VENT I'm just so mad!!!!!

[ManyMinnie]

She needs to do what is best for herself and her family, not her babysitter.

She gave you notice, that is all she owes you.

 

[mommy22pumpkins]

Sorry for all the less than sympathetic responses you have received. I have witnessed and experienced myself in the past there are some on this group who jump on the opportunity to kick someone when they're down.

Try to focus on the positive. Your husband will eventually recover and you won't have to depend on this woman for a supplemental income forever. Usually short term disability pays 60% of a persons pay- I understand not enough to pay the bills when you are used to living on more.

I would suggest cutting back where you can. Call to try and negotiate better rates for cell phone, internet, tv service etc. Alot of times if you just call and say you are going to cancel they are willing to work with you and lower your bill at least temporarily.

There is an online forum called Craigslist- it is nationwide and you can advertise your services for free. A dedicated and caring child care provider is PRICELESS and extremely hard to find. I understand what some others have said that it is not her concern that your husband is out of work etc. But she should at least give you a more clear cut answer about whether your income from her is going to be cut off. I would tell her you need to know her plans regarding this job so you can prepare and line up other clients, advertise etc. ASAP. I'm sure she will be understanding of this if she is a reasonable and decent person.

Good luck I know it's hard with everything you're going through right now. But things will get better. Hang in there and keep you chin up

 

[ssawka]

It's a shame that your not near us. We can't even find a part-time sitter to watch DD after school.

I understand that things might be difficult for you, but as others have said, the only thing she owes you is notice. I wish the sitters we have had in the past had extended us the same courtesy. Most have only given a few days or no notice at all. They always have some lame excuse as to why they have to quit immediately.

 

[sweetdana]

I m so sorry, it sucks vent away..


All the other PP are right.. mom shouldn't be making decisions based on you/your life/your DH situation, only her own.. just as you should make them on your own. .. and all irrelevant still sucks.


I hope you look for new kids if that is your goal, then at least, you can leave her before she leaves you


I am so sorry.

 

[Mama Who]

WHAT??? Paid vacation and sick days for a baby sitter??????? Our licensed day cares don't even ask for that. I can see the closed and late fees and a 2 wk notice but not paid holidays. I work in healthcare part time and don't even get that!

Sick days? No. If my kid was sick, I still had to pay. If she was sick she brought in a sub.

Other than that, yep, licensed, in-home center and in this area, good luck trying to find anyone you'd willingly leave your kid with who doesn't require that. She was a full-time, self-employed care provider and worked 50 hour weeks. I certainly did not begrudge her a week of vacation and a few holidays. She was worth every penny.

 

[goNDmay9]

That really really sucks!!! i hope she was just blowing off some steam and venting herself. Although - did she say she was going to take her children out of daycare? That may not even be something that she was planning.

Regardless, I agree with the previous posters. It sounds like the two of you need to set the expectation of a formal written notice policy.

I wish you lived in Atlanta!!!

 

[LilyWDW]

Do you have a contract?

Are you a licensed daycare or just watching the kids for a bit of income?

 

[Sagginit]

sorry to hear that. my mother works in home care for the elderly and everytime her client gets as much as a cold she panics thinking its all gonna be over soon. depending on how she pays you and how it is reported a contract may not be useful anyway. i would do as the others stated and address her comment. perhaps nicely state you said you were going to give notice at your job, would you mind telling me how much longer you will be needing my services so i can start searching for my next clients?

 

[crisi]

Will this woman not have to get another job?

Maybe her husband makes enough for her to be a stay at home mom if she really wants to. And she might be divided about the whole "have my kids in daycare" thing to start with. So when work isn't great, the "full time Mom" thing looks good.

 

[dzneelvr]

In addition to asking for notice, remind her nicely that you are available to continue daycare while she searches for a job, makes connections, and travels from interview to interview. Chances are she will be aggressively hunting for another job, and she will need daycare during the transition time anyway.

 

[irishsharon]

She quit her job today. So no need for any conversation. I did not put lots of background info in my previous post.This woman was a friend of my younger sisters( I had meet her many times) and they lost touch and then reconnected through facebook, at a party she asked if I would watch her child(almost 3 years ago).I lent her my car when hers was in the shop so she could get to work(many times) I cared for the girls when they where sick so she would not have to take days of. You know what it does not matter, I dont regret helping her.I know she owes me nothing but the last time she was leaving the job was in December and it seemed every few months or so she was quitting so when she said to me this morning she was quitting, trust me she had said it many times. When you care for other peoples children there is a relationship there that is not all business. I was a nanny for triplets for 8 years,then I cared for my sister-in-laws children for four years, then my dh's friends children for 4 years. I tell you this because I have wonderful relationships still with these families.I dont know what I'm trying to say I really only wrote the post to blow of some steam.Thanks for listening

 

[irishsharon]

Sorry for all the less than sympathetic responses you have received. I have witnessed and experienced myself in the past there are some on this group who jump on the opportunity to kick someone when they're down.

Try to focus on the positive. Your husband will eventually recover and you won't have to depend on this woman for a supplemental income forever. Usually short term disability pays 60% of a persons pay- I understand not enough to pay the bills when you are used to living on more.

I would suggest cutting back where you can. Call to try and negotiate better rates for cell phone, internet, tv service etc. Alot of times if you just call and say you are going to cancel they are willing to work with you and lower your bill at least temporarily.

There is an online forum called Craigslist- it is nationwide and you can advertise your services for free. A dedicated and caring child care provider is PRICELESS and extremely hard to find. I understand what some others have said that it is not her concern that your husband is out of work etc. But she should at least give you a more clear cut answer about whether your income from her is going to be cut off. I would tell her you need to know her plans regarding this job so you can prepare and line up other clients, advertise etc. ASAP. I'm sure she will be understanding of this if she is a reasonable and decent person.

Good luck I know it's hard with everything you're going through right now. But things will get better. Hang in there and keep you chin up

Thank you, your kind words touched my heart. Just feeling a little sorry for myself

 

[sharon_wv]

So sorry your source of income is going away. I'm really sorry for you and wish you the very best and hope you find long-term customers to replace that one

Prayers also for your husband as well...

 

[mom2t]

WHAT??? Paid vacation and sick days for a baby sitter??????? Our licensed day cares don't even ask for that. I can see the closed and late fees and a 2 wk notice but not paid holidays. I work in healthcare part time and don't even get that!

My provider was licensed and had these things in her contract. She was worth every penny too I paid.

 

[crisi]

She quit her job today. So no need for any conversation. I did not put lots of background info in my previous post.This woman was a friend of my younger sisters( I had meet her many times) and they lost touch and then reconnected through facebook, at a party she asked if I would watch her child(almost 3 years ago).I lent her my car when hers was in the shop so she could get to work(many times) I cared for the girls when they where sick so she would not have to take days of. You know what it does not matter, I dont regret helping her.I know she owes me nothing but the last time she was leaving the job was in December and it seemed every few months or so she was quitting so when she said to me this morning she was quitting, trust me she had said it many times. When you care for other peoples children there is a relationship there that is not all business. I was a nanny for triplets for 8 years,then I cared for my sister-in-laws children for four years, then my dh's friends children for 4 years. I tell you this because I have wonderful relationships still with these families.I dont know what I'm trying to say I really only wrote the post to blow of some steam.Thanks for listening

Understandable.

She may have been trying to tell you all along that this wouldn't be a permanent gig. I'm pretty sure I'm leaving my job in a few months, and I'm dropping broad hints to my boss so he makes a back up plan without actually saying "I'm going to quit."

 

[irishsharon]

Maybe her husband makes enough for her to be a stay at home mom if she really wants to. And she might be divided about the whole "have my kids in daycare" thing to start with. So when work isn't great, the "full time Mom" thing looks good.

She REALLY needs to work her husband has 3 other children to support and he is a teacher in a low paying school district.

 

[okeydokey]

Did she quit today or give notice today? I hope she did give you a couple weeks notice so you can try to get something else lined up.

 

[irishsharon]

Did she quit today or give notice today? I hope she did give you a couple weeks notice so you can try to get something else lined up.

QUIT! oh well, here's hoping I find something soon.

 

[Allison]

Sorry, but someone shouldn't stay in a job they don't want to be at because of the babysitter.

 

[irishsharon]

Sorry, but someone shouldn't stay in a job they don't want to be at because of the babysitter.

Your right! I was just upset by the timing and no notice