If you ask for opinions, anything's up for grabs. (IMHO )

 

[In a hurry]

Maybe you got those responses due to your posting style. It looks like you are having a holy fit when you write in huge letters, and font size. Which would seem to be an overreaction.

I also don't see where you have been flamed. Maybe you need to go back and read them again when you aren't feeling so angry. People have posted thoughts about your situation, but no one said you were horrid or anything.

 

[mickeyfan2]

This is the internet and I am allowed my opinion just as much as you are allowed yours. BTW the red post is large letters is just wrong. IMHO.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Maybe you got those responses due to your posting style. It looks like you are having a holy fit when you write in huge letters, and font size. Which would seem to be an overreaction.

I also don't see where you have been flamed. Maybe you need to go back and read them again when you aren't feeling so angry. People have posted thoughts about your situation, but no one said you were horrid or anything.

This is the internet and I am allowed my opinion just as much as you are allowed yours. BTW the red post is large letters is just wrong. IMHO.

Yeah, what they said.

 

[Dreamer04]

What coinkidink!

Here is what I think-not that it matters to anyone but me-


Whether a post is a vent or solication for advice-once its out there, it is fair game for anyone to respond. Anyone who posts has to be aware of this and be prepared for all kinds of answers.


Just hope for the love

 

[mickeyfan2]

I just looked at your work vent and you did the BIG letters in red and blue. Why? You seemed very confrontational from the start. I think you need to not start the thread when you are so upset, but wait until you calm down. We all have bad days at work, but that is life.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Stop with the BIG LETTERS!!!!

 

[NJBlackBerry]

Venting does not always result in P&PD, not matter what you may want. You may need to look in the mirror, but you want a hug and to be told that you are right, everyone else is wrong...

Take a deep breath before venting.

 

[Disney Doll]

When you post something on an Internet message board, you open it up for commentary, not all of which will be positive.

 

[bicker]

All really good points... I think folks who "vent" sometimes overlook that they're venting at / about someone else, someone who may be much more like a specific forum member reading the vent than the poster his/herself -- and when the vent is broadly directly, it is very likely that there is a forum member who is actually the one being "vented at / about"!

 

[va32h]

Yes, but I think venting and asking for help or opinions are two different things. When someone's venting, it should be enough to say "Sorry you feel that way." instead of giving advice or opinions that weren't solicited. If you ask for opinions, anything's up for grabs

I disagree. Once you make public statement, it is subject to commentary, whether you want it to be or not. Just ask any celebrity or politician who spoke without thinking and found themselves at the center of controversy.

I didn't read the other threads by this OP, so I can't comment on those vents. But if I read a post that I find objectionable, offensive, or just plain wrong, I am going to respond.

"Venting" should not be an excuse to say whatever you want without repercussion.

 

[HaleyB]

I try to say nice things and give support when someone is venting, but not all vents are equal. Venting because your chemo drugs are making you feel awful, that deserves a hug. Vents about life in general or a bad experiance at WDW depend on how they are said.

 

[CathrynRose]

That has happened to me sooo many times.

No matter what I do, it is wrong in someone's eyes.

I dont think your post about Revlons ColorStay Makeup taking a turn for the worse, was wrong.

 

[poohandwendy]

I usually try to look for certain phrases to determine is someone is looking for input...like if the say "What do you think?" or "I need advice"...if they ask questions, I assume that they are looking for other peoples opinions.

If you are asking for input, I think you sort of have to expect there may be some people who have an opposing view point.

In the OP of this thread, for example, you asked a few questions:

I just wonder why the "negativers" feel they have to be 'against' the poster..... or doubt the validatity of the post? Does that give someone satisfaction? Why do they feel the need to make a 'not so positive statement' or 'figure the poster is the instagator of the sitatuation' ?
Just curious.............

That suggests to me that you are looking for opinions. You are bound to get answers you may not like because there will inevitably be people who see it another way.

 

[MzDiz]

I would have a really hard time getting on someone's case when they're venting about their own life. I don't know their business as well as they do, let them have a figurative pillow punching session and move on. YMMV.
It's not going to help any to jump down someone's throat when they're venting about venting.
Now, if someone makes a post along the lines of "Oh, I can't stand those smokers/nine-year-olds in strollers/pool hoppers/people that have abortions/G W Bush/etc. then yeah, you open yourself up for debate.